Do you want a simple hack that can help your husband be delightfully engaged—rather than accidentally prompting him to withdraw? Well, pull up a chair and take a few quick notes on what we call the “next-day rule.” This approach may not matter to every man, but in my research studies with men it’s pretty…
I think we can probably all agree that we are living in a weird moment. Ten years ago, who would have thought that the concept of gender would become so convoluted and divisive? Sure, some people would get defensive at the idea of gender differences, but it wasn’t quite a “third rail” in the way…
It seems like everywhere I turn lately—while being interviewed on a podcast, speaking at a church, or even talking to the person next to me on an airplane—people keep asking the same question: “Since you’ve done so much gender research, how do you respond to this hot-button topic these days?” They often follow up with:…
We knew this day would come. That little peanut who was born 25 years ago, who we have adored and challenged, protected and pushed, and who we have prayed for with joy and tears—we will soon transfer the primary care of that beautiful young woman to a wonderful young man. I’m leaking tears as I…
You’re all for intimacy and connection. But your husband is making moves, and you are tired. You can’t help but wonder: Why does he want sex … again? Our research has shown that, for most guys, sex is not primarily a physical need — it’s primarily about a deep emotional longing . . . and…
Standing at the altar in a tux or a flowing white gown, it’s easy to imagine keeping God at the center of your marriage. Always. Forever. Until death do you part. What we can’t imagine is it’s not usually death that “parts” us, at least not in the daily sense of the word. It’s hectic…
