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All the Mommy Ladies: What You Said About Being a Mom
I once heard an exhausted mom say, “If God wanted me to really love parenting, then He should have put a little more bling on it.” Which of course started a Beyoncé song in my head.
When Your Triggers Get Tripped In Relationships
Ask yourself, what is the number one thing that is putting you over the edge? People don’t just lose it. There is build-up or a trigger. Change begins when we become hyper-aware of our breaking point.
A Prayer That Left Me Gloriously Ruined
We often hear pastors contemplate the Fatherhood of God, a wonderful and true doctrine. But if you want to change your marriage, extend this analogy …
Why Your Attitude Affects Others (and Your Health!)
Our attitude is so overwhelmingly important, it doesn’t just impact our mental health but our physical health as well.
Getting Out of ANY Personal Rut
By now, you may have seen this very short and funny video. A video that could be used to illustrate a dozen different sermons, corporate keynotes or school lessons. A video that had me laughing so hard, I just had to hit play about 5 times. Take a look: Yo en la vida. pic.twitter.com/45QYhU670w — […]
10 Ways To Help a Friend Going Through a Divorce
Here are 10 practical ways of how to help a friend going through divorce.
Flex Your Ability to be Happier
A recent study discovered that all happy marriages have this one thing in common.
Why Your “Type” Isn’t Always Good For You
by Debra Fileta. Finding someone to whom you are physically attracted is an important part of the equation of a healthy relationship. But it’s not the only part of the equation of attraction.
Four Phrases Your Wife Would Love To Hear From You
Husbands, when your wife is facing tough times or is weary, and it’s in your heart to help her in some way, you might think, “If I only knew just the right thing to say to make her feel better and let her know how much I love her.”
I Am Relearning How To Find Rest—And I Need Your Story
Three years ago, I started a new season—writing not only research-based relationship books, but women’s devotionals as well. And it is just slightly ironic that I personally am having to re-learn all the lessons of that devotional in a whole new way right now.
Make Your Marriage Happier By Keeping Score And Giving Back
The highly happy couples I interviewed taught me that the best marriages actually do keep score—but in a very different way!
Finding Joy in the Most Unlikely Places
True community is created by encouragement of others—even in the most difficult of circumstances.
How to Raise a Resilient Child and Why It Matters
Resilience is perhaps the most important quality a person can have, and, therefore, perhaps the most important quality you can instill in your child.
Stop Hooking Up In Your Marriage
One of the foundational truths about sex is that God designed it to be intertwined with spiritual and relational significance. Unfortunately, many believe having sex can be an act as morally neutral as what we chose to have for breakfast.
What I’m Loving: March 2021
Although I won’t do this often, I simply want to point out little things that might bring a little joy and happiness to your day.
Make Sure Your Wife Knows That She’s Beautiful to You!
Men, your wife—at her most decked out and when she’s a bit disheveled—needs to know you think she’s beautiful.
5 Ways Parents Can Raise Leaders
Today we are sharing a guest blog from Alli Worthington while Shaunti is in this season of cancer treatments. As a mother of five sons, Alli shares some ways she and her husband are helping to raise godly leaders.
The Next Step in My Cancer Journey
“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.” Psalm 119:105 (ESV) I don’t know if I’ve ever felt the significance of this verse more than I have since starting this cancer journey. There are SO MANY decisions that must be made by those going through cancer. Which ones are […]
When She Wants Sex More Than He Does
Both in Christian and secular cultures, the message we’ve long heard is that men want frequent sex. That’s often true. But sometimes, it’s the wife who longs for more sexual encounters to both express and foster the intimacy she feels for her husband.
Public Statement
Below is Shaunti’s public statement on Sheila Wray Gregoire’s comments, research and new book. File last updated: March 5, 2021
What to Do When Anxious Thoughts are Taking Over
Today we are sharing a guest blog post from Julie Gorman while Shaunti continues to rest and heal from her cancer treatments. Julie’s wisdom in this devotional (which includes one of Shaunti’s favorite scriptures) is a much-needed reminder.
Help Make Your Marriage Great By Being Grateful For Your Spouse
Have you ever been around one of those couples who just never seem to have an unkind word to say about each other . . . or to each other? An “attitude of gratitude” can transform your marriage from good to great.
Put The “Fun” Back in Your Marriage
Having fun together helps couples feel positive emotions, which increases relationship satisfaction.
The Sex & Conversation Series, Part 3: “If My Spouse Loved Me, They Would WANT To Do What Warms My Heart!”
Would it surprise you to know that there are multiple ways most of us have damaging, subconscious, “it doesn’t count if . . .” or “if they loved me, they would . . .” expectations of our spouse? Let me share just two.
Here’s How To Be Romantic All Year, Not Just On Valentine’s Day
My encouragement and challenge to all of us: resolve to celebrate the spirit of Valentine’s Day far beyond February 14.
An Update From The Team
Our team shares a quick update on Shaunti’s post surgery recovery.
Tomorrow Is An Important Day In My Health Journey
Tomorrow is a big next step in this journey. I’ll be in surgery and recovery for several hours. And praying for good news!
The Sex & Conversation Series, Part 2: Sex Creates A Powerful Connection With Your Man’s Heart
Even with many married couples spending more time at home than ever before, we still have busy days, and it can be easy to feel closer to our kids than to our husband. But in the end, many of us also need to improve our overall connection to our husband.
A Behind-The-Scenes Look: We’re Creating an Amazing New Resource!
Check out this video where I give you a behind-the-scenes peek at our new home studio where we’ll be creating our video content. I can’t wait for you to see it all!
The Sex & Conversation Series, Part 1: One Simple Sentence That Will Delight Your Wife
Picture for a moment a twentysomething woman who has recently fallen for a great guy. She can’t believe how amazing he is. Imagine her meeting a friend for coffee the next day and describing the sweet things this incredible guy said and did that made her feel special. Can you picture that “I can’t believe […]
Your Time Is Worth Way More Than Money To Your Wife
What husbands are frequently working so hard to provide might not be what is really most valuable to their wife.
Commit to Your Marriage By Going “All-In”
When too much independence is carried over into marriage, it can create walls between spouses.
This is a Club I Never Expected to Join
This is one of those days when I have some personal news to share; information I wanted you to know before we got too far down the road.
How To Tame Your Temper When You’re About To Lose It
Think before you speak is one of the earliest lessons we teach our kids, and yet sometimes we forget it as adults.
When You Tease Your Husband, It’s Really No Joke
Learn from the example of highly happy couples to prevent THIS from happening in your marriage.
Here Are The 10 Most Popular Blog Posts From 2020
Now that we’re looking at 2020 in the rear-view mirror (phew!), it’s a great time to share our most popular posts for the year. Some of the top posts were targeted to a particular time in an unprecedented year. But most were designed to help you thrive amid the challenges and experiences of everyday life, […]
When There is Still Good to be Found in 2020
Before we cross the finish line, swap high fives, and step into the fresh new year of 2021, let’s take a few minutes to look back and count our 2020 blessings.
A Weary, Weary World Rejoices
Most of us, this year, are far more aware of our utter need for God than ever before. One word captures it all. Emmanuel. “God with us.”
These Holiday Gifts Are The Most Valuable To The People You Love
You’ve made your list, you’re checking it twice, and the total comes out to a really high price! Yes, Christmas is the season of giving—but between family, friends, co-workers and neighbors, the shopping list keeps getting longer and longer. And for most of us, 2020 hasn’t exactly been a banner financial year. There has to […]
What To Do When You Want To Be Anywhere But Here
When we find ourselves in what seems to be a hopeless situation, if we persevere—if we allow ourselves to grow—we may discover that meaning and purpose were there for us all along. We blossom. We shine. We find joy.
An Update from My Battle with COVID
When worry comes near, we have to cast our cares on the One who is in control and trust that He loves us with an everlasting love.
Announcing a New Resource for Thriving in Love and Money
If you or your church are pondering whether to do a money management course in January (such as a Dave Ramsey or Crown Financial class), I want to propose a completely new idea for you: We’ve been doing money management programs in the wrong order! Nearly every such program starts with teaching and encouraging the […]
War, Women and Backpacks: A Story of Faith, Hope and Love
I’ve often written about the importance of generosity and sacrifice in creating thriving personal relationships. They are also critical in shaping how we view our world –and softening our hearts to something we may not have seen before. I want to give you a real-world example of generosity and sacrifice—and encourage you to join in […]
Why I’m Thankful I Have Covid-19
Dear Friends, Yep, it’s official. I was sick all last week and received my lab results back on Friday night with the news that I have COVID-19. It has been quite a journey, as I have been pretty sick for most of the past week and although slightly better now, it seems to be a […]
When You Exchange Gifts, Watch Out For This Conflict
When you make the effort to understand and honor your spouse’s unique perspective and values you’ll give—and receive—a gift much greater than money can buy.
This Is What Makes Your Man Vulnerable—Be Aware And Take Care!
An iceberg is typically 90% below the surface, with only 10% visible. Does your man ever seem like that iceberg, with so much hiding under the surface compared to the small portion you can actually see? Like many men, he probably doesn’t volunteer a whole lot about what he’s thinking and feeling deep down. So […]
What Happens When God Interrupts Us In The Midst Of Our Stress?
We’re heading into that crazy busy time of year known as the holiday season. And according to the store decorations, the holiday music on the radio, and multiple social media posts of friends putting up their trees before Thanksgiving, we’re already there! For a lot of us, though, we’re just not ready for the holidays […]
This One Thing Makes a Huge Difference for Your Teen
Parents, I have some encouraging news for you. Although we’re all suffering from just a smidge of PTSD this year, we have also learned some really important lessons. And I’m not just talking about discovering that the kids won’t interrupt your Zoom meetings if you hide in your laundry closet. I’m talking about some crucial […]
My Gift to You: A Devotion from “Find Joy”
Hello Friends, November ushers us into a season when we are more intentional about reflecting on all we have to be thankful for. This year, especially, let’s keep that tradition and place our focus on gratitude, kindness, and joy. And I am very grateful for you! As an expression of thanks, here’s a small gift—an […]
For the Next Few Weeks, We Have a Choice to Make
In a few hours, the polls will close. And for the next few days or weeks, we’ll all have a choice to make: how are we going to handle the outcome of the election? Especially if the “outcome” means flying through intense political turbulence, as simmering frustrations, uncertainties and fears boil over around us. If—or […]
