“There are two types of couples in this world.” One of the things I’ve learned over the years as a researcher, is that when I hear something truly important; when someone shares something that really impacts me; I have to write it down RIGHT THEN or I will forget the exact words. I might…
Tip #36: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy. There are times when it feels like some “connection” gets lost between spouses. Long days, busy schedules and running around with the kids add physical distance. And confusion, frustration, misunderstandings, stress and grumpiness add emotional distance. Both husbands and wives instinctively want…
Dear Shaunti, You say that women have worries that pop up in their minds, almost like open windows on a computer. I see that in my wife every day – but to me, it looks like she just doesn’t trust me at all. And it’s become a huge issue in our marriage. For example, I’m in…
Dear Shaunti: I am a female attorney, age 29, working at a large and prestigious litigation firm. I have a law degree from a top-five school, graduated near the top of my class, am smart, experienced and able to handle any case that is thrown at me. Yet at my firm I am surrounded by…
Tip #35: Husbands, instead of getting frustrated at how much your wife chatters, see it as a signal of a specific need for connection. We all know that women tend to be more talkative and expressive of their emotions than men. In fact, women’s brains are usually structured to process things by talking them through,…
Anyone who has read The Good News About Marriage, or heard me talk about it, knows that the thickets of marriage and divorce data are really dense and complicated. Even though complex numbers are my field, I ventured into the deep forests of this data years back with trepidation, sure that at some point I…
