Speaking
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"Shaunti has an engaging, compelling way of presenting her findings about how men think. It helped open the eyes of women to the real needs of the men in their lives, and it gave men a common language to use to talk about these things with their wives. I urge churches and other groups to give her the opportunity to share this message."
—Andy Stanley, Senior Pastor, North Point Community Church, Alpharetta, GA
Shaunti’s talks are packed with simple, practical truths that offer great hope. She provides rigorous research in a fun packaging, with lots of laughs, stories and illustrations. And the audience can’t get away from it, because it is not her opinion but provable fact! She is always delighted to tailor the topics below and tweak her talk to include just what you need.
She can do several topics in one trip. Call us to explore!
For example, a popular weekend combination might include some or all of the following:
- Friday night – Women’s Event
- Saturday morning – Couples’ Event
- Sunday morning – Pastoral Interview during sermon time
Speaking Topics
Men, Women, Marriage and Relationships
pastoral interview • leadership events • couples’ talk
The M-Word is based on three years and thousands of interviews and surveys designed to uncover what’s underneath our reactions to money and interactions with our spouse. Through their research and nationally representative surveys, the Feldhahns identified five key game-changing truths that are underneath our feelings about money. Truths that are keys to creating better communication, better understanding and better relationship. This talk is NOT about finances, budgeting or spreadsheets. This is a great opportunity to not only relate well to money, but to each other!
women’s event • couples’ event • singles conference • pastoral interview
Did you know that there is ONE thing holding most of us back from the truly abundant life and relationships we are longing for? We are not nearly as kind as we think we are! Even very loving, giving, caring people have daily habits of unkindness that we don’t even recognize, and which are sabotaging us without ever realizing it. After years of research, renowned social researcher and best-selling author Shaunti Feldhahn has identified what those habits are, three simple actions that change everything – and how the superpower of kindness will not only transform any relationship, but transform YOU. This is a time in our culture when kindness has never been more needed, and every person is feeling the need for it. This energetic, hilarious, convicting and ultra-practical talk gives every listener three simple, do-able, actions that will lead to life change for themselves and everyone around them!
women’s event • couples’ event • singles conference • pastoral interview
Based on the research for Shaunti’s book For Women Only, and rich with quotes and examples from surveys and interviews with over 1,500 men, this is a candid, and fascinating, talk. It opens the eyes of women to things that they never understood before, and helps and challenges them to support the men in their lives (husbands, boyfriends, sons, even colleagues) in the way that they need.
men’s event • couples’ event • pastoral interview
Believe it or not, it is easier than men ever thought, to understand a woman and make her happy. Based on the research with more than 5,000 women for Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn’s book For Men Only, this road-tested message (which can be delivered just to men, or to both men and women as part of a Jeff-and-Shaunti marriage conference) provides the simple “to-do’s” that will lead to great success as a husband or boyfriend – and to great peace in the home.
women’s event • weekend women’s retreat
Every woman has been there—stressed, anxious, frazzled—trying to keep it all together. Yet, many days, it feels like it is all falling apart. It is easy to become emotionally, physically, and spiritually exhausted. But that is NOT the life Jesus wants for us! It is possible to experience true peace and find rest for your soul—even smack in the middle of life’s demands. In this encouraging and up-lifting talk, Shaunti shares elements to focus on in prayer and action that will take you from a life of frazzled and frenzied to abundant peace and joy. Even in the midst of the whirlwind.
women’s event • weekend women’s retreat
Is there a biblical answer for life balance as a busy modern woman? Yes! And it will be wonderfully unique and different for every wonderfully unique woman. Based on her book and Bible study The Life Ready Woman, and rich with stories and scriptural foundation, Shaunti helps each of us discover the individual blueprint that God has provided, to become the woman we are called and created to be. Sample Weekend Women’s Retreat Outline:
- Session 1 – Opening Our Eyes to What Matters
- Session 2 – “Living at peace with all men” – Literally
- Session 3 – Living according to our design
- Session 4 – A better role model
marriage conference • date night • couples’/relationships event
Three core sessions/topics: understanding men, understanding women, and the little habits that create happy marriages. Can be a weekend conference with Jeff and Shaunti, or combined for a short, fun date night talk. A conference could also include an interactive Q&A time, discussion groups, or other messages. Can be specific to marriage or be an ‘everything you need to know about relationships’ format that include singles or dating couples, too.
women’s event • men’s event • couples’ event • pastoral interview
It turns out: it is usually the simple little habits that create the happiest marriages, not the big complicated ones! Where the “Only” series opens our eyes to the surprising needs of men and women, the research for Shaunti’s most recent marriage study and book, The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, reveals the process of what makes the happiest relationships, and identifies the 12 little things that make the biggest difference.
pastoral interview • leadership events • couples’ talk
After an 8-year investigative study for her explosive book The Good News About Marriage, Shaunti debunks many of the damaging myths about marriage (e.g. the 50% divorce rate, the rate in the church…) and reveals the very real hope that everyone needs to know. Can be combined with practical application to convey: “There’s so much more hope for marriage than you ever realized… and here’s how you get there.”
Shaunti loves to share her eye-opening research with the entire church body, and to see the fruit that comes from members of the congregation learning these life-changing surprises at the same time. Andy Stanley was the first to conduct this type of interview with Shaunti, on her For Women Only findings, as part of his “Exposed” sermon series ten years ago, and it has been an important and impactful format ever since. All of the topics above work well as an interview, and can be combined as needed for a sermon or series such as “Family Matters,” “Restoring Hope for Marriage,” “Pure Sex,” “The Elephant in the Room” or any others. We can give you suggested questions or an outline, if desired.
The topics that are hardest to talk about are often those where a little new knowledge can make the biggest difference. Many marriages and relationships suffer (or simply don’t thrive) due to something as tragically simple as a lack of the right information about what is going on in the heart and mind of the other person – and that is especially the case when it comes to sex, money, porn, tricky family relationships, or a host of other ‘elephant in the room’ topics. This session will present a set of simple but life-changing factors that everyone needs to know.
Leadership & Workplace
pastoral interview • leadership events • couples’ talk
After an 8-year investigative study for her explosive book The Good News About Marriage, Shaunti debunks many of the damaging myths about marriage (e.g. the 50% divorce rate, the rate in the church…) and reveals the very real hope that everyone needs to know. Can be combined with practical application to convey: “There’s so much more hope for marriage than you ever realized… and here’s how you get there.”
women’s event • women’s outreach
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Bestselling author Shaunti Feldhahn reveals the inside scoop that every woman needs to know, on the common ways men commonly think in the workplace but almost never talk about. In any organization with more men in leadership, women will find this information game-changing as they understand the unseen perceptions of men and obstacles or opportunities that arise as a result. Shaunti will share the results of eight years of in-depth research with thousands of men, as published in her groundbreaking book, The Male Factor: The Unwritten Rules, Misperceptions and Secret Beliefs of Men in the Workplace. Every woman will want to hear this talk and learn immediately-applicable ways to remove the unseen obstacles they may not have known were there, as well as ultra-practical keys to the best possible work relationships with male bosses, colleagues, subordinates and clients. Shaunti will also provide male listeners with a critical understanding of the intentions of their female colleagues.
Talk Options:
- Breakout sessions for female staff at corporate retreats or periodic corporation-wide events
- Lunch and learns
- Interactive training sessions for female staff
- Women’s leadership events
Parenting & Youth
parenting event • couples’ event • public school/pta event • women’s event
Ever heard “You’re just not listening!” after you’ve been listening for ten minutes? For every confused parent, there’s a teen, pre-teen or child who is longing to be understood. Parents will leave this talk – based on interviews and surveys with more than 3,000 teens and tweens for For Parents Only – with a much greater understanding of what is going on in there, and with much more confidence in supporting and relating to this young person they love so much.
Shaunti also delivers a message for public school meetings.
youth events • school assemblies • college events • college chapels
"I've got one job here: to save your marriages in advance.” “If you listen and learn, this one talk could literally change the course of every relationship you have from now on.” Shaunti’s opening statements are startling – and true. This fun and fascinating talk and topic captures the attention and imagination of even the most jaded high-schooler, and even the most busy college student. Based on research and national surveys of thousands of men, women and teens, this talk opens the eyes of young men and women to knowledge and habits that truly will lay the foundation for healthy, rewarding relationships for the rest of their lives.
Because Shaunti’s research is nationally representative and compelling for both teens and parents, she is an ideal speaker for public school assemblies on relationships or Parent Association-type events. While churches are more likely to have the type of relationship events that bring in an outside speaker, which is why she speaks at many churches and other faith-based events, Shaunti is a frequent speaker within corporate America and in public schools around the country.
“I have to tell you something. I was supposed to have a meeting with a divorce lawyer on Wednesday – to end my marriage. But I’m going to call the lawyer and cancel it."
— Female Attendee
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Feedback from Shaunti's Events
“Shaunti Feldhahn allowed God to use her to save my marriage. My husband and I were considering divorce (after 10 years). When Shaunti explained what the man’s core need is versus the women’s core need, I saw for the first time that I was to blame for so much wrong in our marriage. My husband and I have reconciled and are now willing to work on our relationship. He sees the difference in how I treat him as my husband." -- Female Attendee
"I just wanted to thank you for saving my marriage. What I learned has yielded dividends far beyond my wildest expectations. And it was pretty darn easy! I had believed my purpose was to make lots of money. But I decided to try what you said for 30 days and see what happened. Within two weeks: magic! We made mad passionate love (which she initiated!) twice in the week!!!! Big deal you say? YES IT WAS! We had not made love in two years. Things have continued to improve. We are now planning vacations together, going out on dates, etc. Most importantly, we’re confiding our deepest dreams and fears with each other again. I feel like I did when I first met my cute little redhead best friend in college 26 years ago!" -- Male attendee
