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Hang Out…On Purpose!
Tip #8: Hang Out…On Purpose! At the most basic level, our spouse should be our best friend. And it turns out that the greatest predictor of close friendships is not shared […]
Boss Your Feelings Around
Tip #5: Boss Your Feelings Around Think back to a time when you did something out of overwhelming emotion and it ended badly. Everyone has one of these stories. Or twenty. […]
Keep Score
Tip #4: Keep Score According to the 1 Corinthians 13:5, love is not self-seeking and keeps no record of wrongs. The Highly Happy couples I interviewed for my book, Surprising […]
Go to Bed Mad – Why Sleeping on it Might Be Smarter After All
Tip #3: Go to Bed Mad- Why Sleeping on it Might Be Smarter After All “Do not let the sun go down on your anger.” “Don’t go to bed mad.” […]
When You are Hurt, Believe the Best
Tip #2: Believe the Best As I was watching the second Hunger Games movie with my 13-year-old daughter, I was reminded – of all things – of something I saw […]
Do the Little Things That Matter Big Time
Secret #1: Do the “Little Things” That Matter Big Time One of the simplest things that happy couples tend to do differently, is that the husbands and the wives tend […]
Do We Have to Put Our Conflicts To Bed Before Lights Out?
Dear Shaunti, I’m about to pull my very tired hair out. My wife and I know we shouldn’t go to bed angry, but our arguments only get worse the later […]
Secret #12 of Highly Happy Marriages: Hit the Jackpot
In nearly 8 out of 10 highly happy marriages, each spouse gives the credit of their happiness to their mate!
Secret #11 of Highly Happy Marriages: Get in Over Their Heads
Highly happy couples enjoy “unprotected” love.
Secret #12: Know You Hit the Jackpot
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Secret #11: Be “All In”
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Rip Up Your Laundry List: No Husband Wants a Scorekeeper
Dear Shaunti, I love my wife, but I really hate her “things you do wrong” list. I pull away to avoid it, but the more I pull away, the more […]
Secret #10: Look Higher
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Secret #9: Don’t Tell It Like It Is
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Surprising Secret #8: Hang Out
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Surprising Secret #7: Mutually Reconnect
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Seeing Love in the Blender: Appreciating Your Husband's Gift-Giving Style
Dear Shaunti, I was really looking forward to our second Valentine’s Day together, until I unwrapped my present. A blender. He knows that I like jewelry, and he’s the one […]
Highly Happy Marriages Secret #6: Reasonable Expectations
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Secret #1 to a Highly Happy Marriage: Little Is Big
Marriages aren’t made or broken through dramatic gestures. It’s the small, everyday actions and choices that determine success and happiness. Learn more about what the happiest couples do in Surprising […]
Highly Happy Marriages Secret #5: You Can Change Your Feelings
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Believe the Best
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Overview and 3 Secrets to a Highly Happy Marriage
Shaunti spent three years interviewing and surveying 1,000 couples to uncover the most important habits of the most happily married couples—what are they doing differently, that they may not even […]
Highly Happy Marriages Secret #4: Pay It Forward – The Importance of Keeping Score
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Highly Happy Marriage Secret #3: Go Ahead, Sleep On It
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Highly Happy Marriages Secret #2: Believe the Best
Author note: This is one of a series giving a sneak peek into what I discovered about what makes happy marriages so happy! After years of nationally-representative research with more […]
Surprising Secrets Survey
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Happy New Year, New You, New Marriage!
Well, not a NEW marriage, exactly, but a completely refreshed and delightful one! As the best New Years’ announcement EVER, I am absolutely thrilled to tell you that my new […]
True Love
The past three years, I have been researching the things that set happy couples apart from other couples. One of the things I discovered is that happy couples have an […]
Strangers Among Us
Overall: after being married for 10+ years we are total strangers to each other and thinking about packing it in. Any advice? By Jackie Coleman Instant news updates, instant […]