A special note for pastors and ministry leaders:
As we begin opening up from this crazy pandemic time, many people are longing to be together again for in-person events. And you are probably considering how and when to do that! I would love to serve your community as a speaker and encourager.
You have likely been seeing a need to support women and men in their marriages, their emotional/mental health, and in their ability to step back into a changed world with life and joy regardless of their circumstances.
We have been doing a lot of research on those things and have learned a lot personally during my unexpected journey with breast cancer.
I would love to share these very practical, encouraging, hope-filled lessons with your people. Please contact Nicole Owens (firstname.lastname@example.org) to explore options!
"Shaunti has an engaging, compelling way of presenting her findings about how men think. It helped open the eyes of women to the real needs of the men in their lives, and it gave men a common language to use to talk about these things with their wives. I urge churches and other groups to give her the opportunity to share this message."
—Andy Stanley, Senior Pastor, North Point Community Church, Alpharetta, GA
Whether in-person, pre-recorded, or virtual, Shaunti’s talks are packed with simple, practical truths that offer great hope. Shaunti provides rigorous research in a fun packaging, with lots of laughs, stories and illustrations. And the audience can’t get away from it, because it is not her opinion but provable fact! Shaunti is always delighted to tailor her talks to include just what you need.
Shaunti can do multiple topics for your event. Call us to explore!
For example, a popular combination might include some or all of the following (in-person, pre-recorded, or virtual!):
- Friday night – Women’s Event
- Saturday morning – Couples’ Event
- Sunday morning – Pastoral Interview during the sermon time
Topic ideas for in-person or virtual events
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Men, Women, Marriage and Relationships
pastoral interviews • leadership events • couples’ talks
The M-Word: Money. It's the one thing most couples struggle with. And it can be the key to connection when it's resolved. Money tensions are not about the money!
Through years of research and nationally-representative surveys, the Feldhahns identified five key game-changing truths beneath how couples relate about money—which are key to creating better communication, better understanding, and the type of relationship couples crave.
Rather than finances, budgeting or spreadsheets,
couples dig into their ways of relating about money—and to each other!
Shaunti loves to share her eye-opening research with the entire church body and to see the fruit that comes from members of the congregation learning these life-changing surprises at the same time.
Andy Stanley was the first to conduct this type of interview with Shaunti, on her For Women Only findings. It has been an important and impactful format ever since.
Shaunti's talk topics work well as a pastoral interviews separately, combined for a sermon, or even as sermon series such as:
- Family Matters
- Restoring Hope for Marriage
- The Elephant in the Room
- or any others
Help your community relationships grow stronger
through this impactful format today!
Everyone is thinking about mental health these days. Divided relationships, anxious finances, social distancing, isolation, health worries—it’s a perfect storm for the soul. Many of us wonder how to heal the hurt in ourselves and our relationships. After all, we don’t want to be moody, depressed or stressed! Thankfully, research has found a crucial but little-known secret to self-care and better mental health: Kindness. Both towards ourselves and others. Every one of us has unrecognized daily habits of unkindness that unknowingly sabotage our relationships, our mood, and our ability to roll with the punches of life…and every one of us can take simple actions that create dramatic change. Kindness is the best medicine for the soul.
Kindness – it’s the secret that doesn't just transform relationships, it transforms YOU!
With the pivots and uncertainties of the past year, many of us are juggling worries, anxiety and stress just as easily as we juggle virtual school, work, chores, family, health, finances, and relationships. In other words: not very easily at all!
Being emotionally, physically, and spiritually torn is NOT the life Jesus wants for us! Rather, living a life of joy and peace no matter our circumstances, is! This talk brings listeners the best truths from both science and scripture to help every one of us live in unshakable peace and joy regardless of what is going on around us—and even in us. With practical action steps and the emotional and spiritual tools needed to confront any difficulty, it is time to move from uncertainty and stress to abundant peace and joy. Even in the midst of the pandemic.
women’s events • weekend women’s retreats
Is there really an answer for life balance as a busy modern woman? Is there a biblical way to find true joy despite challenging circumstances? Yes! And it is a wonderfully unique and different answer for every wonderfully unique woman.
Based on the Find Rest and Find Joy devotionals and the Find Balance Bible Study, this talk is rich with stories and scriptural foundation. Shaunti shares how to discover the individual blueprint God created just for you.
Sample Weekend Women’s Retreat Outline:
- Session 1 – Opening Our Eyes to What Matters
- Session 2 – Living at peace with "all men” – Literally
- Session 3 – Living according to our design
- Session 4 – A better role model
Become the woman you are called to be.
women’s events • couples’ events • singles' conferences •
Filled with aha moments from Shaunti's groundbreaking book, For Women Only, this is a candid and fascinating talk. Rich with quotes and examples from surveys and interviews with over 1,500 men.
Through its impactful eye-opening truths, women suddenly better understand their husbands (boyfriends, sons, even colleagues).
It helps and challenges women to support the men in their lives in the way that they need. Relationships change. Marriages can be saved.
It's the talk that all women need to hear.
men’s events • couples’ events • pastoral interviews
Believe it or not, it is easier than men ever thought, to understand a woman and make her happy.
Based on research with more than 5,000 women for Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn’s book For Men Only, this road-tested message is filled with simple “to-do’s” that will lead to great success as a husband or boyfriend – and to great peace in the home.
This topic can be delivered just to men or to couples as part of a Jeff-and-Shaunti marriage conference.
It changes marriages!
women’s events • men’s events • couples’ events • pastoral interviews
It turns out: it is usually the simple little habits that create the happiest marriages, not the big complicated ones!
Where the “Only” series opens our eyes to the surprising needs of men and women, the research for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, reveals the little things that make the biggest differences to create the happiest marriages!
marriage/couples' conferences • date nights • relationship events
Focused around three core sessions/topics: understanding men - understanding women, and the little habits that create happy marriages.
This candid and fascinating talk series, based on Shaunti and Jeff's research, is filled with aha! moments that unveil the inner workings of each spouse—challenging couples with doable ways to support each other in the unique ways they need most.
This series can be crafted in many ways
- in person events or via video
- as a weekend conference with Jeff and Shaunti
- combined for a short, fun date night talk
- can include interactive Q&A time and discussion groups
- be specific to marriage
- can be an ‘everything you need to know about relationships’ to include singles or dating couples
Encourage stronger relationships today!
pastoral interview • couples’ events • leadership events
Through an 8-year investigative study for her explosive book The Good News About Marriage, Shaunti debunks many of the damaging myths about marriage (e.g. the 50% divorce rate, the rate in the church. . .) and reveals the very real hope that everyone needs to know.
Combined with immediate practical application, this talk shares:
"There’s so much more hope for marriage than you ever realized
. . . and here’s how you get there.”
The topics that are hardest to talk about are often those where a little new knowledge can make the biggest difference.
Many marriages and relationships suffer (or simply don’t thrive) due to something as tragically simple as a lack of the right information about what is going on in the heart and mind of the other person – and that is especially the case when it comes to
- tricky family relationships
- or a host of other ‘elephant in the room’ topics.
This session presents simple but life-changing factors that everyone needs to know.
Leadership & Workplace
pastoral interviews • leadership events • couples’ talks
After an 8-year investigative study for her explosive book The Good News About Marriage, Shaunti debunks many of the damaging myths about marriage (e.g. the 50% divorce rate, the rate in the church…) and reveals the very real hope that everyone needs to know. Can be combined with practical application to convey: “There’s so much more hope for marriage than you ever realized… and here’s how you get there.”
women’s events • women’s outreach
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It's the inside scoop every woman in the workplace needs to know. Revealing what and how men commonly think in the workplace but almost never talk about. For women working in any predominantly male-led organization, this information is game-changing. Suddenly the unseen perceptions of men are clear and reveal obstacles and opportunities that arise as a result.
Shaunti shares eight years of in-depth research with thousands of men, from her groundbreaking book, The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace. Not to be missed, this talk provides women with immediately-applicable ways to remove the unseen obstacles and ultra-practical keys to the better possible working relationships - with male bosses, colleagues, subordinates and clients.
Not to be left out, the men in the audience will gain a new and critical understanding of the intentions of their female colleagues.
Talk Options (In person or video-based)
- Breakout sessions for female staff at corporate retreats or periodic corporation-wide events
- Lunch and Learns
- Interactive training sessions for female staff
- Women’s leadership events
Parenting & Youth
parenting events • couples’ events • public school/pto events • women’s events
Ever heard “You’re just not listening!” after you’ve been listening for ten minutes? For every confused parent, there’s a teen, pre-teen or child who is longing to be understood.
Parents will leave this talk – based on interviews and surveys with more than 3,000 teens and tweens for For Parents Only – with a much greater understanding and more confidence in supporting and relating to the young person they love so much.
Shaunti also delivers a message for public school meetings.
youth events • school assemblies • college events • college chapels
Designed just for young men and young women. This fun and fascinating talk and topic captures the attention and imagination of even the most jaded high-schooler, and even the most busy college student.
"I've got one job here: to save your marriages in advance.” “If you listen and learn, this one talk could literally change the course of every relationship you have from now on.” Shaunti’s opening statements are startling – and true.
Based on research and national surveys of thousands of men, women and teens, this talk opens the eyes of young men and women to knowledge and habits that truly will lay the foundation for healthy, rewarding relationships for the rest of their lives.
Shaunti’s research is nationally representative and compelling for both teens and parents. She is an ideal speaker for public school assemblies on relationships or Parent Association-type events.
While churches are more likely to have the type of relationship events that bring in an outside speaker, which is why she speaks at many churches and other faith-based events, Shaunti is a frequent speaker within corporate America and in public schools around the country.
Her talks and topics can be crafted to meet your needs for your next in-person or video-based event.
Feedback from Shaunti's Events
“Shaunti Feldhahn allowed God to use her to save my marriage. My husband and I were considering divorce (after 10 years).
When Shaunti explained what the man’s core need is versus the women’s core need, I saw for the first time that I was to blame for so much wrong in our marriage. My husband and I have reconciled and are now willing to work on our relationship. He sees the difference in how I treat him as my husband.”
“I just wanted to thank you for saving my marriage.”
“What I learned has yielded dividends far beyond my wildest expectations. And it was pretty darn easy! I had believed my purpose was to make lots of money. But I decided to try what you said for 30 days and see what happened. Within two weeks: magic! We made mad passionate love (which she initiated!) twice in the week!! Big deal you say? YES IT WAS! We had not made love in two years. Things have continued to improve. We are now planning vacations together, going out on dates, etc. Most importantly, we’re confiding our deepest dreams and fears with each other again. I feel like I did when I first met my cute little redhead best friend in college 26 years ago!”
— Male Attendee
“I have to tell you something. I was supposed to have a meeting with a divorce lawyer on Wednesday—to end my marriage. But I’m going to call the lawyer and cancel it.”
— Female Attendee