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Change The World With Kindness, One Person At A Time
The way we touch others every day has an impact (for good or ill) that ripples outward for a powerful widespread effect.
Is Your Insecurity Making You a Controlling and Disconnected Spouse?
The attempt to control everything can end up pushing away those we love most. It’s a vicious and maddening cycle, but you can get out of it.
Unplanned Pregnancies: Supporting Women by Involving Men
Giving men a voice is a crucial step in engaging those who might otherwise check out.
4 Reasons Why Wives Can Feel Insecure
There are definite reasons wives keep checking in on the state of their marriage relationship. Men–be aware of these 4 things that might be causing your wife’s feelings of insecurity.
Let’s Take Steps to Be Together in Community
We’re all a little fuzzy on how to reengage with the world around us as we come out of quarantine, wouldn’t you agree? We’re starting to see people face-to-face again, and while we can all laugh as we remind ourselves how to have “in real life” relationships (rather than Zoom ones!), we need to be […]
How NOT to Make Things Worse When We’re Angry
While doing research for The Kindness Challenge, I realized something important: when we are angry, most of us handle it wrong! Here are four ways to keep ourselves from losing our cool and then making things worse.
What Daughters Need To Hear From Their Dads
Dads—you’ve been there for first words, first steps, first stumbles. We know how much you love your precious daughter. But there’s something you might not know: just how much your daughter needs to hear it!
Here’s What Your Man Is Really Thinking
If we want to improve our relationship with the man we love, we must be willing to learn.
When the Enemy is Attacking Your Marriage – Ashley Willis
Five actions to take when your marriage is under attack. By Ashley Willis.
Why Teenage Boys Should Be Courageous and Ask the Girl Out!
Guys, to build yourself as a person and as a leader, it is so crucial instead to take steps of courage like approaching that girl you like (in person rather than over text!) and asking her to do something over the weekend.
Recognize Your Man’s Romantic Intent When He Wants to Do Things Together
Most men (84%!) care about romance just as much as their wives do! Romance often simply looks different to a guy.
Cozy Little Fires Everywhere: Small Ways to Warm Up Your Marriage – Ted Lowe
Here’s how to build that all-important connection–a cozy little fire–with your spouse. Guest article by Ted Lowe.
Divorce Rates are NOT What You Think They Are!
The divorce rate for society as a whole is not 50% and has never been anywhere close. Most marriages are strong and happy for a lifetime!
How I Stopped Yelling at My Kids – Crystal Paine
Today we are sharing a guest blog from Crystal Paine while Shaunti is in this season of cancer treatments. Enjoy! How I Stopped Yelling at My Kids By Crystal Paine I thought I was a patient person…then I had kids. I said I’d never yell at my kids…and then I had kids. I pictured myself as […]
This One Habit Will Be Game-Changing for Others … and Yourself!
If you want to be a kind person, the quickest way to get there is to build a habit of praising others regularly.
What Do These Scars Mean? – Taylor Scott
Today we are sharing a guest blog from Taylor Scott while Shaunti is in this season of cancer treatments. Enjoy! Do you have any scars? I have too many to count. What’s funny, most of them are the result of living life big—having fun. Like the one on the top of my foot from an incident at the […]
Joy Comes In the Morning: It’s OK to Resolve Your Disagreement Tomorrow
The counselors I have consulted with all agree: Sometimes the stress of work, family, and finances simply leaves spouses too drained to work things out fairly.
A Letter To Our 2021 Graduating High School Seniors
Here are a few things we want you to know as you head off into your next adventure.
All the Mommy Ladies: What You Said About Being a Mom
I once heard an exhausted mom say, “If God wanted me to really love parenting, then He should have put a little more bling on it.” Which of course started a Beyoncé song in my head.
When Your Triggers Get Tripped In Relationships – Sue Heimer
Ask yourself, what is the number one thing that is putting you over the edge? People don’t just lose it. There is build-up or a trigger. Change begins when we become hyper-aware of our breaking point.
A Prayer That Left Me Gloriously Ruined – Gary Thomas
We often hear pastors contemplate the Fatherhood of God, a wonderful and true doctrine. But if you want to change your marriage, extend this analogy …
Why Your Attitude Affects Others (and Your Health!)
Our attitude is so overwhelmingly important, it doesn’t just impact our mental health but our physical health as well.
Getting Out of ANY Personal Rut
By now, you may have seen this very short and funny video. A video that could be used to illustrate a dozen different sermons, corporate keynotes or school lessons. A video that had me laughing so hard, I just had to hit play about 5 times. Take a look: Yo en la vida. pic.twitter.com/45QYhU670w — […]
10 Ways To Help a Friend Going Through a Divorce – Janna Kasza
Here are 10 practical ways of how to help a friend going through divorce.
Flex Your Ability to be Happier
A recent study discovered that all happy marriages have this one thing in common.
Why Your “Type” Isn’t Always Good For You – Debra Fileta
by Debra Fileta. Finding someone to whom you are physically attracted is an important part of the equation of a healthy relationship. But it’s not the only part of the equation of attraction.
Four Phrases Your Wife Would Love To Hear From You
Husbands, when your wife is facing tough times or is weary, and it’s in your heart to help her in some way, you might think, “If I only knew just the right thing to say to make her feel better and let her know how much I love her.”
I Am Relearning How To Find Rest—And I Need Your Story
Three years ago, I started a new season—writing not only research-based relationship books, but women’s devotionals as well. And it is just slightly ironic that I personally am having to re-learn all the lessons of that devotional in a whole new way right now.
Make Your Marriage Happier By Keeping Score And Giving Back
The highly happy couples I interviewed taught me that the best marriages actually do keep score—but in a very different way!
Finding Joy in the Most Unlikely Places
True community is created by encouragement of others—even in the most difficult of circumstances.
How to Raise a Resilient Child and Why It Matters – Dr. Meg Meeker
Resilience is perhaps the most important quality a person can have, and, therefore, perhaps the most important quality you can instill in your child.
Stop Hooking Up In Your Marriage – Dr. Juli Slattery
One of the foundational truths about sex is that God designed it to be intertwined with spiritual and relational significance. Unfortunately, many believe having sex can be an act as morally neutral as what we chose to have for breakfast.
What I’m Loving: March 2021
Although I won’t do this often, I simply want to point out little things that might bring a little joy and happiness to your day.
Make Sure Your Wife Knows That She’s Beautiful to You!
Men, your wife—at her most decked out and when she’s a bit disheveled—needs to know you think she’s beautiful.
5 Ways Parents Can Raise Leaders – Alli Worthington
Today we are sharing a guest blog from Alli Worthington while Shaunti is in this season of cancer treatments. As a mother of five sons, Alli shares some ways she and her husband are helping to raise godly leaders.
The Next Step in My Cancer Journey
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Psalm 119:105 (ESV) I don’t know if I’ve ever felt the significance of this verse more than I have since starting this cancer journey. There are SO MANY decisions that must be made by those going through cancer. Which ones are […]
When She Wants Sex More Than He Does
Both in Christian and secular cultures, the message we’ve long heard is that men want frequent sex. That’s often true. But sometimes, it’s the wife who longs for more sexual encounters to both express and foster the intimacy she feels for her husband.
Public Statement
Below is Shaunti’s public statement on Sheila Wray Gregoire’s comments, research and new book. File last updated: March 5, 2021
What to Do When Anxious Thoughts are Taking Over
Today we are sharing a guest blog post from Julie Gorman while Shaunti continues to rest and heal from her cancer treatments. Julie’s wisdom in this devotional (which includes one of Shaunti’s favorite scriptures) is a much-needed reminder.
Help Make Your Marriage Great By Being Grateful For Your Spouse
Have you ever been around one of those couples who just never seem to have an unkind word to say about each other . . . or to each other? An “attitude of gratitude” can transform your marriage from good to great.
Put The “Fun” Back in Your Marriage
Having fun together helps couples feel positive emotions, which increases relationship satisfaction.
The Sex & Conversation Series, Part 3: “If My Spouse Loved Me, They Would WANT To Do What Warms My Heart!”
Would it surprise you to know that there are multiple ways most of us have damaging, subconscious, “it doesn’t count if . . .” or “if they loved me, they would . . .” expectations of our spouse? Let me share just two.
Here’s How To Be Romantic All Year, Not Just On Valentine’s Day
My encouragement and challenge to all of us: resolve to celebrate the spirit of Valentine’s Day far beyond February 14.
An Update From The Team
Our team shares a quick update on Shaunti’s post surgery recovery.
Tomorrow Is An Important Day In My Health Journey
Tomorrow is a big next step in this journey. I’ll be in surgery and recovery for several hours. And praying for good news!
The Sex & Conversation Series, Part 2: Sex Creates A Powerful Connection With Your Man’s Heart
Even with many married couples spending more time at home than ever before, we still have busy days, and it can be easy to feel closer to our kids than to our husband. But in the end, many of us also need to improve our overall connection to our husband.
A Behind-The-Scenes Look: We’re Creating an Amazing New Resource!
Check out this video where I give you a behind-the-scenes peek at our new home studio where we’ll be creating our video content. I can’t wait for you to see it all!
The Sex & Conversation Series, Part 1: One Simple Sentence That Will Delight Your Wife
Picture for a moment a twentysomething woman who has recently fallen for a great guy. She can’t believe how amazing he is. Imagine her meeting a friend for coffee the next day and describing the sweet things this incredible guy said and did that made her feel special. Can you picture that “I can’t believe […]
Your Time Is Worth Way More Than Money To Your Wife
What husbands are frequently working so hard to provide might not be what is really most valuable to their wife.
Commit to Your Marriage By Going “All-In”
When too much independence is carried over into marriage, it can create walls between spouses.
