Identity

Identity

One of the most mystifying things that a husband and wife can go through begins when their child enters middle school. Couples start hearing things like, “Uh, Mom, not to hurt your feelings or anything, but don’t go clothes shopping for me anymore, okay? Just drop me at the mall with some money.” Wow, that…

Want to Fix Your Wife’s Problem? Step 1: Listen. Step 2: Repeat.

Want to Fix Your Wife’s Problem? Step 1: Listen. Step 2: Repeat.

Dear Shaunti, My girlfriend tells me all the time that “I don’t want you to fix it; I just want you to listen!” But that’s after I’ve been listening for 10 minutes! Seriously? –Confused Dear Confused, That’s what my husband thought too! Jeff thought “listening” meant to just let me talk about whatever was on…

Highly Happy Marriages Secret #4: Pay It Forward – The Importance of Keeping Score

Highly Happy Marriages Secret #4: Pay It Forward – The Importance of Keeping Score

Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy!  After years of nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples, I reveal the twelve most important little habits in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a…

2 Ways Flex-Time Moms Can Prevent Resentment from Male Co-Workers

2 Ways Flex-Time Moms Can Prevent Resentment from Male Co-Workers

Dear Shaunti,  I work full-time, have 3 small children and work a flex schedule. This works really well for my family but my male co-workers get frustrated when they can’t reach me during traditional office hours. I’m getting all my work done but I’m worried they’re not viewing me as an equal colleague because they…

Highly Happy Marriage Secret #3:  Go Ahead, Sleep On It

Highly Happy Marriage Secret #3: Go Ahead, Sleep On It

Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy!  After years of nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples, I reveal the twelve most important little habits in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a…

Highly Happy Marriages Secret #2:  Believe the Best

Highly Happy Marriages Secret #2: Believe the Best

Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy!  After years of nationally-representative research with more than 1,000 couples, I reveal the twelve most important little habits in The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages: The Little Things That Make a…