Turn Conflict Into Connection
Why does so much conflict happen in our marriages? Jeff and I have found one very important answer. Decades of statistically valid, nationally representative research has revealed one of the main reasons for hurt feelings, withdrawal, anger, and the guest bedroom looking like a much better place to sleep.
Are you ready for it?
Without meaning to, we often “hit” our spouse where they’re most insecure. Picture hitting a raw nerve—only in your spouse’s emotions rather than in their body. When this happens over and over, we often convey a message of “you don’t measure up” or “you’re not really loveable.” We would never want to send those messages, and often don’t realize that’s what we are doing. This leads to so much conflict and heartache that doesn’t have to be there.
There’s a better way. And we reveal it in this week’s episode 5, Turn Conflict Into Connection.
In fact, if you’re married or planning to get married, this week’s podcast is not to be missed. These research findings have been game-changing for millions of marriages around the world, and we’ve heard uplifting stories from literally thousands of people at speaking events about their stories and examples—some of which we share in the podcast.
So, tune in! Learn to speak to the tender places in your spouse’s heart that you (or they!) might not even have known existed. This might be the marriage podcast in 2025 that takes your marriage from so-so to so fulfilling.
There are more details on the podcast below, but first, I also recorded a quick video message to you this week. We’ve been making exciting changes these last few months, and I want to keep you, my loyal email subscribers, in the know—and say thanks.
Always appreciative of you,
~ Shaunti
Episode 5 details:
Episode 5: Turn Conflict Into Connection
Release Date: March 25, 2025
Duration: 45 minutes
Summary: In this podcast episode, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn take a look at one of the main sources of conflict and heartache in marriage—and how to transform it into a source of connection. The episode is rooted in decades of robust nationally representative research, yielding answers that are surprising, encouraging, and can be applied immediately to transform any marriage. After tuning in, you’ll understand the main insecurities that most men and most women face, and you’ll leave knowing how to support your spouse rather than unintentionally nicking their most raw nerve.
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Practical help for Real Life
Our brand new podcast, I Wish You Could Hear This is live now with episode 5! Listen, follow, and share with your friends on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and other platforms.
On I Wish You Could Hear This, Jeff and I offer proven steps to help you thrive in your life, faith and relationships. In other words, we’ll offer the practical help you’ve grown accustomed to right here in this blog space.
You’ll take away specific steps that help you today.
You’ll hear not only from us but from fellow authors and friends (so you hear the good behind-the-scenes stuff!), marriage and relationship experts, everyday people, ministry leaders, and other researchers. (We promise to keep that last one fun and fascinating, not boring!)
If you are interested in having Shaunti bring research-based strategies, practical wisdom and biblical principles to your next event, please contact Nicole Owens at [email protected].
On our podcast, I Wish You Could Hear This, Jeff and I offer proven steps to help you thrive in your life, faith and relationships. In other words, we’ll offer the practical help you’ve grown accustomed to right here in this blog space. You’ll take away specific steps that help you today. Listen, follow, and share with your friends on YouTube, Apple Podcasts, Spotify and other platforms.
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