The 30 Day Kindness Challenge is almost here!
Starting January 16, I hope you’ll join us for the 30 Day Kindness Challenge to give new life, health and enjoyment to your marriage or dating relationship in this New Year!
About 10 years ago, in one of my first radio interviews on For Women Only, I sat down with one of my favorite people: Nancy Leigh Demoss. In one radio break, she told me, “We have some hurting women who call into our program, and we can tell them their husband needs respect, but given all that has happened, they just don’t feel respect. They need something to help change how they feel. So I’m going to issue what I call the 30 Day Challenge.”
What she shared that day rocked my world, and since then I have not only issued that challenge myself to many women and men, but have tested it extensively in my research. I’ve watched time and time again as other independent findings, such as from one of my great research heroes, John Gottman, have backed up the principles behind it.
Bottom line: I’ve found the 30-Day Challenge to be one of the best tools in existence for helping to restore a hurting relationship or making a good relationship even better!
I’ve added to the challenge and adapted it slightly over the years for many individuals, but this is the first time I’m issuing the challenge far and wide for thousands of us to do this together, at the same time! Some of my favorite author/speaker friends are joining in, like Kathi Lipp– and I hope you will, too!
So starting January 16 and ending Valentine’s Day, February 14, here’s the 30-Day Kindness Challenge in a nutshell:
1. Don’t say anything negative about your spouse or significant other – either to them or about them to someone else.
2. Each day, find at least one thing that you appreciate and/or enjoy about your mate, and tell them and tell at least one other person.
3. Each day, do one little act of kindness for your mate.
This means avoiding any words or tone that your spouse or boyfriend/girlfriend will perceive as negative, critical or unloving (even if you wouldn’t have taken it that way). This means looking for and saying out loud the good each day. (I promise, you’ll find it!) And it means purposefully doing something small that is kind and generous, whether that means bringing your wife coffee in the morning, leaving your husband a sticky note saying “thank you” for something he did the night before, or jumping in to do a chore that is traditionally not yours.
We’ll be throwing out ideas each day via all our various social media outlets, but you’ll come up with many of your own ideas too. We will look forward to hearing your ideas, and your stories as we go! It will be easiest to follow along with the 30 Day Challenge by following us on Facebook, so that you will see our posts in your newsfeed each day! Also feel free to Subscribe to Shaunti’s newsletter and/or blog posts to stay connected throughout the challenge. Click here to sign up!
And if you want a very special Valentine’s Day gift for your spouse or boyfriend /girlfriend, buy a journal and don’t just say your thoughts of appreciation, but record them. Then on February 14, the last day of the Challenge, give the journal as a gift – and watch their face as they see what you’ve written!
Join us! For the next 30 days, change what you think, say and do and watch your marriage change too!