Posts Tagged "Marriage"

3 ways viewing porn harms your wife

3 ways viewing porn harms your wife

Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. Although nearly all men are visually tempted today, and many hate and struggle against the temptation, most of those same men also think of it as a private thing that has nothing to do…read more →

Proof that Church Attendance Matters

Proof that Church Attendance Matters

I don’t have a lot of pet peeves. But one of the few is when people quote the old urban legend, “Well, you know, the rate of divorce is the same in the church.” Which is one I debunked in my 2014 book, The Good News About Marriage. Really, any urban legend gets under my skin, but this one infuriates…read more →

Why the “Married Sex” Video Makes Me Furious

Why the “Married Sex” Video Makes Me Furious

Recently, someone asked what I think about the “Married Sex During the Week” video posted on Facebook and chortled about on social media. Have you seen it? Some women think it’s hysterical. I haven’t found a single man who does. And this vast difference points just how clueless we women can be about something that has a huge emotional impact on…read more →

Two reasons why he walks away from an emotional conversation

Two reasons why he walks away from an emotional conversation

A reader recently asked: “Why does my boyfriend always seem to RUN from a conflict?  Well, not so much conflict, as emotion.   When things get intense, especially if I start crying, I need resolution –but he’s heading out the door.  I try to keep him there, but he says he needs space and leaves.  It is hurtful.  He’s a…read more →

The two most dangerous assumptions women make about relationships

The two most dangerous assumptions women make about relationships

After I finished speaking at a recent women’s event, a beautiful woman who I will call Sierra came up to ask me a question.  “How can I get my husband to do anything to improve our relationship?  He has completely shut down on me.  He won’t go to counseling, he won’t read any books.”  She picked up one of the…read more →

Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last week, speaking primarily to women, we revealed the sneaky trap that will quietly but efficiently kill any marriage: Never, ever, ever think your spouse “shouldn’t” be hurt by something that wouldn’t hurt you. The same trap can and often does ensnare men. For both men and women, we often completely forget (or brush off altogether) the fact that we…read more →

The One Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

The One Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I can’t tell you how often I have heard that phrase.  Most recently last weekend, after the worship services at a mega church in the Midwest.  The pastor had interviewed me as the sermon on Restoring Hope for Marriage, and asked what my research shows are…read more →

Will My Man Love Me Even When I Act Unlovable?

Will My Man Love Me Even When I Act Unlovable?

Several people have passed along this hilarious GIF – but have also wondered why it strikes such a chord to see a little girl’s ugly tantrum and the caption “I need a man who loves me even when I act like this.”  In fact, in a recent column, I explained to men (based on my For Men Only research) why…read more →