Tip #37: Husbands, talk to your wife about whether what you’re working so hard to provide, is what she most needs Guys, every day you feel the burden to provide. Whether or not you’re the primary bread winner, you’re feeling It is my job to provide for my family. It’s a hard world out there, with lots…
Tip #36: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy. There are times when it feels like some “connection” gets lost between spouses. Long days, busy schedules and running around with the kids add physical distance. And confusion, frustration, misunderstandings, stress and grumpiness add emotional distance. Both husbands and wives instinctively want…
Dear Shaunti, We have young kids, and often I’m so exhausted that I just want to go to sleep without my husband trying to start something. Most of the time I have absolutely no interest in sex late at night, after running afternoon carpool, juggling karate and ballet lessons, making dinner, helping with homework (my…
Dear Shaunti, I read in your book that even happily married men struggle with looking at other women and even have images from the past pop-up in their minds. Does this mean that it’s OK for men to lust after women because they are wired this way? – Perplexed Dear Perplexed, No doubt about it,…
Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when I do, my wife sometimes seems less than enthusiastic. In other ways, we have a great relationship, but this is a big deal for me and it really bums me out. What can I do so that she finds me…
As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my research but aren’t directly addressed. Since I’m not a counselor, I don’t necessarily know the answers to some of these specialized questions. So I went…
