This is one of those days when I have some personal news to share; information I wanted you to know before we got too far down the road.
Think before you speak is one of the earliest lessons we teach our kids, and yet sometimes we forget it as adults.
Learn from the example of highly happy couples to prevent THIS from happening in your marriage.
Now that we’re looking at 2020 in the rear-view mirror (phew!), it’s a great time to share our most popular posts for the year. Some of the top posts were targeted to a particular time in an unprecedented year. But most were designed to help you thrive amid the challenges and experiences of everyday life, […]
Before we cross the finish line, swap high fives, and step into the fresh new year of 2021, let’s take a few minutes to look back and count our 2020 blessings.
Most of us, this year, are far more aware of our utter need for God than ever before. One word captures it all. Emmanuel. “God with us.”
You’ve made your list, you’re checking it twice, and the total comes out to a really high price! Yes, Christmas is the season of giving—but between family, friends, co-workers and neighbors, the shopping list keeps getting longer and longer. And for most of us, 2020 hasn’t exactly been a banner financial year. There has to […]
When we find ourselves in what seems to be a hopeless situation, if we persevere—if we allow ourselves to grow—we may discover that meaning and purpose were there for us all along. We blossom. We shine. We find joy.
When worry comes near, we have to cast our cares on the One who is in control and trust that He loves us with an everlasting love.
If you or your church are pondering whether to do a money management course in January (such as a Dave Ramsey or Crown Financial class), I want to propose a completely new idea for you: We’ve been doing money management programs in the wrong order! Nearly every such program starts with teaching and encouraging the […]
I’ve often written about the importance of generosity and sacrifice in creating thriving personal relationships. They are also critical in shaping how we view our world –and softening our hearts to something we may not have seen before. I want to give you a real-world example of generosity and sacrifice—and encourage you to join in […]
Dear Friends, Yep, it’s official. I was sick all last week and received my lab results back on Friday night with the news that I have COVID-19. It has been quite a journey, as I have been pretty sick for most of the past week and although slightly better now, it seems to be a […]
When you make the effort to understand and honor your spouse’s unique perspective and values you’ll give—and receive—a gift much greater than money can buy.
An iceberg is typically 90% below the surface, with only 10% visible. Does your man ever seem like that iceberg, with so much hiding under the surface compared to the small portion you can actually see? Like many men, he probably doesn’t volunteer a whole lot about what he’s thinking and feeling deep down. So […]
We’re heading into that crazy busy time of year known as the holiday season. And according to the store decorations, the holiday music on the radio, and multiple social media posts of friends putting up their trees before Thanksgiving, we’re already there! For a lot of us, though, we’re just not ready for the holidays […]
Parents, I have some encouraging news for you. Although we’re all suffering from just a smidge of PTSD this year, we have also learned some really important lessons. And I’m not just talking about discovering that the kids won’t interrupt your Zoom meetings if you hide in your laundry closet. I’m talking about some crucial […]
Hello Friends, November ushers us into a season when we are more intentional about reflecting on all we have to be thankful for. This year, especially, let’s keep that tradition and place our focus on gratitude, kindness, and joy. And I am very grateful for you! As an expression of thanks, here’s a small gift—an […]
In a few hours, the polls will close. And for the next few days or weeks, we’ll all have a choice to make: how are we going to handle the outcome of the election? Especially if the “outcome” means flying through intense political turbulence, as simmering frustrations, uncertainties and fears boil over around us. If—or […]
Friends, I am so excited to finally share with you my latest devotional, Find Joy: A Devotional Journey to Unshakable Wonder in an Uncertain World. Isn’t the cover simply gorgeous? The designer did such an amazing job. The artwork inside is just as inspiring. And the 60 daily devotions are sure to encourage you—and take […]
Current circumstances have definitely made shopping a little more complicated. If it’s not with masks and social distancing, it’s online shopping for everything from groceries to mattresses to everything in between! (Sooooo many boxes being delivered, am I right?) But what might have stayed exactly the same is the negative reaction you get from your […]
I recently shared my outlook on the upcoming presidential election, our national discord, the possibility of a drawn-out election process with even more division afterwards, and the responsibility of Christians to point others to Christ in the midst of it all. (If you missed it, check out Part 1 and Part 2.) This is particularly […]
Hi Friends! A few weeks ago I shared some exciting news about my friend and our Senior Editor, Katie Phillips. She launched her very first children’s book, God, You Make Me Feel Special, into the world through iDisciple Publishing, the same group that publishes my women’s devotionals. I thought you all would want to know […]
Are you missing connection this year? Wondering if you’ll ever be able to attend another Women’s Night Out? (Or even a “Women’s Night In”?) Me, too! But I just spoke at a wonderful women’s event that I think cracked the code—and I want to share it in case it gives you some good ideas. I […]
A personal note from Shaunti Feldhahn: Hi everyone—I need your help! As I’ve been conducting research and writing on relationships over the last 16 years, our most widely-shared and viewed blogs have always been about sex. By far. Most of us apparently have questions or curiosity about this topic! And I’d like to get a […]
This is the second article of a two-part series. Part 1 shared why it is highly possible we will not know who our next president is for many weeks after election day and thus might go through an explosive, contentious time. That article encouraged pastors, leaders and individuals to help set the expectations of their […]
In the pre-electronic age, wherever people clustered together and built community buildings (city halls, schools, churches) the most central one usually had a bell tower. Someone would pull the rope and ring the bell as a morning alarm, or as notice that church was about to start, or in celebration. But the most intense, long […]
A friend recently told me about her nephew’s much-delayed wedding. First, it was going to be in April 2020. Then when the pandemic shut everything down and their scattered family couldn’t safely gather, they postponed it to June. Then August. And now, my friend just reported, the couple has booked a date in November. But […]
Have you been wondering how marriages have been holding up during this weird time when we have been locked down? Me, too! I’ve heard many people throw out the comment that “marriages are crumbling under the pressure.” And an article out of the UK was trending recently, exclaiming that the divorce rates in the United […]
Hey friends! Guess what I get to do on Friday? I get to go to iDisciple Publishing and celebrate my friend on a Facebook Live! As you already know, iDisciple Publishing has put out several of what we affectionately call “The Find Series”. Find Rest, Find Peace, Find Balance . . . and my next […]
As we venture through this time of uncertainty, I hope this series has been helpful. In Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3, we looked at the intense emotions that our man may not show if he’s lost his job, but that are very real, and what to do as we start the journey. In […]
In Part 1 we shared the surprising (shocking!) emotional factor at work inside most men that every wife needs to know—especially when he is facing a job loss (or worried about one). In Part 2, we shared several crucial actions to take at the outset of this new journey. In this Part 3 we’ll talk […]
We are facing the greatest time of economic uncertainty in almost 100 years. Our world has experienced many layoffs, and it is entirely possible that many more are coming. Although everyone is negatively impacted by a job loss, many women don’t recognize a crucial truth about how it hits men in particular. And yet we […]
As she finished preparing her lunch, Maya heard the kitchen door open. That has to be Nate. What’s he doing home? She turned slowly. His face was an unreadable mix of emotions. “Well, it finally happened. I was laid off.” Of all the challenging situations a couple faces together, one of the most difficult is […]
It’s no secret that money can cause friction in marriage. In fact, many husbands and wives essentially manage finances separately, just to avoid that friction! And while doing that can be tempting (and I mean really tempting!), our Thriving in Love & Money research shows that handling money independently breaks the very trust that binds us […]
Happy Independence Day week! Independence works well for nations in many ways, but can cause issues in marriage. And we’ve sadly seen in our own nation how easy it is for the United States of America to splinter when the parties within it become their own independent factions instead of fighting for that unity. So […]
In a few days, Americans will celebrate the Fourth of July. With fireworks, flags, and a whole lot of barbecue, we will cheerfully commemorate our country’s heritage– our independence. What we may not realize is just how much this basic American value has shaped our relationships. Independence can be a valuable attribute in many contexts […]
Sixteen years ago, in December of 2004, I met a remarkable woman who drove from Nashville to Atlanta to visit with me. Three months before, I had published my first relationship book, For Women Only, which was quickly becoming one of those unexpected best-sellers that turns your life upside down. Only I had no idea […]
This is Part 5 of a series that looks at the research-based solutions to navigating this trying time in our lives and marriages—and emerging stronger. Feel free to share this with those who might benefit! As we noted last time, one of the greatest needs today (and one of the most important factors for emerging […]
This is Part 4 of a series that looks at the research-based solutions to navigating this trying time in our lives and marriages—and emerging stronger. Feel free to share this with those who might benefit! We all know that money is one of the main issues in marriage even during normal times. These are not […]
This is Part 3 of a series that looks at the research-based solutions to navigating this trying time in our lives and marriages—and emerging stronger. Feel free to share this with those who might benefit! If you listen to the pundits, the conventional wisdom is that this quarantine is fracturing marriages in an unprecedented way. […]
This is Part 2 of a series that looks at the research-based solutions to navigating this trying time in our lives and marriages—and emerging stronger. Feel free to share this with those who might benefit! How do we come through this season with our personal relationships not only intact but stronger? How do we move […]
This is Part 1 of a series that looks at the research-based solutions to navigating this trying time in our lives and marriages—and emerging stronger. Feel free to share this with those who might benefit! All of us are caught up in a natural disaster, aren’t we? Unlike a hurricane, earthquake, or flood, this natural […]
While we’re all working to “flatten the curve” on COVID-19, I want to challenge all of us to “raise the curve” on kindness! We are starting a major 30-Day Kindness Challenge initiative on Friday March 20, 2020; please join us in doing it for one or more important people in your life! (See below for […]
The coronavirus is all anyone is talking about . . . and we have a choice to make. Two decades ago, we had a choice to make in another time of great uncertainty. With the impending approach of Y2K, would we respond in faith or fear? I argued then that this was an incredibly important […]
Today’s the day! We are so excited to announce our latest research-based book! Jeff and I finally tackled that issue that causes issues in SO many marriages: MONEY. The book is Thriving in Love & Money: 5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself—and as many of you might guess, we’re tackling it […]
Every few months, it seems, we head to the movies for the latest adventures of our favorite superheroes. (We will admit that the Feldhahn clan falls into the Marvel mega-fan category.) When our son was six, his superhero of choice was Superman. He wore the capes, his action figures littering the floor of our playroom. But […]
Believe it or not, the answer is not announcing, “A free day off school!” (Although I’m sure that would work too!) The answer is far more subtle—and much more profound. There is so much going on in your child’s head and heart that they find hard to explain, and which is SO easy for us […]
Last weekend, watching the Super Bowl, I was struck by two things: First, of course, is that my childhood football team won! (I was born in Kansas City, and even though I didn’t grow up there, my Grandpa had season tickets to the Chiefs. I eagerly went every chance I got!) But second, during the […]
If (like most people) you made some New Year’s resolutions this year, maybe one of them had to do with improving your relationship with your spouse. Wanting to love the most important person in our life well and “do better” in our marriage is a noble thing. But you’ve probably already discovered that moving from […]
It’s funny. When Jeff and I speak at marriage conferences, or when I speak at women’s events, it is extremely common for a man to come up to us with a particular LOOK in his eyes as he is about to open his mouth to say something. It is hard to describe the look, but […]