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His Temper May Be Fiery, But Your Criticism Is Explosive Fuel
Dear Shaunti: My husband has an anger problem, and I don’t know how to handle it. We’ve always had “intense discussions,” but lately he’s been getting furious and walking away. […]
Marriage Monday: Wives, find ways to keep his mental Instagram full of images of you
Tip #38: Wives, find ways to keep his mental Instagram full of images of you. Have you ever been out with your hubby on a pretty day, sitting at a park […]
My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For
Dear Shaunti, My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to a certain extent because, honestly, in my mind, there are just right and wrong ways […]
Check Yourself as a Mate: Being a Wife Instead of a Boss
Dear Shaunti, My husband runs his own construction business, and even though he’s in charge it really does feel like “our” business in most ways. I used to be in […]
Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy
Tip #36: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy. There are times when it feels like some “connection” gets lost between spouses. Long days, busy schedules […]
My Eyes are Up Here: Can I Be Seen as Pretty AND Professional?
Dear Shaunti: I am a female attorney, age 29, working at a large and prestigious litigation firm. I have a law degree from a top-five school, graduated near the top […]
Win a Marriage Library – with the Christian Marriage Author Pinterest Board
Win a Marriage Library of TWELVE Books–with the Christian Marriage Author Pinterest Board! I am so excited about being a part of the new Christian Marriage Authors Pinterest board, started by […]
Wives, invest in your husband by saying “thank you.”
Tip #34: Wives, invest in your husband by saying “thank you.” Every day, our men wake up and head out to “conquer” the world. Or, rather, the worlds of work, […]
Wives, see his anger as a legitimate signal of pain – and address it with respect
Tip #33: Wives, see his anger as a legitimate signal of pain – and address it with respect Every relationship – even the happiest ones! – will have moments of conflict. […]
Zipping My Lip Finally Paid Off
Guest blog by Julie Fidler For four years, my husband worked full-time with disturbed and often violent children while going to college online. A few months ago, he marched in […]
Calling All Teens!
Are you a teenager who would like to discuss my books? Would your son or daughter like a place to talk about For Young Women Only or For Young Men […]
Marriage Monday: Avoid Painful Disrespect by Thinking Ahead
Marriage Tip: Wives, since processing your husband’s decisions out loud can sometimes come across as painful disrespect or questioning his judgment, think in advance about how to say it so […]
How Do I Respect My Husband When He Makes So Many Mistakes?
Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about in your book For Women Only. How do I do that? My husband has a huge […]
Marriage Monday: Women, Ask Him to Accept Help Without Hurting His Heart
Tip #25: Women, when you know you need to ask your husband to accept guidance or help, and you know he might feel painfully inadequate as a result, say it […]
Give Him Reason to Gawk at You So He Doesn’t Gawk at Google
Dear Shaunti: I read your book, For Women Only, and one thing you said scared me. You explained how men can’t not notice a woman with a good figure, but that many men […]
Women, See Going Out and Doing Things Together as Romantic
Tip #22: Women, see going out and doing things together as romantic Ladies, when you envision romance, what comes to mind? I’m guessing candlelight dinners… maybe a horse-drawn carriage ride… […]
Give Your Spouse Space
Marriage Monday Tip 20: Women: In a conflict, give him time to process before talking It is one of the most frustrating and insecure things we women go through: when we […]
Women: Show Your Husband That You Desire Him
Tip 18: Women: Show Your Husband That You Desire Him It is a common topic when women get together: why do men want sex so much more than we do? […]
Appreciate His Desire to Provide
Tip 15: Appreciate His Desire to Provide At a recent women’s event, I got a question from a woman who had just gotten a big promotion and raise at her […]
Women: Say ‘great job’ to your man
Tip 14: Women: Say ‘great job’ to your man We women love to feel loved. We delight in knowing that our man adores and cherishes us. We feel special and […]
My husband is in over his head – how do I fix him?
Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it is for my husband to know I respect him – which I do. But I come from […]
Let Your Husband Unwind Before You Unload
Dear Shaunti, I am SO DONE with my husband’s grumpiness when he gets home from work. He is a radiologist and has told me that it is really hard to […]
At a Loss When Your Husband Gets Lost: It's Not Just About the Directions
Dear Shaunti, It makes me insane when my husband doesn’t ask for directions. Last weekend we were meeting friends at a new restaurant and I got the cold sweats while […]
Don't Force Your Sex Life into Hibernation Mode By Choosing Sleep Over Sex
Dear Shaunti, We have young kids, and often I’m so exhausted that I just want to go to sleep without my husband trying to start something. Most of the time […]
How Healthy He is Matters to Her
I don’t think there are many who would be surprised to hear that in my interviews and surveys with over 1,000 men for my book For Women Only, men emphatically […]
Hard Truths are Still True: Taking Care of Yourself Shows You Care for Your Marriage
Dear Shaunti, I can hardly write this, I’m so upset by one of your columns. You shared that it was important for a woman to “take care of herself” for […]
Beyond the Candlelight: Finding Romance In Unusual Places
Dear Shaunti, I wish my husband were more romantic. I love spending time with him—we work out together and go to the movies, you know, normal couple stuff—but some of […]
The Process of Processing: Give Your Man Some Space
Dear Shaunti, I feel like my husband is a total avoider. When we get into an argument, all he wants to do is ignore the situation and escape to the […]
Lust at First Glance? The Difference in Seeing vs. Gawking
Dear Shaunti, I read in your book that even happily married men struggle with looking at other women and even have images from the past pop-up in their minds. Does […]
Let's Get Physical: Health Body, Healthy Marriage
Dear Shaunti, I am definitely not the size I was when I married my husband. But honestly, 4 kids and 25 years later, I don’t see it ever happening. The problem […]
Independence Can Be Isolating: Find Ways to Show Your Man You Need Him
Dear Shaunti, I’m 31 and single, with a successful career, lots of friends, and an outgoing personality. I tend to be a “go getter” but not in the area of […]
Throw Him a Bone When He Picks up the Broom
Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been getting irritated with each other lately. He said that I don’t appreciate him, which is ridiculous because I do! But he said […]
Looking for Approval? Start By Praising Your Provider Husband
Dear Shaunti, I’m a working mom with two kids. We have a comfortable lifestyle, no major financial problems — just the typical mortgage and monthly bills — and I just […]
Seeing Love in the Blender: Appreciating Your Husband's Gift-Giving Style
Dear Shaunti, I was really looking forward to our second Valentine’s Day together, until I unwrapped my present. A blender. He knows that I like jewelry, and he’s the one […]
Should I Hide the Victoria’s Secret Catalog from My Husband?
Dear Shaunti, I know my husband loves me and thinks I’m attractive. So I’m confused and a little hurt why he asked me recently to put my Victoria’s Secret catalog […]
Menopause, Aging and the Sexual Female
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Health and the Sexual Female by Dr. Sue Townsend
As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my […]
Conjugal Conundrum (Part 2) by Dr. Sue Townsend
As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my […]
Conjugal Conundrum (Part 1) by Dr. Sue Townsend
As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my […]
Impact of Specific Medical Conditions and Suggestions
The barometer of the health of a marriage is the level of intimacy in the relationship. Most serious medical conditions or injuries have some sexual side effects. So what can […]
Left-Handed Romantic
All of us have seen – and chuckled at – those sitcoms that show a bumbling husband forgetting his wife’s birthday, or frantically scrambling to find a lame anniversary gift […]
Security Defined
Many guys that I know often feel like they are caught between a rock and a hard place. They are busting their tails at work, feeling the stress and sometimes […]
The Thank You Connection
One of the things I love about October isn’t just the beautiful fall leaves, the crisp air or clutching a warm cup of hot cider at an outdoor fall festival […]
Mean No Disrespect
I remember a couple of years ago around Mother’s Day, Jeff and I were watching television one night when we saw a commercial for Publix, one of the big grocery-store […]
What is it with Men Not Going to the Doctor?
So my husband was sick this past week. Right as I had to leave to speak at a women’s retreat. I don’t like leaving Jeff and the kids at the […]
Sexual Attraction in the Workplace
Moody Radio Interview – How to Navigate Attraction in the Workplace Listen to this one hour debate between Christopher Heuertz and Shaunti Feldhahn about whether or not Iowa dentist Dr. […]
Eye-Opening Truths That Help Women, Men and Parents
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Insecurity in Men
One of the most challenging topics for women to receive relates to insecurity in men. Do you find yourself relating to this clip at all?
A Happy Husband
Shaunti shares a comment from a reader with a very happy husband after she read For Women Only.