Why does so much conflict happen in our marriages? Jeff and I have found one very important answer. Decades of statistically valid, nationally representative research has revealed one of the main reasons for hurt feelings, withdrawal, anger, and the guest bedroom looking like a much better place to sleep. Are you ready for it? Without…
This week, I am delighted to invite my colleague and friend, Dr. Jonathan Hoover, Ph.D., into this space. Not only is he a pastor and an encourager and advisor for this ministry, but he is also a fellow data nerd! Intrigued by his research into burnout for his recent release, Stress Fracture, I asked Jonathan…
Remember the “Wear this, not that” memes that made the rounds years ago? I’m taking a page from that playbook to look at five ways to stop arguments before they start—phrases we can use to work with, rather than against, our spouse when conflicts arise. I’d recommend you literally stash these as a cheat sheet…
I’m excited to bring you part 1 of a two-part marriage series, in tandem with the launch of the next season of my podcast with Family Life. Season 4 of the Married With Benefits podcast, with me and Brian Goins, is based on my findings from The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages. Each episode…
This is the second part of a multi-part series on what our spouses need, but may not always articulate. In Part 1 and this Part 2, we are focusing on what most husbands need. Starting next week, we focus on wives. So, did you have good conversations with your man after reading Part 1? Did…
This is Part 2 of a two-part series on how to reduce defensiveness and have better mental health as well as more peace and productivity in your personal and professional relationships. As we explained last time, defensiveness is dangerous in marriage and relationships (friends, family, workplace, and so on). How do we interrupt the cycle…
