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How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?

Dear Shaunti, You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do guys need to have sex?  I just don’t think about sex much; I guess it isn’t a need for me.  But my husband says he thinks about it all the time, and he gets crabby that I’m often too tired.  Even though I can go…read more →

Don’t Spaz Over His Need for Space

Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared about something. We have never fought much, but just had our first horrible argument. I was expecting him to “make up” with a hug or something, but he wouldn’t. Instead, he mumbled something about needing to run errands, grabbed his keys, and took off! When…read more →

Wives, if you earn more than he does, show even more appreciation

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in creating great marriages. iStock Tip #49: Wives, if you earn more than he does, show even more appreciation As women’s earning power has changed over the last fifty years, so have marriage dynamics –…read more →

Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make

Dear Shaunti: I just got married to a great guy who has always loved my inquisitive, problem-solving nature.  Or at least he used to.  Lately, he has been getting more and more annoyed with it.  He shuts down so easily.  Or if I ask a simple question he acts as if it is the ultimate disloyalty.   For example, our landlord…read more →

Taking a “Second Glance” at a Woman

When I was writing my book For Women Only, one of the subjects I struggled with the most was what I was learning about men’s visual nature, and the fact that even the most godly, devoted husband had an automatic temptation to notice when an attractive woman who was showing off her figure walked by.   Of course, we all hope…read more →

Solving Grumpy Guy

Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type of guy people look to for advice, and he goes over and above his requirements on the job.  But he is often grumpy and withdrawn at home.   He gets upset at the littlest things I say.  He seems to think I’m hard to please, but…read more →

Wives, Think Before You Blurt!

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.     Tip…read more →

Wives, be sensitive to his spending sensitivity

Photo Credit: Yuri Yu. Samoilov via Compfight cc Tip # 43: Wives, be sensitive to his spending sensitivity Recently, a stay-at-home mom told me that her laid-back husband had recently become a “control freak” about how much money she was spending on things. She was upset that even though he made a good income and she always stuck to their budget, he had begun…read more →

Wives, Be Aware of Your Hubby’s Secret Romantic Fears

Tip #42: Wives, Be Aware of Your Hubby’s Secret Romantic Fears Most sitcoms today have a staple character and plotline about men and romance: the bumbling husband who forgets his wife’s birthday or buys his wife a power saw for Valentine’s Day. The audience always howls with laughter when some poor fellow tries a big romantic outing and everything goes…read more →