A few years ago, I wrote a devotional book called Find Peace. In Day 9, which you will see below, I shared the story of close friends – “Lara and […]
I think we can all agree that in many ways this has been a brutal year. Or three. The war in Ukraine. Continued pandemic impacts. Unprecedented levels of anxiety. Spiking […]
A Note from Shaunti: Did you know that November is National Adoption month? Recently I was looking around the table at our regularly scheduled staff meeting and I realized that […]
This is an On the Road blog. Occasionally I will use this space to highlight a helpful idea or observation from events where I have spoken, or share research conducted […]
A big thank you to Shannon Popkin for her guest blog this week as I finish up edits on my latest devotional, Find Hope! Guest Blog by Shannon Popkin Back […]
Jeff and I recently watched an old favorite movie: When Harry Met Sally. I was struck yet again by a dynamic that happens when Sally finds herself alone at age […]
It always makes me laugh. Multiple times a year, someone will come up to me at an event and say, “Did you have a microphone in our kitchen yesterday?” or […]
October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month – something I take much more seriously than I used to, after going through treatment for breast cancer since early last year. I’ve been […]
“I looked you up on your blog.” One of the women at the retreat where I was speaking this weekend, stopped me on the path. “I didn’t realize you had […]
Not long ago, Jeff and I were presenting our latest research to the annual convention of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC) and grabbed the opportunity to have dinner […]
Did you know that finding rest may look different for men and women? Even after all the research I’ve done, this was a new one for me. And yet in […]
Some time back, I met a mother and daughter at a conference where I was speaking. Unlike the energized people around us, they were quiet and downcast. It turns out, […]
Did you know that an experiment with a gorilla can teach us a whole lot about creating great relationships? Well, not a gorilla, exactly. But an element of a classic […]
Although everyone reacts in different ways, at some point we all have a negative response to something around money—especially what our spouse does with money! In doing research for our book Thriving in Love and Money, my husband Jeff and I found that these knee-jerk reactions often trace back to a few faulty patterns of thought. But if we can learn to recognize and catch those wrong assumptions, we can retrain our thinking and dramatically change our interactions with our spouse.
A man should never, ever have to watch someone struggling to lift her suitcase into the overhead bin, with his hands rigid and tight on his armrests, forcing himself to stay silent and not help. That is a man denying something deep and good that I believe God put directly into his heart.
Our man is longing for us to trust him—and we usually do, in theory! Yet when push comes to shove (or when he is ferrying both the baby carrier and a giant stack of boxes from the …
Guys, picture the scene. You have had a long and tiring day. So has your wife. You’ve made dinner while your wife corralled the kids for homework. After eating, getting […]
So, if in the busyness of the first half of 2022, you missed a few of our blogs on marriage, relationships, parenting, and kindness, you can catch up here!
So much is going on in our world that can make us anxious, on edge, angry or annoyed. But there are also so many beautiful things happening as well.
When she doesn’t tell you something, it may be because—subconsciously or consciously—she is hoping you will care enough about her to figure it out.
First, most female brains are designed to think things through by talking them through—where your brain is likely the opposite. (Most male brains need to process something internally before the man can talk about it.)
You have to truly learn your spouse and be willing to consider that what matters most to them (or most hurts their feelings) might potentially be quite different than what would matter to you.
Although few people go into marriage expecting issues in the sexual department, we need to recognize that sex is one of the top issues that causes arguments in marriage.
I thought it would be a good time to share some things I’m loving lately, especially since I’m in the middle of two big projects.
Most men have a deep, abiding desire to do good things. Learn how to cheer on the dad in your life and make him feel affirmed as a father.
If you are engaged or relatively newly married, consider these steps now and talk to your fiancé or spouse about them so you start off right. Doing so will save you a lot of heartache!
Below are four crucial communication habits we’ve identified for any couple who wants to create a highly happy marriage.
Whether a burden is carried by you, your child, or a close friend or loved one, God can use those circumstances in ways you could never imagine.
Newlywed? Engaged? Read the research-based habits for a happy marriage!
Do you know the real facts about marriage or just the myths? Find out the positive truth about marriage today.
Moms, we can be so attuned to what we might be doing wrong as a mom that we can absolutely miss what we are doing right.
The man behind me at the grocery checkout was on his phone with his daughter—and clearly having a hard time getting a word in edgewise. “No, honey, I—” [pause as […]
Early this year, you may have seen the meme that says, “Before I agree to 2022 I want to read the terms and conditions.” Doesn’t it capture where we are? […]
TV shows and books often portray great marriages but not necessarily the truth for how you create great marriages.
As a mom fully entrenched in the teen parenting season (in the highly sensitive “managing college admissions” phase) and as a social researcher hearing from parents whenever I speak, I’m […]
I wanted to update you on my excitement about that and some of the other key things I’m enjoying now that I’ve re-entered human society!
Going “all-in” doesn’t just help a marriage last, it creates an environment where couples can thrive!
Although in the USA, we honor our national independence every July 4, we are exhilarated by individual freedom all year long. Which is great—until it comes to marriage. Suddenly, we’re in a […]
When you’re around the children in your life (maybe one’s in your lap right now while you’re reading this), keep an eye out for some of the sweet behaviors that draw you together—and see how you can put them into practice with your spouse.
We need to be fervently praying for wisdom for our leaders and ourselves about how to respond well. We also need wisdom about how to guide our kids and young adults through this.
The U.S. Christian community needs to be aware of just how big of a deal the Russian invasion of Ukraine could be.
I just had to share Katie’s take on the time a parent and teenager spend together as the teen learns to drive. A guest blog by Katie Kenny Phillips.
While your man might not seem romantic in the way you would like, he still wants romance! Here’s how to help him make that happen.
Hey guys, here’s a heads-up: Valentine’s Day is less than a week away. Do the little daily things that say, “I would choose you all over again.”
Let’s anticipate the ways God will use these times to help us grow stronger in endurance, character, and hope.
The other day, as I was hunched in front of my laptop, feverishly trying to meet a book deadline, I noticed an Amazon delivery guy out the window. He smiled […]
Do you have a faithful, capable, responsible man in your life? A husband, a father, a co-worker? Like me, you probably know quite a few men who embody those qualities! […]
I’ve always been intrigued by Rube Goldberg machines—watching a complex series of items working together to form a simple task. They’re captivating to watch and you’ll find one of my […]
There’s something helpful about New Year’s and the chance to evaluate what has worked well in the past. I have a feeling 2022 could use a lot more of THIS.
What a year, right? We thought 2020 was crazy, but for me and our family and this ministry, 2021 was even more over-the-top. Breast cancer. Surgery and radiation. Guest blogs […]