Why does so much conflict happen in our marriages? Jeff and I have found one very important answer. Decades of statistically valid, nationally representative research has revealed one of the main reasons for hurt feelings, withdrawal, anger, and the guest bedroom looking like a much better place to sleep. Are you ready for it? Without…
You know those big conventions that have workshops, exhibit booths, and lots of chaos? This may sound funny, but I love speaking at conventions like that. One main reason is that I know it will come with the opportunity to hang out with and learn from the other speakers. But some time ago, it was…
After one hundred and twenty straight book rejections, this week’s podcast guest Gary Thomas landed the book deal he spent eight years working toward. You might have heard of the book—it’s a little title that’s sold more than one million copies, Sacred Marriage. This week Gary unpacks the personal realities that led to the…
I live in an older house with a non-refurbished kitchen. So if you and I ever got the chance to share a cup of coffee at my kitchen table, let’s just say you’d have to be okay with kitchen cabinets that have a certain 1981 flair. Oh, and cereal boxes that are stacked on top…
What are the happiest couples doing differently than the rest of us? On this week’s podcast, Jeff and I take a look at perhaps the single-most important secret we’ve learned from the happiest couples in our research. It’s giving your spouse the benefit of the doubt—even when we’re legitimately hurt. Because we all get hurt,…
“Why does my husband seem so ‘fragile’?” The words hung there on the jumbo screens during a live, interactive segment of a marriage conference I led with Jeff last year. Other audience members typed similar anonymous questions, which popped up onto the screen in real-time: The audience skewed pretty young (probably 90% were in their…
