Steps of Hope for Couples Struggling With Pornography

STEPS OF HOPE…

1. STAY IN THE WORD. It’s imperative that you be comforted and built-up through God’s Word.

Job. 23:12, “I have not departed from the commands of his lips; I have treasured the words of his mouth more than my daily bread.”

Ps. 119:9-16, “ How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. I seek you with all my heart; do not let me stray from your commands. I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. Praise be to you, O LORD; teach me your decrees. With my lips I recount all the laws that come from your mouth. I rejoice in following your statutes as one rejoices in great riches. I meditate on your precepts and consider your ways. I delight in your decrees; I will not neglect your word.“

2. GET INVOLVED IN FELLOWSHIP THROUGH A CHURCH.

Ecc. 4:9,10, 12 “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work, If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.”

Heb. 10:25 “Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but let us encourage one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

3. TALK TO HIM.

You may have already tried, but if you haven’t this is the first step to take. If you have tried, you may need to do so again, but this time after you have studied a few verses on how (with humility and gentleness) and when (enough time has passed to be in control of your anger) to confront your fellow believer.

Matt. 7:3-5 “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

Gal. 6:1 “Brothers, if someone is caught in a sin, you who are spiritual should restore him gently. But watch yourself, or you also may be tempted.”

James 1:19-20 “My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.”

4. BUY THE BOOK, The Excellent Wife, by Martha Peace.

Offering practical and biblical steps on how to deal with a believing husband’s sin(see chapters 5,14, and 21), all of the book is encouraging; teaching wives how to treat her husband, especially during the challenging times. She also addresses what scripture has to say to the wife married to the unbelieving husband.

5. SIGN-UP FOR THE STUDY, at settingcaptivesfree.com.

This web site directed at helping people break free from their sin by focusing on the Lord offers a 60-day study called, “A United Front”, to help the spouse of one involved in sexual sin. When you sign up for the FREE course, you will receive a mentor who has already been through the course themselves. This 60-Day course is designed for the spouses of those who are struggling with addiction to pornography or sexual impurity of any kind.

6. KNOW THAT YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

Read the testimony of one young woman who has walked through sexual sin with her husband and has seen him repent and be restored to the Lord. We are praying for you, and have heard from dozens of other women who are suffering, too.

Hebrews 23-24 (NIV) “Let us hold unswervingly to the hope we profess, for he who promised is faithful. And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.”

Covenant Eyes has a great blog called Breaking Free which includes over 400 articles on the topic of sexual addiction you will find very practical.  We strongly recommend it. Use the category search bar at the top right of this link to pull up pornography addiction articles.