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The Foreign Culture Of A Man’s Mind And How To Navigate It

Have you ever travelled to a foreign country with a very different culture for your work? Were you uneasy? Did you read up on the geography, language, rituals, and nuances so that you would be successful? When I was working as a financial analyst at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, my primary responsibility […]

We're a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too!

We’re a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too! Check out iDisciple, a platform that provides an engaging on-the-go resource for growing closer to Christ. We hope you enjoy the app! You also can find additional content from Shaunti using iDisciple’s Life Themes, which brings transformational content to your fingertips. We know your […]

Tell Your Drama to Your Mama (or Your Girlfriends)

Dear Shaunti, I’m always balancing my roles as a mom, wife and businesswoman, but I work almost entirely with men who don’t “get” how much more I have to juggle than they do—especially when there’s a problem at home. I recently had an especially stressful few days where my husband and kids were sick, I […]

My Eyes are Up Here: Can I Be Seen as Pretty AND Professional?

Dear Shaunti: I am a female attorney, age 29, working at a large and prestigious litigation firm. I have a law degree from a top-five school, graduated near the top of my class, am smart, experienced and able to handle any case that is thrown at me. Yet at my firm I am surrounded by […]

I Love This Article: “Ahhh, You’re Wearing That?”

I love this article from my friend and senior exec Diane Paddison – “Ahhh, You’re Wearing That?”. All about how she handles it when male colleagues ask her (as one of few female execs in a male-dominated industry) to talk to a woman employee that they want to see advance, but whose business attire is […]

Why Your Male Co-Worker May Be Annoyed at You

Dear Shaunti, I just got out of a big meeting where one of my male co-workers got super annoyed with me and I don’t know why. We’re trying to land a big contract and he was presenting his strategy to the group and our boss. A couple of times, I politely asked why he came […]

2 Ways Flex-Time Moms Can Prevent Resentment from Male Co-Workers

Dear Shaunti, I work full-time, have 3 small children and work a flex schedule. This works really well for my family but my male co-workers get frustrated when they can’t reach me during traditional office hours. I’m getting all my work done but I’m worried they’re not viewing me as an equal colleague because they […]

Sexual Attraction in the Workplace

Moody Radio Interview – How to Navigate Attraction in the Workplace Listen to this one hour debate between Christopher Heuertz and Shaunti Feldhahn about whether or not Iowa dentist Dr. James Knight was justified when he fired employee, Melissa Nelson, who worked as a dental assistant for being “irresistible”. Dr. Knight complained Nelson wore tight clothes […]

Echoes from the Courtroom

There it was…glaring up at me as if to remind me that my well-ordered life could be catapulted into chaos in an instant. I must confess to a not-so-generous reaction when I was summoned for jury duty recently. Sadly, my thought process was not, “Oh, good, I have always strongly supported the notion of a […]

The Foreign Culture of Men’s Minds

Did you ever have to enter an unknown culture for your work? Did it make you uneasy? Did you prepare? Did you read up on the geography, language, rituals, and nuances so that you would be successful? What does this have to do with opposite genders working together? As noted in my book, For Women […]

Know Your Audience

In graduate school, one of my favorite classes was Harvard Law School’s renowned Negotiations course. The professors – the co-authors of Getting to Yes – demonstrated that THE key to negotiation is to thoroughly understand the other party and their interests. Know your audience, get inside their head, understand both their interest and their perceptions […]

Men Perceive “Emotions” as Way More Than Crying

We always say that men are uncomfortable with emotions. But what does that really mean? What do they consider to be part of the “emotional” realm? It can’t be that men have no emotions. Rather, men display emotion differently than women. Biological architecture of male brains enables them to experience the four basic emotions – […]

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A Short Promo ~ Understanding How Men Think at Work (FWOWP)

Shaunti Feldhahn, author of For Women Only and For Men Only, now brings her research and insight to women in the workplace, including programs for the largest household name organizations in the country. Shaunti explains how the male brain wiring affects their perception of women, and creates common but unstated expectations that every woman should […]

Modesty Matters

In this Focus on the Family article, Shaunti Feldhahn discusses how clothing that calls attention to one’s figure presents a serious temptation to even the most godly of men. Download Modesty Matters Article

Sisterhood with a Liberal Feminist – and Fellow Mom

Isn’t it wonderful when we find common ground to pull together as “Mom” in a common sisterhood – not caring if we are conservative or liberal! Just a few short weeks ago, Anne-Marie Slaughter wasn’t a household name. But then this quite liberal, feminist-leaning, female leader in the public-policy arena said something so controversial – […]

An Almost Miss…of a God Moment (Part 1)

Beginning as an analyst and researcher, little did I know that God’s plan would open the door to helping readers and listeners understand the most important things about the most important people in their lives. What a privilege! For years now, as an author and speaker I’ve been used to the quirks of life on […]

A "Rest-Beat": A Tool for Finding Time for Yourself (Part 1)

Shaunti’s much needed Life Ready Woman series was developed to help women understand their role in today’s “do-it-all” world. Shaunti has been a mom for 12 years; she and Jeff have been married for 17 years. I was recently asked, “How do working moms get some ‘me’ time?” This is a question that I think […]

Perched on an Emotional Razor's Edge

I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself. He does only what he sees the Father doing. Whatever the Father does, the Son also does. John 5:19 Today was a stressful day. Already late in starting on an important deadline, trying to make up for four wonderful days off with my […]

Don't Judge Me When I'm a Little Excited, School Starts Again!

As a contributing regular blogger to Momlifetoday.com, I open up about the struggle in my own life to find balance between family and work. I always have a wistful feeling when the end of summer approaches, and I know the family will be transitioning back into the school year, after several idyllic months of sun, […]

One Mom Kisses Superwoman Myth Goodbye…

Ah, summer. It’s that time of the year again when the days are long and beautiful, families finally get to take their long-awaited vacations, and moms are running ragged trying to keep up with work and the play demands of the kids. I’m sure every such mom can relate to the hysterical email I got […]

Giving Up Superwoman

Several years ago, on our family’s first trip to Disney World, Jeff and I watched our 3-year-old boy break free from us and race headlong to a Buzz Lightyear character who was signing autograph books. He gave Buzz a huge hug with delight in his eyes …and we had tears in ours as we watched our […]