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I Am Relearning How To Find Rest—And I Need Your Story
Three years ago, I started a new season—writing not only research-based relationship books, but women’s devotionals as well. And it is just slightly ironic that I personally am having to re-learn all the lessons of that devotional in a whole new way right now.
This Is What Makes Your Man Vulnerable—Be Aware And Take Care!
An iceberg is typically 90% below the surface, with only 10% visible. Does your man ever seem like that iceberg, with so much hiding under the surface compared to the […]
What Happens When God Interrupts Us In The Midst Of Our Stress?
We’re heading into that crazy busy time of year known as the holiday season. And according to the store decorations, the holiday music on the radio, and multiple social media […]
Part 4 — Your Husband Just Lost His Job: How to Respond
As we venture through this time of uncertainty, I hope this series has been helpful. In Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3, we looked at the intense emotions that […]
Part 3: Your Husband Just Lost His Job: How to Respond
In Part 1 we shared the surprising (shocking!) emotional factor at work inside most men that every wife needs to know—especially when he is facing a job loss (or worried […]
Part 2: Your Husband Just Lost His Job: How to Respond
We are facing the greatest time of economic uncertainty in almost 100 years. Our world has experienced many layoffs, and it is entirely possible that many more are coming. Although […]
Let Your Husband Delight in Seeing You in All Your Glory
We recently posted an article offering guidance to men who feel frustrated because their wife is shy about letting him see her body. What they most want to view—what they […]
A Big Announcement From Shaunti!
Hey everybody! I want to announce something very exciting that we have been working on for a year now. This new project is the culmination of months of work and […]
The Two Words Your Husband Really Needs to Hear: Thank You
After another heated argument, Josh and Hannah came back together with calmer attitudes to sort out what was going on. Lately they had been getting irritated with each other and […]
Make His Day By Doing This In the Bedroom
What would you say if I told you that you could do one thing tonight in the bedroom for your husband that would most likely MAKE HIS DAY (or week […]
Support Your Husband in His Battle Against Visual Temptation
It seems like we’re being bombarded on a daily basis with suggestive images everywhere we turn—TV commercials, magazine ads, mainstream websites, and online marketing. It’s hard to even watch a […]
My Secret Project is Finally Here! And Just In Time For Christmas!
I’ve been working on a special project and it’s finally here—just in time for Christmas, or those New Year’s Resolutions! Introducing the Find Rest Journal! This artistic journal is so […]
Male-Bashing: It’s All In Good Fun. Right?
Our staff meets weekly at a local cafe. I love the breakfast food, the kind servers, and the familiarity of our home office away from home. Recently, though, I saw […]
How Your Husband Feels When You’re Too Tired For Sex
As Leslie settled into bed, more than ready for a good night’s sleep, Todd walked into the bedroom and gave her “the look” she knew so well—the sly grin and […]
Want to Offer Your Husband Business Advice? Proceed With Caution
Wives, how much input do you think you should have in your husband’s work endeavors? I recently heard from a woman whose husband runs his own construction business, and even […]
Why your man checks out and shuts down
Recently I wrote “This is what inadequacy feels like to your man” to pull back the curtain on some deep male emotions – and help women see that seemingly “minor” things can […]
When You Criticize and He Withdraws, This is What’s Really Happening
According to Deborah, her husband Marcus has an anger problem, and she doesn’t know how to handle it. They’ve always had “intense discussions,” but lately he’s been getting furious and […]
This is what inadequacy feels like to your man
For a moment, I’d like you to picture a mortifying scenario that may or may not have actually happened recently. Imagine that you’re an author and public speaker. Imagine that, […]
Your Husband Wants You To Know THIS About Your Sex Life
There’s probably something your husband desperately wants you to know about your sex life. Drum roll please! The next time you are intimate with your husband, he’d like you to […]
One Great Antidote When You’re Feeling Stressed
First of all—I’ve got great news! My newest book, Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional For Lasting Peace in a Busy Life, is back in stock on Amazon! We had such […]
Grumpy Husband at the End of the Day? Here’s How to Change That
When your husband walks through the door at the end of the day, is he more like Prince Charming from Cinderella or Grumpy from Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs? […]
What he’s thinking when you frown
After speaking at some awesome women’s events recently (shout out to the ASPIRE women’s conference tour!), I was going through security at a Florida airport when I saw a real-life […]
When You Think Your Husband Is Overreacting . . . Again
“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I can’t tell you how often I have heard that phrase. At my speaking engagements I […]
A Tip for Finding Rest No Matter Where You Are
We are SO EXCITED that the launch date for Find Rest: A Women’s Devotional for Lasting Peace in a Busy Life is finally here! It’s been a stressful couple of […]
Big Announcement from Shaunti: Pre-order Her New Book!
I have something exciting to share! I’ve been working on a very personal project unlike anything I’ve done before, and it’s about to make its way into the world on March 26. Drum roll please…
4 Ways to Help Your Husband Up His Romantic Game
My friend Michelle once told me about a Valentine’s Day a couple years ago when her husband’s less-than-romantic gift left her feeling a bit hurt. She was hoping for flowers […]
3 Reasons You Should NOT Gossip About Your Husband (and One Reason You Should!)
Not long ago I was in another city at a women’s event and heard a group of women near me talking over lunch: Friend 1: “Tyler has been working so […]
2 Reasons Why Your Man Hates Conflict
Women sometimes feel like the only reason men walk away is that they are angry with us and simply don’t want to talk because of that. We couldn’t be more wrong.
Transform Your Relationship With This One Simple Rule
As a child, each of us was told, “You’ve got to learn to think before you speak.” But I’ve seen we need to refine that edict if we want a […]
3 Surprising Reasons to Initiate Sex With Your Man
Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and asking, “What do you mean why you should initiate sex?!” To guys, the answer is […]
Want More Romance? The 4 Things That Should Be On Your “Don’t Do” List
Who doesn’t love a good “To Do” list? I make them for everything…chores around the house, work related projects, doctor’s appointments — even things to put on future “To Do” […]
How to Respect Your Husband When You Really Don’t Trust Him
Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it is for my husband to know I respect him – which I do. But I come from […]
The Shock Value of the Competent Dad
I remember a couple of years ago around Mother’s Day, Jeff and I were watching television one night when we saw a commercial for Publix, one of the big grocery-store […]
Husband-Speak: How to Transform His World With Your Words
Imagine a springtime shower without the gentle sound of rain. Or a baseball game without that CRACK of the bat. Or imagine a world where children smile but don’t laugh, […]
Make Sure Your Man Is One Of The 25%
Ladies, do you love your husband, but find yourself regularly irritated by that little thing that he does? He’s a great guy and all, but Ugh! If he would only […]
The Secret to Living With Purpose Every Day
As a busy analyst, author, and speaker my days are full so it can be easy to lose track of time. As a wife to my husband, Jeff and a […]
How to Regain His Love and Restore Your Relationship
Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 5 years and I love him, but we’ve been arguing a lot lately. We both work a lot and have two […]
Make Your Husband Happy With the Next-Day Rule
Ladies, imagine that as part of your dream job or volunteer work, you are offered a project that is really exciting, and could also earn you a very welcome financial […]
4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know)
Ladies, if you could improve your relationship with your man by applying a few simple truths, would you? Seriously: think about that question. Because I’ve found in my research with […]
When He Denies Needing Your Help, Here's Why
Ladies, has your man ever refused to admit that he should go see a doctor or claimed that he knows where he’s going when he is clearly lost? He’s not […]
5 Reasons To Leave The Lights On For Sex
Yes, the idea is scary for many women! But in my years of social research, I have uncovered many truths that men wish we knew, but they don’t know how […]
Sex and Men's True Hidden Desire
Wives, does your husband want sex…again? It’s not just a physical need — it’s also about emotions. Here are three things he’s not saying out loud when he comes to […]
The Guaranteed Cure for “Grumpy Guy” Syndrome
He’s an involved dad. He’s respected at church. People come to him for advice. He’s an all-around great guy but more and more often he seems to transform into “Mister […]
The secret to being a wife he adores
In the research for For Women Only and The Kindness Challenge, I’ve seen an overlooked, seemingly old-fashioned secret. If you want to be a wife that your husband adores, practice […]
3 Things Underneath Your Husband's Desire for Sex
Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.” We women may think sex is just a physical need for a guy, but […]
3 Essential Things You Need to Know About A Man’s Brain
The funniest movie moment I saw last summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as the main preteen girl character talks to a preteen boy at a hockey rink. We’ve […]
Finally Kill the Never-Ending Cycle of the Grumpy Husband – Forever
Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type of guy people look to for advice, and he goes over and above his requirements […]
What NOT to say to your man – ever.
Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for relationships, these three things would be at the top of the list for “What NOT […]
This particular feeling is EXCRUCIATING for men
Dear Shaunti: My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting a new task accomplished. Like, he’s great at carpentry, but it might take him two […]
3 ways viewing porn harms your wife
Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. Although nearly all men […]
