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Talking to Your Teen

Talking to a teenager is like… It’s amazing what comes up when you do a Google search with those words! Talking to a teenager is like talking to aliens. Talking to teenagers is like trying to nail Jell-O to a tree. Talking to a teenager is like pulling weeds. None of these things sounds particularly inviting. Yet, as parents we…read more →

Real Life Road Rash

With Shaunti on the road and the approach of a writing deadline, Vanessa Snyder, MA, LPC, LMFT, shares from her own experience as the mother of teens. You would think I would finally have it together.  I have been a mother longer than not.  I have papers on my wall that tell me I am a professional; a specialist even…read more →

Can You Hear Me Now?

“Honey, how was school today?” “I told you – fine.” A friend of mine relayed this conversation, sad and frustrated.  After listening to her teenage son grunt out a series of monosyllabic answers to her questions, this mom looked at him and just sighed in exasperation.  She then backed up and tried again, this time imploring him to share. “Honestly,…read more →

Don’t Freak Out!

Don’t Freak Out!  That advice seems so simple in theory, but if you have children – especially teens and tweens — it is pretty natural to react in a way that they interpret as ‘freaking out’, which shuts down lines of communication without you ever realizing it. I must have gotten 20 plus texts the other weekend, it was hilarious. …read more →

You’re Wearing That?: Understanding Mothers and Daughters in Conversation by Deborah Tannen

Deborah studies human interaction through conversation, this time attempting to peel back the layers of meaning that make up conversations between mothers and their teenage and older daughters. Tannen clarifies the ways in which mothers and daughters relate to each other verbally through direct conversation; indirect messages, or “metamessages”, compliments or insults disguised as judgment, etc.

You're Wearing That?