About This Book
Most couples have money tensions --- but it’s not about the money!
If you never get annoyed with your spouse around money, you don’t need this book.
But if you’re one of the 92% of couples who occasionally get tense with each other around money, fight about it, or simply avoid money conversations as much as possible, THIS is your solution.
Nearly all money resources focus on how to budget, getting out of debt, and so on. Yet most couples can’t even talk well about money, much less tackle financial planning.
This book has NOTHING to do with budgeting, money management or spreadsheets
and everything to do with what must happen first:
understanding your spouse --and yourself.
Why do you get irritated when one of you suggests grabbing take-out, and the other says cooking at home would be cheaper? Why is one of you eager to create a budget – and the other eager to avoid it? Why do you try to snag the Amazon packages off the front porch before your spouse gets home? Why does your spouse want to try to fix the broken faucet the DIY way first, while you want to hire a plumber? Why might you two agree on the amount you’ll give at church but not on the amount to give the kids on their birthdays? Why does one of you see retirement as the time for long-awaited adventures… while the other starts looking for a new job? Based on a groundbreaking 3-year, nationally-representative research study, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn uncovered the reasons behind all those questions – and many more.
By the time you are done with this little book, you will have had dozens of ‘aha moments.’ And you will suddenly know exactly why and how to come together around money, instead of coming apart – or avoiding money issues entirely. Money is a huge part of life. Live it happily.
Based on a groundbreaking 3-year, nationally-representative research study, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn have uncovered the key tensions and habits that that face couples in communicating about money, how to stop the fighting or avoidance, and how to enjoy this part of life instead. In a whole new way, Thriving in Love and Money helps you know exactly why you react the way you do, how to help your spouse understand and appreciate what matters to you – and helps you understand what matters to them. Shaunti and Jeff started out not just as researchers, but as a couple who simply couldn’t talk about money themselves and lived two separate financial lives. What they uncovered in their research has transformed their marriage – and will transform yours, too.
Available March 2020 − Pre-order your copy now!
Also coming Fall 2020: Video curriculum and application tools
"Money is not the biggest problem in relationships. Money problems are often not about money, but about how we think and feel about money. For many of us, our thoughts and feelings are unexplored. It is discovering why we think and feel the way we do that offers hope in learning to work as a team. The research shared in Thriving in Love and Money is a roadmap to discovering what lies behind our attitudes and behavior regarding money. I highly recommend it for all who want to replace conflict with harmony."
- Gary Chapman, Ph.D. Author of The 5 Love Languages
"Shaunti and Jeff have tackled such an important topic for relationships. This is a money book that has nothing to do with money, and everything to do with the heart."
- Lysa TerKeurst
"In our work with countless married couples, money issues clearly rank near the top of the list of marriage stressors. Our friends Jeff and Shaunti Feldhahn have combined their unparalleled expertise with their eye-opening research data to help countless couples avoid those common money pitfalls. Thriving in Love and Money will equip you and your spouse to improve your finances, your communication and your marriage as a whole. Every couple (including us) will benefit from implementing the truths outlined in this book!"
- Dave and Ashley Willis, Authors of The Naked Marriage, Hosts of The Naked Marriage Podcast, and Speakers for MarriageToday