The 30-Day Kindness Challenge is Almost Here! (Pre-Launch – Men)
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The 30 Day Kindness Challenge is almost here!
I hope you’ll join us for the 30-Day Kindness Challenge to give new enjoyment to your marriage, make your wife happy, and have great peace in your home!
About 10 years ago, Nancy Leigh Demoss interviewed me on For Women Only and For Men Only on her radio programs. She told me about a 30-Day challenge she issues to people to help them change how they feel when they need to act a certain way but don’t yet feel like it. What she shared that day rocked my world, and since then I have not only adapted it and issued a similar challenge myself to many men and women, but have tested it extensively in my research. I’ve watched time and time again as other independent findings, such as from one of my great research heroes, John Gottman, have backed up the principles behind it.
Bottom line: I’ve found the 30-Day Kindness Challenge to be one of the best tools in existence for helping to restore a hurting relationship or making a good relationship even better!
Here’s the 30-Day Kindness Challenge in a nutshell:
- Don’t be distracted and don’t withdraw: give your wife your full attention in conversation, at least 15 minutes a day. (And, when you are upset with each other, stay in the game five more minutes past when you want to escape.)
- Each day, find at least one thing that you enjoy or appreciate about her, and tell her.
- Each day, do one little act of kindness for her.
This means avoiding any words or tone that your spouse/ significant other will perceive as negative, critical or unloving (even if you wouldn’t have taken it that way). This means looking for and saying out loud the good each day. (I promise, you’ll find it!) And it means purposefully doing something small that is kind and generous, whether that means bringing your wife coffee in the morning or leaving her a sticky note saying “I love you”, or jumping in to do a chore that is traditionally not yours.
We’ll be throwing out ideas each day, but you’ll come up with many of your own. We will look forward to hearing your ideas, and your stories as we go!
And if you want a very special gift for your spouse or significant other, buy a journal and don’t just say your thoughts of gratitude, but record them. Then on the last day of the Challenge, give the journal as a gift – and watch her face as she sees what you’ve written!
Join us! For the next 30 days, watch how some simple actions deliver big results! Sign up here to receive a new challenge every day by email.