Survey Verbatims- How Teen Girls Think: The one thing they most wanted to say (from the For Young Men Only book)

What teenage girls said they would advise guys to realize…

Many guys look confident but are uncertain of themselves, especially when it comes to girls. If you could give these guys one piece of advice—advice about how to think about girls and themselves—what would it be?

Author’s Note: The following comments includes results from national scientific survey and many test surveys. Please note that we do not necessarily agree with all the comments, but we wanted guys to see what the girls were actually saying. Some comments have been edited to remove inappropriate material, such as obscenities.

Be yourself / Be genuine

• All the feelings you feel during a relationship, doubts fears, anything negitive, girls are feeling it to.
• Although guys might think that all a girl wants is the best looking, most popular guy in school thats ususally not true. As long as your confident in yourself but not to the point of cockyness, and make a girl feel comfertable and laugh, she will usually look at you more than if you were the hott football captian. Most girls look for a guy they can be themselves around, and who they know is only interested in them and not other girls around them.
• Always be yourself around girls never act like somebody you’re not cause we will see this and that will be that if we are going to like you it’s gonna happen either way so just be your self
• As lame as it sounds, just be yourself. You don’t have to do anything stupid to impress her.
• As nervous as you think you are, about approaching a girl, the girl is probably just as nervous. So relax and just be yourself.
• Ask if you have a question or concern. Always act yourself don’t pretend to be somebody your not.
• Be able to show emotion, talk about what really matters, just be themselves, girls aren’t that scary.
• Be confident when approaching. Don’t be very cocky just confident. and relax be yourself
• Be genuine, don’t pretend to be something that you aren’t because that only makes things worst.
• Be honest and yourself and if you see something or someone you want go for it, but never expect the same out of every girl. We are all different and we all deserve a fair chance.
• Be more vulnerable. It’s attractive when I know your just as human as I am.
• Be themselves dont put on
• Be Themselves Dont Try To Impress Anybody
• Be urself, dont try to be someone that ur not just to impress someone. if a girl dosnt like u for what u r then she must not like u ver much.
• Be who you are and don’t try to be something that you aren’t. Girls want a true guy not one that puts on a disguise.
• Be who you are. If you’re shy/uncertain, don’t try to mask it. We’ll find out eventually!
• Be You
• Be your self
• Be your self and be respectful
• Be yourself
• Be yourself
• Be yourself
• Be yourself
• Be yourself a girl wants you for who you are, not for who you are pretending to be. Don’t try to push a relationship,wait till you know each other and unil you are Both ready. Above all, keep your body to yourself until marriage, a girl wants to feel special and not just another girl you’ve been with.
• Be yourself and be comfortable with it… we are just as self-concious as you are. Also don’t use cheesy pick-up lines, they DON’T work!
• Be yourself and be honest. girls don’t want to find out later that you acted like someone you’re not, they’ll feel betrayed and trust is something that’s hard to regain.
• Be yourself and do not lie. We know all your friends and you know ours, so when something is supposedly said, talk to us, in a non accusing way. Like, ‘I heard this today about you, and frankly I thought we might have a problem… I dont want to fight I am just asking you so we can talk about whats going on, k?’ And if you expect us to be upfront and open with you, you have to be with us. If you need a day to be alone because you are upset about something, dont pick a fight, just tell us. Hey, I had a bad day, I need a few hours to myself. I like you and this has nothing to do with you. I will call you tonight like normal, but please let me have this afternoon, k?
• Be yourself and don’t be afraid of us girls.
• Be yourself and don’t pretend to be someone that you are not. Be honest
• Be yourself and don’t push it. Just take your time and understand what she wants
• Be yourself and if you respect yourself the girl deserves the same treatment
• be yourself, be honest and caring, and a good listener
• Be yourself, because if you’re not yourself in the beginning your relationship is a farce and a sham and you can’t have a real relationship while you’re hiding your true self
• Be yourself, because they’ll find out eventually if you’re not.
• Be yourself, don’t try to be somebody your not!
• Be yourself, if a girl doesn’t like it then she’s not right for you. any guy that is comfortable being himself is 10 times more attractive.
• Be yourself, it’s cliche but it’s true. Don’t try to put on a false arrogance, it’s a huge turn off.
• Be yourself,especially if you know the girl likes you.
• Be yourself.
• Be yourself. Don’t try to pretend to be someone you are not.
• Be yourself. Girls like sweet, sensitive guys who know who are honest and don’t need to pretend to be anything they are not. Letting your guard down with a girl will only bring you closer to her and what you may see as weakness, a girl may see as real and what she wants in a man.
• Be yourself. Don’t change for any girl because if she doesn’t like you for you, she’s not worth it.
• Be yourself’. Don’t try to act “down” or cool. You will come off more attractive if you aren’t always trying to be like everyone else. Be unique.
• Be yourself. Girls value that way more than lies. Even if you’re not so sure of yourself doesn’t mean that she won’t think you’re the greatest guy ever.
• Be yourself. When you act a certain way just to catch a girl’s attention and then she finds the real you, she might feel gypped about the whole situation. She might not like you for who you really are.
• Be yourself…if you like to be with yourself, alone, then you like yourself enough to share with others
• Be yourselves, girls like that
• Be yourselves–we’ll either like you or we won’t.
• Be ypurself,ask whats going on, sit down and tell them, to tell you how they feel.
• Do not change the way you are for a girl but adjustments such as improving your negative personilty is always good. If a girl is not impressed with you the first time the likelihood is if you change for her, would still want a different guy.
• Don’t be afraid to be with girls and act yourself at the same time. Don’t try to act like another person, because in the end, you’ll be hurting yourself as well as a possible girl that you may have been wanting to impress. Don’t put up a show just because
• Don’t be cocky.
• Don’t be uncertain of yourselves,because plenty of girls will go for you.
• Don’t be worried about your flaws because girls have flows too. don’t be someone your not. just be yourself.
• Don’t change when around your friends. Be yourself.
• Don’t jump into a dating relationship right away, try being friends first, it takes some of the pressure off and it allows both of you to be more comfortable and act yourself.
• Don’t just do something to impress her and make yourself look good. Just be yourself. Don’t change yourself just because you want to be with someone, because that’s not fair to you or to her. It’ll only bring you both down. You shouldn’t have to change to
• Don’t try to be someone you are not, just be yourself and love a girl like you really think that you want to.
• Don’t try to impress a girl. We can see right through guys when they are saying something that is clearly just trying to impress us. Be yourself.
• Don’t worry about it so much just be yourself. I personally find this trait endearing. If the guy has other good qualities then not being 100% confident at first meeting isn’t so bad. If anything, play it off – she’s probably not feeling 100% confident too.
• Girls like a guy that is genuine:if you’re trying to be something you’re not,girls will see right through that. Just be confident in yourself & girls will take an interest in you
• Girls like it when you confident. Be happy with what you have and work with it. They don’t want you to change everything about you just for them. They want you to be yourself but work with her.
• Girls want a guy who won’t deceive them, and let them down as to who they really are. We want you to be constantly reevaluating yourself until you really are secure and mature enough to know exactly who you are, because that is what we strive for.
• Guys, just plainly be yourself. If you are naturally funny, be funny. If you are serious then just be serious. If you try to be something that you are not then that is just a great big turn off for all girls everywhere. Also, pushing a person into a higher level of a relationship too fast and too soon can also lead to an early break up too. I think that it is best to go all the way when people are married and not before. Girls love it when guys like to be themselves even if they are very shy.
• I have something that I want to say to nice guys, especially geeks. Please, just be yourself. Don’t try to be a bad boy, a player, or whatever. And don’t be so shy about talking to us. For me, it’s more unnerving to be stared at wordlessly, than for you
• I think as long as you are comfortable with yourself, in your own skin, then everything should follow. Be confident for yourself and not for what other people see you as.
• I would express to the guy that he is a wonderful person.
• I would say be yourself, but that sounds very cliche. It’s true though. And with me, the most important thing was when a guy could make me laugh. There does have to be some kind of attraction as well.
• If you are uncertain about yourself, girls will be too. There is at least one girl out there who will like everything you have to offer so there is no reason NOT to be confident about yourself. Also, it sucks liking a guy who looks confident and then when you start dating or talking you find out he is totally insecure. It dumps a load of pressure on the girl that is unnecessary. Pretty much be confident in what you have to offer, dont hide it and dont be uncertain of yourself when its unneeded.
• In my opinion, you have to have a sense of humor, but you have to know the fine line of being funny and hurting someone’s feelings. Also doing random things if you’re going out with her would be nice because it would brighten up her day and you’ll get brownie points!! So be a gentleman and don’t be cocky…it’s a big turnoff.
• It can be flattering to some girls when guys get nervous around them, but the worste that can happen is she can turn the guy down. Being yourself is what girls like.
• It may seem trite but it is really true: just be yourself and do not try to impress me. i want the real thing, not an imitation of what someone thinks i want
• It’s important not to confuse confidence with cockiness. To be confident is to respect yourself and feel comfortable with who you are. Don’t worry about being all “manly” around girls because it’s a real turn-off. Instead, girls really do find the “sweet” guy attractive because he obviously cares enough about you that it takes over his emotions too.
• Just be honest and be yourself. Don’t try to act like someone else or try to impress someone by doing or saying things that you think will make you get noticed. Be real.
• Just be sure of yourself. not to sure that you are cocky but sure enough about you and that you are comfortable with being yourself around girls whether it be her friends or family.
• Just be your self and don’t try to impress us with some great pick up line or some great story, chances are if a girl likes you and if we find you attractive it won’t really matter what you say. Girls are first attracted to a guys personality and then to everything else.
• Just be yourself
• Just be yourself
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• Just be yourself
• Just be yourself – you don’t have to impress anyone. If people don’t/won’t like you for being yourself and insist/want you to be someone you are not, they are not worthy of your time and attention.
• Just be yourself and being cocky isn’t every girls type
• Just be yourself and being fun and funny are hugely attractive
• Just be yourself and don’t try to impress too much
• Just be yourself and don’t worry about rejection…everyone gets rejected by someone at some point in life and if you don’t take that chance then you might never know what could have been…
• Just be yourself and girls will be attracted to that.
• Just be yourself and if she doesn’t like the real you, then she’s not worth it.
• Just be yourself and if she doesn’t like the real you, then she’s not worth it.
• Just be yourself and if she doesn’t like the real you, then she’s not worth it.
• Just be yourself and if she doesn’t like the real you, then she’s not worth it.
• Just be yourself and relax. If there’s a girl you’re interested in, be forthright with her. She’ll likely appreciate your direct confidence a lot more than sneaky “he likes you” whispers. Some of us find those irritating. Consider: the worst a girl you’re interested in could say is “no”, and then you could move on, knowing she was never worth your time to begin with. I’d also suggest that guys to be willing to ask the question with confidence without extreme visible cues. Girls can be easily put on guilt trips, and you don’t want a girlfriend who said “yes” because she didn’t want to hurt your feelings.
• Just be yourself and step to her the right way as a women and she should respect you for who you are and if she doesnt then there is other women who look better and they will look at you for what you have to offer them in the relationship as far as how you treat them.
• Just be yourself because if you make her fall in love with you not really being you, then how is it different then not even falling in love with you?
• Just be yourself because that way the girl who will get interested in you is going to fall for the real you
• Just be yourself don’t showing off or don’t be annoying. Girls like to talk to guys who are real but sure of themselves and understand that we are just as nervous and they are.
• Just be yourself, and be honest. Girls can tell if a guy is trying to be impressive or a show off for friends or something. It’s blatantly obvious most of the time what a guy wants and what type of guy he is, so be honest to begin with. It makes life a lot easier, and they are more likely to end up with the girl than if they are trying to pretend that they’re something they’re not.
• Just be yourself, and if the girl doesnt like you for who you are, then you dont want to be with her anyways.
• Just be yourself, don’t be too obvious with a girl that you like her..it might turn her off.
• Just be yourself, I know that sounds cheesy but it’s better than being fake which is such a turn off. Be funny -making a girl laugh is ALWAYS a good thing.
• Just be yourself, she’ll either like you for that or not. There’s always someone out there you will appreciate you for being you. It’s always good to be honest with yourself because you may make a lot of changes trying to impress a girl and she still might leave you anyways and you’ll just be unhappy with yourself.
• Just be yourself, what can you lose
• Just be yourself. As long as you are true to yourself and don’t try and put a front up then everything will work out. You will find the girl that you are meant to be with and that finds you attractive for who you really are. Don’t be anything more or less than yourself.
• Just be yourself. Don’t change who you are.
• Just be yourself. When you’rwe comfortable in your own skin, that shines through and is visible by others around you. Confidence is key, and if you are able to look past any weaknesses and focus on good attributes you’ll be able to attract anyone.
• Just be yourself…if a girl doesn’t accept you for who you are then she isn’t good enough for you… girls are just as nervous as you are
• Just do what you do, she’s most likely not going to laugh in your face. She’ll at least notice you. Or might be interested.
• Just dont try to be someone or something you’re not……that’s more of a turn-off. Just be yourself.
• Just know that girls like guys that don’t try to hard to impress us or be too cool. Just be yourself
• Just like be yourself. you know dress nice and be clean and funny.
• Just talk to a girl, don’t try and seem all macho and cool. Make a girl smile and laugh and you’ve got her, just be yourself.
• Just to be themselves and make her feel that you like her for her. Don’t stare at other girls while you are with her, and be kind even in front of your friends. Sex is not acceptable before marriage but make her feel that she is attractive without that.
• Just to be yourself and not to copy others.
• Just to be yourself not some kind of person that you think you should be like. Both guys and girls are also uncertain but if all the boy wants is sex then he’s not really thinking About the girl. He’s only thinking about himself and how it will make him feel and how others will look at him.
• Just try to be yourself. Don’t put on an act because as both of you get to know each other you will want to stop acting but may not be able to because that was how you portrayed yourself in the beginning.
• Know who you are inside.
• Most girls like guys who can think for themselves, have a strong sense of humor and aren’t afraid to use it, and don’t PRETEND to change who they are just to be with a girl (of course, TRULY changing for the better is always good).
• Most girls really do care about personality more than looks. They just don’t show it at first. Just because she doesn’t seem interested at first doesn’t mean she won’t warm up to you later.
• Most of the time girls are just as scared as you are,just be yourself.
• My advice is to always be yourself. Never try to act differently just to impress a girl. Just be thoughtful and always think about how your actions will affect her. Honesty and compassion is all you’ll need to impress the right girl, the nice girl.
• My advice would be don’t envision every girl the same way. Everyone’s different and I believe girls like to be treated as individuals. Also don’t mold yourself into one form, it’ll get you in a lot of trouble in the long run. Be flexible to a girls wants and needs.
• Some girls just like to be themselves and take their time in a relationship. Dont push them into anything that they dont want to do and dont make them feel like they have to do it. Its better to just show you love them in a nonsexual way.
• Sometimes guys seem nervous, and some girls think it is attractive. I’ve always thought a little nervousness was a compliment. Don’t hide your feelings :]
• Stay confident and true to your own personality – there’s always someone out there that is going to love you for you. Don’t be fake.
• Take a chance, but be yourself and don’t try to be “cool”. Just be a real person
• Take your time and love yourself.
• There will always be a girl out there that will love you the way you are…so even if you get turned down you shouldn’t doubt yourself. Every girl has different taste.
• They just need to be themselves without putting up a front, because if they do, they’ll have a harder time trying to keep that front up and the girl will probably figure it out and be mad.
• To be confident, even if you don’t think your attractive, just be yourself, and the girls will come rushing to you.
• To just be themselves, quit trying to show off to your friends
• TO NOT THINK ABOUT BEING CONFIDENT BUT JUST BE THEMSELVES FREELY…
• Treat them as people and be yourself.
• Try to be yourself, if a girl really likes you there is no need to be fake or try to impress her and if a girl really likes you,she won’t try to change your image for other people’s opinions
• We are just as unsure of ourselves as you are but you don’t always have to hide it. We all need to learn to be confident in our own lives before we try to fake that confidence for others.
• Well for one, never be uncertain, a female is a person and u should never feel shy or anything like that around them, be yourself, thats what females like.
• We’re all people just be yourself and if that isn’t enough then she isn’t right for you
• When you are trying to impress a girl, you don’t have to be perfect – just be yourself. That is the best person you can be. Girls don’t like guys that are trying to impress them by being some other person, we like the real you.
• When you around a girl, be yourself, don’t act all bad. Treat girls with respect and not as some conquest
• When you go out looking for a significant other, most times you come back empty handed. But once you stop looking and focus on being your self, women will see that and find the true you attractive.
• When you’re first talking to a girl, being shy and cautious is cute. If she has given you some signal that she is interested in you, you should open up a little more. Never say anything cocky that you don’t actually mean. That will make her think the wrong thing about you and maybe ruin your chances. Make sure you’re not too cautions though, because then she might think you’re too weak and won’t be very protective of her.
• You are very fine to me inside and out, you just need to step back and take a look at yourself.
• You may not believe this but girls are alot like guys in their own little way so if your nervous dont be shes probably just as nervous as you are

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Be confident

• A guy who is confident in himself is much more attractive. Girls are probably just as nervous as you are when you’re approaching them, so keep in mind that you’re probably in the same boat as they are.
• A lot of girls feel uncertain sometimes too. If you hold your head up and have a posture of confidence you will began to feel confident. In my opinion the worse that you can hear is no, so don’t be afraid to approach a girl because she will appreciate the
• Be as confident as you can.
• Be confident and let your true feelings be known. Also be truthful because finding out something later (ie cheating) is worse
• Be confident but not cocky.
• Be confident in who you are.
• Be confident in yourself. Just think of girls as a guy, just longer hair & really pretty, don’t make talking to a girl harder than it really is.
• be confident, and if you get turned down just think that the girl is missing out on a lot, and she’s not worth the time. there are plenty of other girls out there.
• Be confident, who cares what other people think, just be yourself
• Be confident. Girls will be flattered if you show that you are attracted to them.
• Be more confident, never let us see you sweat the small stuf!
• Be nice, but show that you are confident especially in the beginning.
• Call me old fashioned but sometimes I want it to be like the old romance novels where the confident stud comes up to a girl and kisses her and takes her breath away.
• Carry yourself in a well respected manner. Know what you want in life as far as goals, and dreams.
• Confidence and self-validation are key. If you are at peace with yourself, you are at peace with others and have no fear. True love will follow.
• Confidence is a positive thing. Believe in your self on the inside and it will show through on the outside.
• Do what makes you most comfortable without being a jerk. Girls appreciate confidence, but don’t overdue it. A good conversation that makes someone laugh and want to share in the conversation is good way to catch a girl’s interest.
• Don’t act like you know everything. It’ll make you look insecure. Don’t change yourself just to impress a girl – be confident in who you are and you’ll be more atractive.
• Don’t be intimadated by a girl because they are useually more self confident than you are. Try your best to have an actual conversation: expect nothing and hope for everything.
• Don’t be overconfident, but always be kind to people in general and you will attract more girls not only as friends but girlfriends.
• Don’t be shy, be honest and share how you really feel.
• Don’t be too clingy or over-bearing.
• Don’t force themselves upon a girl, take it slow. if she likes you she will let you know. And please stop pretending that you are all that around a girl, like you are so popular, that does not matter. just be yourself.
• Don’t go after a girl until you are all okay with yourself and your life. Until you are happy with yourself you are not ready to pursue a relationship. Don’t ever think you are not good enough. If a woman makes you feel like you are not good enough, you are going after the wrong woman. Have self-respect and have respect for her.
• Don’t hesitate in asking, you might lose your chance.
• Dont worry girls are as uncertain as you are.
• Fake it ’til you make it (confidence that is).
• Feel positive and self confident. Girls love boys who are true to themselves, because it shows you have no lies to hide from them.
• Girls also feel uncertain of themselves.
• Girls are just as shy & nervous as boys are.
• Girls are just as shy as you are. If you want to approach us, try to be confident (even if you have to pretend), but just don’t be cocky.
• Girls are not as hard to approach if you don’t come off to strong but still have confidence
• Girls are really not much different than you guys. Just imagine she’s one of the guys so you can be as confident as you can possibly be.
• Girls are self-conscious even if they appear completely confident. Girls want to feel protected and safe. They want attention from males and special attention from a significant other.
• Girls can tell if you are uncertain about yourself, so if you act confident.. even if you are not, it makes you look better
• Girls don’t like indecisive guys. That’s why they go for the “bad boy.” So be the bad boy without actually being bad — without being rude and cheating.
• Girls will ultimately find you more attractive when you are sure of yourself and insecurities are at a low. If you really like someone, boldness is something to be admired with girls, it shows you really like them and will strengthen your chances in accep
• Guys should be more confident, trying too hard can be a real turn off. Although too much confidence can sometimes seem cocky. Also you should really be yourself, many relationships are ruined upon finding out that someone is totally different than the per
• Guys, you need to be concerned with building your strength and character first. Only when you feel that you’re ready to take on a romantic relationship with a girl should you pursue one. Here’s what you’re going to need in order to get and keep a girl you really want: 1) Great courage and inner strength that you’re willing to give sacrificially to her. 2) A willingness to really pursue her. 3) A willingness to continue to pour yourself into your relationship with her even when what you have doesn’t seem to be enough for her. Once you have all of these things, you then need to look for a girl that you consider worth fighting for. Only then will you be fulfilled in your relationships with the opposite sex.
• I never knew guys could be unsure about themselves until my current boyfriend. He was a part of the same “clique” as me so we would be at the same partys and such. I had liked him for some time and surprisingly one night he told me (online) that he liked
• If you feel that you look confident be the whole package and feel confident inside too. That is really the only thing that matters. Be persistant and try unique things that will get a girls attention. Don’t send someone else to try and get a phone numb
• If you find a girl you like than don’t wait around, make a move. if u want to know if a girl is into you look for a couple things, 1 she takes glances in your direction a lot, 2 for some reason she seems to want to hang out with you more, even when its so
• If you like a girl, do something about it. There really is no harm in trying.
• It is more of a turn on to be confident, even if she turns you down, you’re more likely to get a better responce from confidence than fear.
• It isn’t about how you look, it’s about the vibe you give off. If you’re confidant (or at least can fake it really well) and give off a care free vibe, you’ve got the girl. Seriously you don’t need to go all out to impress us, hold down a conversation, s
• Just be confident with your unique qualities as a person. Girls really like confidence in guys (not cockiness though) and as long as you have the confidence to back up what you have to offer as a person, then you will gain more attention from girls.
• Just have the confidence that a perfect guy would have and everything else should go right ;p
• Just put yourself out there respectivly. Approach woman, even if your shy or uncertain, and see where it goes. If she doesnt go for you then its not the end of the world. Chance’s are you wont even see her again.
• Most girls are just as unsure of themselves as guys are, everyone puts up a confident front, but there’s usually some little part that’s scared about the other person’s reaction.
• Most of the time girls would rather have a guy come up and start the conversation. We are afraid of rejection if we go up to guys. We want a lot of guys to like us but are to shy to say so.
• Never feel like you’re not good enough for a girl. Girls feel the same way and believing in yourself is so important to getting what you want. Have confidence in yourself and have faith in the possibilities that are out there.
• Please be confident and a girl will fall over heels for you
• Pretend to be 100% confident..get over being afraid
• Show your true feelings
• Take the chance to get to know the girl to find if there is something in common that might be a tie between the two of you. Most girls are just as unsure of themselves where confidence is concerned, although they may come across as being confident.
• Talk to us girls, we will not bite.
• The girl is most likely feeling the same way you are. You should always try because the worst she can say is “no”. You never know something wonderful might happen.
• The most important thing is confidence. Only by trusting each other the relationship between them would progress. They should always asks question to her partner, to fix something that seems wrong or to make sure he understands her since most of the tim
• Tread carefully – keep up the appearance of assurance (sans cockiness) but be on guard for the girls that are just not interested no matter how persistent or self-assured you appear If the girl *is* interested, she’ll let you know (i.e. she’ll definitely
• What you think of yourself ultimately determines who your are. But who you are can only be good enough for one person.
• When it comes to dating and aproaching someone girls are just as nervous and really do want to be approached.
• When it comes to dating, there will be let-downs. You CANNOT allow a girl to dictate how you think of yourself. I know that as a man, girls’ opinions of you matter intensely, but you MUST realize that it is not their opinion that counts, only the Lord’s
• When you first meet a girl and are attracted to her, you just have to be really confident and be really sweet and make interesting conversation with her and let her know that you think she is beatiful. Thats how I fall for a guy easily.
• When you’re uncertain with yourself, we become uncertain with you. Deep down, every girl wants a man that can take the lead and take care of her. The uncertainty that you present can also make us uncertain of your character. If you aren’t confident, how do we know you aren’t pretending to be somebody you’re not?
• You should always have confidence in yourself. If you don’t, that can be turn off to some females and you could miss out on dating a girl that could possibly be your life long partner.

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Be honest

• Always be confident in yourself..If you are unconfident we are wondering what really lies beneath your exterior..Say and do nice things for us we like it
• Always be honest with a girl no matter what. Don’t push her to do anything she isn’t ready for. Always be thoughtful and think about not only your needs, but hers as well.
• Be honest and respectful
• Be honest and straight forward
• Be honest and talk to your girlfriend like an intelligent human being. Boyfriends who act like we are smart are the only ones worth staying with for any time at all. Talk to us! We want to know what is going on.
• Be honest with yourself and your feelings and that will probably help you be honest with girls.
• Be honest, and if she’s right for you, it will click!
• Be honest, tell her you are nervous, it shows that she is special enough to you that you get nervous but still want to try.
• Be more honest
• Devotion is important. It’s basic human need to feel loved, needed, and appreciated, and your attachment to her gives her confidence. Honesty is invaluable- I put both the level of how honest I can be with him and of how honest he can be with me above everything else in considering a relationship.
• Don’t take advantage of the way she feels for you. If she loves you, and you love her, don’t take advantage of the fact that she is willing to drop everything for you, or that she helps you, and so on. Taking advantage of her love is the worst thing you can do to a girl.
• Don’t try so hard. Girls are usually waiting for the guy to approach them and when you do, usually the results will be positive. If not, there is no reason for you to stop trying.
• Girls want you to be honest with yourself and the girls. Be smart, cautious, and respect girls as your peers. It’s okay to be smart and happy and likeable. Just don’t let it go to your head.
• Girls want you to be honest with yourself and the girls. Be smart, cautious, and respect girls as your peers. It’s okay to be smart and happy and likeable. Just don’t let it go to your head.
• I am not sure what you mena but, I think that honest is the best trait that a boy could have. Honest about how he feels and what he wants in a relationship
• I would say that some girls are not that for sure about themselves and that they need someone they can trust and not someone that will use it and hurt them. Girls need someone that will be there when something gets bad, and not to try to have sex. To have an emotional connection raither then a sexual one.
• If you are genuinely interested in getting to know a girl, let her know. If she is a kind and decent person, she will find it endearing, and your attention and your compliments will make her feel good. If she is unresponsive, thank goodness you saved yourself some time!
• If you are interested in a girl, be honest but think before you speak. Don’t be too upfront or cocky.
• Just be honest
• Just to tell girls the truth, never lie to them. That’s something that never goes over. And don’t be too over-bearing. girls still like to recieve flowers & candy on first dates, specially if you think it could go somewhere.
• Relax and be yourself. Don’t deceive someone into falling in love with someone that you are not. The truth will eventually come out.
• Remember to always be honest with yourself and girls because nothing destroys a relationship faster than distrust.
• Sense of humor means a lot. Never cheat on a girl and always be honest. Dont humilate her in front of people and treat her nicely. Pay attention to what she says, and surprise her sometimes. This will get you far.
• Tell the girl exactly what your feeling… confess that you are nervous or whatever. It would be cute and complementary to me that I made you nervous. Just don’t go off the Deep end and rant about how uncomfortable you are- that would be very unattractive.
• That girls can be difficult to understand at times. I think most girls just want someone who is going to be honest and kind. In my experience, guys can be just as hormonal as most girls. It’s really all about just talking it out and being honest with us.
• Trust and love is the best way to make a woman feel safe and happy. Always be sincere and caring to ensure a good relationship will last.

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Be considerate

• Be assertive.
• Be kind.
• Be understanding and gentle.
• Communicate with the girl and tell her she’s special. That usually works!
• Don’t be overly protective.
• Don’t pressure her to have sex, if u do she will regret it later.
• Don’t think that girls are just on this earth for one thing i.e sex. show them you love them and care for them. try to be more affectionate than before. A girls world is basically built on her feelings. When she talks to you thats all her feelings and emotions talking.
• Everyone needs to feel loved and wanted.
• Girls are emotional and sensitive, if you dont want to date someone that is emotional and sensitive then don’t date.
• Girls are just as uncertain of themselves. Although, it may be more obvious. When you get to know a girl, you should open up to her, and she will do the same for you.
• Girls are people just like you and they want many of the same things. The most important thing is to be honest and genuine and to pursue relationships with people you care about that have lasting value.
• Girls are very emotional and they are nothing like you. They are way different
• GIrls can be really dramatic, but they really like little romantic things. Like, opening the door, flowers, and things like that
• Girls want to feel like they’re loved and protected by a guy, we don’t want to feel like your play toy that you eventually get tired of and forget.
• Give her a flower just because it’s wednesday
• Guys need to be gentlemen treat all girls with respect, whether they like the girl or not. Rude guys are a complete turn on off to girls wanting a serious relationship.
• Guys should try to understand that not all girls are here for sex. Most girls like to have conversations and playful time in their relationships. Don’t try to have sex.
• Hold the door for her. When a guy holds a door for me, whether it is my boyfriend or a stranger, it makes my day. Simple acts of kindness go a long way.
• How ever you see yourself if how you will be seen by a girl. If you think you’re hot stuff, then she’ll see you as being hot stuff.
• If you like a certain girl, compliment her but not in a lust way. Tell her that she looks good today, or smile and flirt with her. Show her that you can take care of yourself and her for example I told a guy that I was thirsty one day and he left and brought me some water.
• It’s not all about sex and don’t make it seem that way. Just show that you truly want to be with her, to have her company, even if all you do is watch a movie in silence. Just that fact that you call and ask, “how did you sleep? how is your day?” shows that you care.
• Just be confident with who you are. If a girl can’t accept you for who you are, then she is not worth pursuing as a friend or a girlfriend.
• Just bear in mind girls are gentle creatures.
• Listen, Talk, and Learn.
• Make her smile
• Make positive comments and give her compliments about herself. A girl needs all the confidence she can get.
• Most girls are very insecure about their image, compliment them in a non-vulgar way, flash a smile, do something to make her feel like she’s beautiful.
• Really care about how they feel and wand to be treated. Not ALL girls are the same and won’t become extremely attached and want to keep tabs on their man. Some girls actually just want to have a fun and friendly relationship where both can have fun.
• Remember to always respect a girl and listen to what she has to say. But also remember that she is human and so if you want her to understand you, you must let her know.
• Sex isn’t everything.
• Stop acting like boys are the only ones with feelings that matter and can’t make mistakes.
• Think about us as human being not walking skirts. We have feelings, needs and a life. I have parents that are very strict, and they decide where I go and what I can wear, girls my age don’t always have freedom
• To consider the girls feelings, and not provide all details of relationship to their buddies, some things are just meant for you and him to know.
• Treat every girl like the princess she is. You dont have to be confident all the time its okay to express your true emotions.
• Treat women like princesses. They are fragile sometimes. And love a woman, regardless of her looks, height or girth.
• We are not just objects. We are people. Think about what you want, and feel and think, and apply it to the girl you’re thinking about. We feel too, and are, in fact, probably more sensitive about how we look, and how you think we look. Also, don’t pressur
• Well, most of the time girls don’t care if they are good looking or captain of the football team, what we are looking for is a guy who can treat us right, is shy, and yet takes his time to come talk to us. Thats tells us, that he really likes us, and that he is considerate.
• We’re about as insecure as you are. try to make up feel pretty. it gets you huge brownie points
• When a girl says stop, you must stop. Do not ever push a girl. Treat your girlfriend like a princess and don’t look at other girls while you are with her. We are teenagers, we are not adults and do not need to have sex to prove our love. Just be nice and treat us with respect.
• When it all comes down to it, guys and girls are just judging each other sometimes and trying hard to get them to notice each other and actually, I think that if a guy really likes a girl and he has no clue what to do, don’t act cocky around her.

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Don’t rush into dating – be friends first

• At first just treat us as one of your friends and become more comfortanle with the siTuation.
• Don’t always look at girls as a potential hook-up or relationship. It seems like a lot of guys don’t give girls the time of day if they don’t want them sexually. Girls can make good friends too.
• Don’t ask “the guys” for advice on girls… they know probably as much as you do. Make sure you are friends with the girl first, that way you know you can hang out with all your friends and not wonder if she is ok with hanging out with your friends. If you don’t know many of her friends, try to become friends with them. that way if you need help on what to get her for a gift or what you should do for a surprise or if something is wrong, you can ask them. and yes, they will tell the girl but it shows that have concern for her and that you want to help.
• Don’t push to fast. Relax and take time to get to know each other and yourself. Be a friend first.
• Don’t try and look for sex in a girl. Just become friends and find out if a girl likes you before you pursue a relationship. There are some girls out there who are not having sex until marriage and I am one of them just because I am Catholic and that is
• Forget how much you really like the girl, approach her as a friend so you will be less nervous. Think of yourself as someone who would be a good catch, you will seem confident and relaxed but not cocky.
• Get to know the girl so u can talk to her easily find out wat she likes and go from ther.
• Girls are human beings, not aliens. As with any guy you will earn the most points with them by being friendly, considerate, and engaging. It’s not all about looks and athletic ability.
• Girls are people just like you. Most girls will appriciate it if you just treat them reguarly. It’s important to have self-confidence, but arrogance can become annoying. If you just think of girls as normal people who deserve respect, you should have no problem.
• Girls are people too. Just think of us as one of the guys.
• Guys…talk to the girl…that is the only way you will get to know her and find how where she is coming from. It doesn’t hurt to talk and be friends and who knows…it could lead to a relationship.
• If you like a girl, just talk to her and get to know her. Nothing is more endearing than knowing that a guy actually cares about you. Don’t worry about being completely macho or assertive- just try to be a good person first, and if a romantic relationship is meant to be, it will follow.
• Just be friends! Don’t worry about dating/marriage. If it’s meant to be, it’ll happen when it’s supposed to, later.
• Just remember girls and guys all got along when they were younger and to just be friends and the rest will come.
• My moto is Best Friends Before Boyfriends, basically because I want to get to know a guy in a non-impressive relationship first. My best advice is ask the girl you like to hang out with you and your friends, or try and hang out with her and her friends, and make a friendship. Because if all else fails and you find out you dont want a gf/bf relationship with her, you’re still friends with her. and dont be FAKE. i hate that so much.
• Talk to the girls that you like, chances are they will like you as you talk to them. Girls like to know that you are interested in them first before they want to like you!!!
• That girls want to have guy friends just as much as girlfriends. That to have a guy to hang out with is important to us, too
• Think of a girl as being someone you want t get to know better and not as developing a “relationship”. That will come later.
• Treat them like one of the guys
• Try to be a girl’s best friend and show her that you care about her. Show her that you want to be there for her.
• Try to focus on being their genuine friend. The best way to a girl’s heart is by letting them know that you are there for them for support. Get to know each other.
• When you want to have a relationship go in to it as friends and get to know them first

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Slow down

• Be patient!
• Clam down and be chill…girls don’t like people up in there space
• Do not try to get sex.
• Focus on yourself first. Don’t try too hard to find the right person – I promise, it may take longer than you like but it will happen naturally if you relax.
• Girls are just as afraid of making a mistake as boys are.
• In some ways, girls are just like you. They are attracted to you, but are a bit young for the mature sexual relationship. We want to do things with our lives before we get really into sex and marriage, so be patient, and do a little growing up yourself.
• Know who you are before you consider entering relationships with girls. Be giving and thoughtful. Companionship should build up and encourage yourself and your partner. Don’t chase after the superficial, it doesn’t last, but look for a good heart and a go
• Let her know that you like her as more than just a friend then then go slow as you get to know each other better. Call her, ask her out, stay in touch with her feellings and let her know you like her.
• Never make her feel pressured to do things sexually.
• Not to be so anxious about sex
• Please do not go over the line, and force girls into what they’re not ready to do.
• Relax!
• Relax!
• See what is there first before looking for what could be.
• There’s a perfect girl out there for every guy, it’s just a matter of time in finding her.
• Think of them as your last piece of fruit on that tree, and you really want it, but you don’t want to just climb up and grab it…because you might damage it…so take your time….and gradually get to it
• You don’t need a girl, so don’t stress about how to get one.

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Take the risk to approach her

• Approach the girl even if you are unsure. In most cases she will be very polite and then at least you will know how she feels. If it doesn’t work out, then you can move on.
• Be open and friendly. Usually once approached the girl will definitely give the sign of “yeah I like you” or a definite sign of “I’m not interested”. Take a chance – we might surprise you.
• ‘Don’t be afraid to talk to a girl you’re interested in. Most girls get nervous when a guy approaces her whether she knows him or not and whether he’s good-looking or not. Your goal is to make her feel comfortable with you. Make conversation with her and i
• Don’t be afraid to talk to the girl, she is probably just as shy as you are, but someone has to make the first move, why not you?
• Don’t be nervous
• Don’t let us intimidate you. If you want something, go for it. It’s hard to do that if you’re extremely shy, but who knows.. You just might find exactly what you’re looking for. Especially if you feel that “right vibe” with her..and better yet, just talk
• Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve.
• Even if you are nervous around girls and afraid to talk to girls you like, it is really attractive and flattering when a guy risks his own pride and self image to walk up and talk to a girl.
• Girls are just as nervous as guys are but most wait for the guy to make the move.
• Go for it but don’t be too pushy about it. Start out as her friend then work your way up.By doing it this way you get to know alot about her and her insecurities and day to day problems.You will always be int tune with her therefore causing you guys to ha
• Go for it, take a chance because you never really know until you try
• Go with it
• Guys, come and pursue us like the hunters you are! A big turn-off in most cases for girls is when a guy can’t get a sentance across because he’s too nervous to speak. Guys are losing their prowl status because girls are now the ones who are having to catch them.
• I feel like most girls aren’t really as mean as you would think they would be. It doesn’t dissuade me when a guy is a little timid. But when they’re so shy that they don’t want to go out or they can’t hold a conversation, that’s bad.
• If a guy is nervous about approching a girl know that she is just a nervous about approching a guy (why do you think girls leave that up to the guys?). The nervous guy is endearing and some girls like it. I, on the other hand, find it too endearing and if
• It doesn’t hurt to give things a try, and don’t be afraid to make a move. If you doubt whether she’s into you or not, you might be pleasantly surprised, and the worst that can happen is she says no – which is not really a big deal.
• It may not seem like it, but there are actually a lot of girls that don’t expect a guy to spend a lot of money on them all the time. They just appreciate the time you spend with them, and the things you do together. Those are the best girls to go after.
• Just ask a girl out, the worst she could say is no and you will probably be surprised when she does say yes
• Just because i am pretty doesn’t mean I don’t want to talk to you approach me you never know 🙂
• Just go for it, honestly you dont have anything to really lose, and if you do happen to get turned down, theres a gatillion other girls in the world.
• Just know that girls are just as nervous and unsure of themselves as guys are, and they will respect and admire you more if you have the courage to make the first move.
• Many girls will give any guy a chance if they pursue her and take the risk of just going up and talking to her. Ask her on a date, most likely she’ll give it a go, even if it doesn’t lead to more after that.
• Not all girls are mean. If a girl sees a guy having trouble making a move, she will usually try to help him out. Push yourself out there and if she’s worth it, you’ll know. If not, then consider it a lesson.
• Not to be afraid to talk to me. You never know unless you try
• Respect the girl and her feelings. Listen to what she has to say and be honest and open with her and she’ll begin to fall for you. Even if you aren’t the cutest thing around! Never feel as if you dont have a chance with a girl just give it a try.
• Sometimes a girl can be just as scared and you should go ahead and tell her that you like her and if nothing happens then don’t worry about it to much
• Step up to the plate and ask, the worst answer you could get is NO.
• Take a chance
• Take chances. Like they say, “You always miss 100% of the shots you never take”
• We’re not going to bite. It’s pretty much the same rule that they have about animals – We just as afraid of you if not more.
• You have nothing to be afraid about most girls even if they dont like you aren’t going to be rude. Even if you dont end up dating you could still be great friends I wish I had more guy friends.
• You have to get over it! Most girls DO NOT like to have to make the first move. The first thing you say to a girl doesn’t have to be extremely romantic or inventive, just “HI” would suffice.
• You just have to try. It’s cliche..but the worst that could happen is she says no. And if that happens you just got to pick yourself up and try again.
• You will never know unless you try. I’ve never been upset about being persued even when I turn a guy down. It is always flattering. Take a chance. It’s really attractive.

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Look deeper to what she’s trying to tell you

• Accept that a girl will oftentimes say the opposite of what she wants. When we answer “What’s wrong?” with “Nothing,” it usually means “Keep asking me until I tell you what’s wrong so I know you actually care.” You don’t have to have a solution all the time – sometimes just comfort, understanding and caring is enough. Oh, and one more thing. When you’re with your friends don’t sit in the back of the room snickering over who’d you do and who’s too fat or ugly to even imagine in bed. Don’t use phrases like “butterface.” We know what you’re doing and we hear it. And you wonder why once you’re with a girl she’s this insecure mess?
• Girls are just as nervous – but they’re just better at hiding it.
• Girls treat guys the way they want to be treated. If they call you to tell you that they love you, they are expecting the same in return. If they offer you trust and commitment in a relationship, they are expecting the same thing back.
• He may think we want what he wants but most of the time we want something different.
• In the end it’s not a lot of the qualities that we usually list that make a girl swoon for more then a second, it’s paying attention…to what they’re saying and not saying. If instead of getting frustrated you become more observant you might just see a method to the madness.
• Let the relationship develop at the speed which the girl is comfortable with. By default a relationship HAS to develop at the slowest speed desired by either person in it.
• Stop thinking girls are so complicated. Try to read them we are all not that much different from the next girl. And guys, try not to be so vague when a girl wants to know something.
• Stop worrying so much about looks.. one day EVERYONE will change and not be so attractive.. so personality matters too!!
• That girls aren’t so different from guys, but that we are way more emotional when it comes to everything and it affects us socially as well. So guys should just look for the signs and if a girl tells them something is up and they just want to be alone for a little while, take the advice and speak to them in a day or two asking if things are ok and if there is anything that they can do to help.

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Be respectful and trustworthy

• A relationship wont work without trust. If there is no trust in the relationship it will not last very long.
• A young lady is like a flower not to be touched untill the right time in her life.
• Be nice to them and caring, and do not cheat on them or try to make them have sex with you. Thats a big step and we’re not ready for it.
• Don’t go out with a girl just looking for sex, and show respect to her. He needs to show attention to her if he truly likes her.
• Don’t be afraid to talk to them but don’t be cocky. And sex is not everything.
• Don’t be afraid to tell her how you feel and respect that she has feelings too.
• Don’t lie to us and say things like you love us, just to get in our pants.
• Don’t think all girls want to have sex. They just want to be loved.
• Girls are extremely sensitive creatures. most want reassurance that everything is ok. i think that a guys and girls need for reassurance are much the same. be true to yourselves and give that respect to every girl.
• Girls are people just like you. Most girls will appriciate it if you just treat them reguarly. It’s important to have self-confidence, but arrogance can become annoying. If you just think of girls as normal people who deserve respect, you should have no problem interacting with them.
• Girls want to be treated with respect and made to feel special. Don’t come on too strong, but don’t have someone else talk to her for you. Make sure everything you do comes from the heart.
• Give respect, recieve respect
• Honesty…trust
• I am far more willing to be with a guy who I feel I can trust. Vulnerability is not a bad thing, necessarily.
• I know that most girls aren’t what they should be, you shouldn’t always have a typical mindset that all girls are the same. There are still some respectable ones out there that deserve respect from you as gentlman who should be rescuers and protecters from harm.
• It’s definitely okay to be uncertain – dating can be really hit or miss! The best thing to do is to try to be open-minded and understanding. It shows you’re trustworthy (and a lot of girls find that hot!), and someone who is definitely worth being around.
• Just listen, be respectful and considerate of the other person’s feelings
• Keep it to yourself and stop wanting sex.
• Look at us as people not as things.
• No means No.
• “Normal” size girls have a lot to offer, too.
• Please be a gentleman – and only go after a girl because you really like her, because you think she is special and that she could be “the one”. Don’t string her along because you think she’s “easy” or because she’s popular or pretty or even fun to be with.
• Respect
• Respect girls and try respecting yourself, everyone is an individual and should be treated with respect.
• Respect girls and you will get the same in return.
• Respect girls like how you respect your friends
• See her for what she is not for what he can get.respect her and she will give respect back to you
• Show lots of respect
• Show the girl that u actually love and care about them…
• Think about girls as you would your mom or sister. Treat them with respect, girls are most likely to find you more attractive if you are able to show the respect and love we want or need. Be gentle and kind.
• Treat your girlfriends like you want to marry them, even if you don’t. There is no reason to actively date and pursue a relationship if you would not ever want to someday ( maybe in the far, far future) marry her or someone like her. Girls all want to be treated like goddesses, and will return the positive attention once given it.
• We want to be treated with respect and not pushed to have sex. I for one want to save myself for the one special person who I will marry as it is a gift I want to give to my husband alone.
• You guys need to respect girls and treat them nicely. Be honest and open with the relationship.

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Miscellaneous

• Don’t be more emotional than the girl you want to date and only let her see you cry on really intense occasions!
• Find something that you consider a passion, take pride in it, and go with it.
• Get a haircut, you would look more attractive.
• Guys do not look cool when they drink and do drugs and hook up with a bunch of girls. Girls like it better when a guy can say “no” to his friends and stand up for himself and his girlfriend. Girls like it when a guy is nice and responsive to them, but not too clingly. if a guy has told a girl that he likes her, then he should not flirt with other girls.
• Have a good sense of humor. And I have two older brothers who will beat the heck out of you if you treat me poorly! And a Dad who is Active Duty Army….
• I would tell him to pray and ask God for help with the situation.

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