National Survey: How Teen Guys Think (for the book For Young Women Only)
[survey title=”National Survey of Teen Guys for For Young Women Only”]
Survey Data as of: 9/15/2006
Click here to download the responses to this survey in Adobe Acrobat PDF format.
[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Think about what these two negative experiences would be like: to feel alone and unloved in the world OR to feel inadequate and disrespected by everyone. If you were forced to choose one, which would you prefer? Would you rather feel…? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”63″]Alone and unloved[/option]
[option percent=”37″]Inadequate and disrespected[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”In the middle of a conflict with a girl, I am more likely to be feeling… {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”35″]That she doesn’t love (cherish, have affection for) me right now.[/option]
[option percent=”65″]That she doesn’t respect (trust, believe in) me right now.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Regardless of how successful you are in school, athletics, and activities or your career, which statement best describes your feelings about your performance in these areas? {Choose One Answer}”]
| Base = Respondents who answered question | 404 | ||
|---|---|---|---|
| I try to perform well and look as competent as possible, when inside I’m not always sure that I know what I’m doing, and am concerned about others’ opinion of me and my abilities. | 14-17 |
|
47 % |
| 18-20 |
|
56 % | |
| 21+ |
|
71 % | |
| I always feel secure in my abilities and rarely consider what others think of me. | 14-17 |
|
53 % |
| 18-20 |
|
44 % | |
| 21+ |
|
29 % | |
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Think of some times in the last few years when you’ve faced unfamiliar and challenging situations. Which of these feelings were you most likely to experience? (This is not about how you acted, but how you felt.) {Choose One Answer}”]
| Base = Respondents who answered question | 404 | ||
|---|---|---|---|
| I can handle it, no problem. | 15-20 |
|
46 % |
| 21+ |
|
26 % | |
| I’m not 100% sure that I know exactly what I’m doing, and I hope it doesn’t show. | 15-20 |
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54 % |
| 21+ |
|
74 % | |
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Do you want the girls in your life to help you feel like you measure up to what everyone expects of you—to feel like you’re worthy of respect? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”77″]Yes. It feels good when girls have that effect on me.[/option]
[option percent=”23″]No. It’s not important that girls do that for me. I do need to feel good about myself in that way, but I can get that feeling elsewhere.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”How often do you find yourself not sharing your inner feelings with girls you generally know? (This does NOT include your best female friend or girlfriend.) {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”28″]Almost always. It’s my natural instinct to not share my inner feelings with other girls.[/option]
[option percent=”58″]Sometimes, when I specifically feel the need to not share my inner feelings.[/option]
[option percent=”14″]Never. I share my inner feelings freely with other girls.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Is the following statement true or false? A main reason for not sharing your inner feelings is to protect yourself from getting hurt, and/or because you don’t trust some girls to handle your personal information with care. {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”68″]Yes, that’s true.[/option]
[option percent=”32″]No, that’s false.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Imagine you are sitting in class, and a new girl with a great body sits down a few desks over from you. What is your reaction to her? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”13″]I openly stare at her.[/option]
[option percent=”52″]I’m drawn to look at her, and I sneak a peek or glance at her from the corner of my eye.[/option]
[option percent=”30″]I can’t help noticing her, but I try to stop myself from looking.[/option]
[option percent=”4″]Nothing happens; it doesn’t affect me.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Now imagine that the same hot girl goes to the front of the class to give a report. She’s all business, but is wearing clothes that accentuate her figure. If you’re not careful, would there be a possibility that you would picture her naked—either now or later? {Choose One Answer}” note=’77% of churchgoers had one of the “yes” answers; 85% of all guys admitted to the possibility of picturing a good-looking girl naked.’]
[option percent=”39″]Yes, almost definitely (and even this survey question risks raising images in my mind).[/option]
[option percent=”46″]Yes, possibly.[/option]
[option percent=”15″]No. That would never occur to me.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=’TV and magazines glamorize a particular kind of girl that everyone seems to agree is hot. Despite this image, do you find yourself attracted to other kinds of girls, such as any of the following? {Choose One answer}
- the pretty but unglamorous “girl next door”
- the “plain Jane” who is a fantastic athlete
- the sweet girl that never made an enemy
- the stocky girl with a hilarious sense of humor
‘]
[option percent=”11″]No. I’m only attracted to the hot Sports Illustrated babe.[/option]
[option percent=”89″]Yes. I find myself attracted to a variety of types of girls.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”While there may be multiple factors that would attract you to a girl in a romantic way, is physical attraction essential for a meaningful, lasting relationship? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”75″]Yes. A girl can have a great personality, but if there isn’t a physical attraction, she’s just going to be a friend.[/option]
[option percent=”25″]No, I can live without the physical attraction part.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Suppose you knew a girl with a great personality, whom you had not previously been attracted to because she was a bit overweight and didn’t seem to care about her appearance. If you saw that girl making a real effort to eat right and get in shape, could you become attracted to her down the road? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”85″]Yes[/option]
[option percent=”15″]No[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Whether or not you are currently involved with a girlfriend, if you were to be in a make-out situation with a willing partner who does not signal a desire to stop, how do you feel about your ability to stop the sexual progression? {Choose One Answer}” note=”*This percentage was 38% for wealthier respondents and 23% for churchgoers; 82% of guys report serious difficulty in bringing things to a halt.”]
[option percent=”30″]Why would I want to stop the sexual progression?*[/option]
[option percent=”18″]Almost no ability. When the door is opened, it’s just too tough to stop the fun.[/option]
[option percent=”34″]Some ability, but it would require a massive effort, and I might go further than intended.[/option]
[option percent=”18″]I find it easy to stop the sexual progression.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Does moving to a sexually active relationship mean that you want to marry this girl or make a significant life commitment with her? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”34″]Yes[/option]
[option percent=”66″]No[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Whether or not you are currently involved with a girlfriend, if you were to be in a heavy make out situation with a willing partner who was not a long-term girlfriend, what would you primarily be feeling? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”36″]How much I love her[/option]
[option percent=”64″]How good this feels[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”If you and your partner made the move to a sexual relationship, even if you loved her, would you (or did you) ever find yourself wondering whether you could totally trust her? {Choose One Answer}”]
[option percent=”64″]Yes, I would (or did) find myself wondering that.[/option]
[option percent=”36″]No, never.[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=’Is the following statement true or false? “I would love to marry a virgin, if possible.” {Choose One Answer}’ note=’*89% of Christian guys wanted to marry a virgin and 59% of agnostics/atheists answered “true”. If you combine all guys, regardless of religious belief, 69% answered true.’]
[option percent=”69″]True*[/option]
[option percent=”31″]False[/option]
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[question respondents=”404″ prompt=”Imagine that there is an auditorium full of teenage girls, including your little sister, and you have been asked to give these girls your advice about moving forward in a world of guys. You are behind a curtain, so you are totally anonymous. What’s your best heart-to-heart advice for them?”]
Click here to see their actual responses.
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