Dear Shaunti, My girlfriend tells me all the time that “I don’t want you to fix it; I just want you to listen!” But that’s after I’ve been listening for 10 minutes! Seriously? –Confused Dear Confused, That’s what my husband thought too! Jeff thought “listening” meant to just let me talk about whatever was on…
When we conducted a national survey of women for our book, For Men Only, my husband Jeff and I learned that one of the highest felt needs for many women was for their husbands to listen to them. Now, every guy has heard, ‘she doesn’t want you to fix it, she just wants you to…
While we women enjoy hearing our man tell us “I love you” often to reassure us of his love, men are not affected by hearing us say, “Honey, I respect you” but they do love to hear things like “I’m so proud of you” and “I trust you.” But signaling respect to our man goes…
Ladies, if you think crying when feeling unloved is an acceptable response during a relational conflict, would you be surprised to know that anger is often a man’s response to feeling disrespected during relational conflict? Pause and let that sink in. Before we clobber the guys about the need for Anger Management 101 let’s put…
Men want romance as much as women do, they just have different ideas about what romance is.
Women often unintentionally push their man away when she’s hurt and upset about something to see if he really loves her enough to pursue her. We can be prickly and unloving when we feel insecure or hurt. But usually what we need in that moment when we are the most difficult to love, is a…
