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Husband acting grumpy and withdrawn? You can change that!
Ladies, does your man seem to be doing everything right outside of the house, but at home he is often grumpy and withdrawn? Does he seem to be pleasant to […]
Relationship Rules Good Couples Break | Reader’s Digest
Which relationship rules can be broken, how and why? This article includes Shaunti’s research from The Kindness Challenge. Read More
Why the “Married Sex” Video Makes Me Furious
Recently, someone asked what I think about the “Married Sex During the Week” video posted on Facebook and chortled about on social media. Have you seen it? Some women think it’s […]
11 Signs You Can Totally Trust Your Partner
Reader’s Digest Article by Marissa Laliberte While part of trust is simply taking your partner’s word, these little indicators make it easier to know you’re in a loving, stable relationship. […]
3 reasons why you should initiate sex with your husband
Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and asking, “What do you mean why you should initiate sex?!” To guys, the answer […]
Swimsuit Style Secrets
Summer is just around the corner and most of us can’t wait to get our toes in the sand but aren’t quite as enthusiastic about squeezing our bodies into a swimsuit. Don’t miss all the goods in this blog which include
Men: This one little movie moment touches your wife’s heart – and shows you how you can, too
Recently, I wrote an article for women about the surprising movie scene that secretly makes men cry. But today I want to give men a secret of their own: a […]
Ladies, here’s the surprising reason why your husband cried at that Tom Hanks scene and you didn’t
A woman came up to me after a talk about gender differences and asked, “My husband and I were watching that new Tom Hanks movie, Bridge of Spies, and near the […]
Four reasons your man says “I don’t need help” – even when he does
Ladies, whether it is refusing to admit he needs to go to the doctor, or claiming that he knows where he’s going even when he’s clearly lost, a man usually […]
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Women: Three phrases to never say to your husband
Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for relationships, these three things would be at the top of the list for “What NOT […]
Some hysterical memes about the differences between men and women
People always send me memes about the differences between men and women. Some of them are too raunchy to post, but this one was (fairly) tame and made me laugh […]
Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations
Moms: 4 things your son secretly wishes you knew about his temptations Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still […]
Want a Truly Happy Holiday? Four Ways You Should “Let It Go”
Embed from Getty Images “Let It Go” is more than a Frozen anthem for the pre-school set. It’s also a hard-core success strategy for giving yourself – and those around […]
3 things every boy needs from his mom
In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to […]
We're a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too!
We’re a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too! Check out iDisciple, a platform that provides an engaging on-the-go resource for growing closer to Christ. We hope you […]
For Women: Five Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On
Yes, the idea is scary for many women! But in 12 years of researching the things our husbands wish we knew but don’t know how to say, I heard the heart […]
Ladies, do you know how to support your normal, visually-wired husband in this abnormal culture? 4 actions that matter
1. Show him you’re someone he can talk to about it. Regardless of where your man lands on the visual temptation spectrum, a calm conversation is the starting point. But many […]
When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part Three
This is the third and final article in a 3-part series written by Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma, offering hope, encouragement, and direction to wives who have a stronger […]
When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part Two
This is the second of three articles in a series written by Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma, offering hope, encouragement, and direction to wives who have a stronger sexual […]
When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part One
I’m thrilled to share a series of three important guest articles by nationally-recognized sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma, offering hope, encouragement, and direction to wives who have a stronger sexual drive than their husbands – a situation that probably happens in one of five marriages.
Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud
Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a […]
Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head
Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading Through a Man’s Eyes. I thought I’d be feeling better about my husband working so […]
Getting Over the Fear of Lingerie
I spend a lot of time talking about lingerie. A lot. As a speaker and author, most of my job consists of going around the country and encouraging women to […]
Why is it that MEN always seem to be the ones who look at porn and cheat?
Dear Shaunti, Why is it always men who look at porn, hide things, and cheat? I’m a single woman, and I can’t help but notice that in the news last […]
Wives, Don’t Punish Your Husband For Being Visual
Tip #57: Women, don’t punish your husband for being visual I couldn’t believe it when I saw one wife’s comment about what she did when she found that her husband […]
Lackluster Sex Life? Be a Flirt!
Dear Shaunti, My husband and I were both pretty sexually inexperienced when we first got married, so everything about our sex life was new, mysterious and exciting. But now we […]
Bikinis, Boys, and Back to School Clothes
As I write this, I am sitting at the pool watching two twelve-year-old boys – my son and a friend – try not to stare at a gaggle of shapely teenage girls […]
3 Crucial Facts You Really Need To Know About A Man’s Brain
The funniest movie moment I’ve seen this summer comes at the very end of Inside Out, as the main preteen girl character talks to a preteen boy at a hockey rink. We’ve […]
Husbands, It’s Common To Be Attracted To Images Of Other Women. What Matters is What You DO About It.
Within days of releasing For Women Only, based on my research study of the inner lives of men, my husband Jeff told me it was all his male buddies wanted to talk […]
But women are visual too – right?
Dear Shaunti, I am irritated by all these generalizations that women should watch how they dress “because men are visual.” Well women are visual, too. There’s a hot guy at […]
I trusted him and he disappointed me
Dear Shaunti, You and a lot of others talk about how much men need to feel respected and trusted. So I trusted him. And it blew up in my face. […]
Ladies, Showing Him That You Want Sex Is More Important Than How Much Sex You Have
Tip #56: Women, signal that you want sex; that is more important than how often you’re having it. Ladies, although there are certainly exceptions, we know men tend to think […]
Wives: Learn and relate to the man your husband is, not who you think he “should” be.
Tip #55: Wives: Learn and relate to the man your husband is, not who you think he “should” be. For many of us women, it is easy to carry around […]
Don’t Let “Facebook Fantasies” Ruin Your View Of Your Spouse
Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have started arguing a lot about how much I look at Facebook, even though I only check it a couple of times a day. I think […]
How Do I Cope With My Super-Sensitive Husband?
Dear Shaunti: My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting a new task accomplished. Like, he’s great at carpentry, but it might take him two or […]
Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?
Dear Shaunti, Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s really about a man feeling desired by his wife, what can I do to get […]
How Often Do Men Need to Have Sex?
Dear Shaunti, You’re the researcher, so please tell me the real answer: How often do guys need to have sex? I just don’t think about sex much; I guess it […]
A grumpy husband needs compliments, not complaints
Tip: 51: Women, if your husband is grumpy and withdrawn, try compliments, not complaints Ladies, does your man seem to be doing everything right outside of the house, but at […]
Don’t Spaz Over His Need for Space
Dear Shaunti: My husband and I haven’t been married very long, and I am scared about something. We have never fought much, but just had our first horrible argument. I […]
Ladies, think Golf Balls vs. Cinderella Balls to realize your man does want romance!
Tip #50: Ladies, think Golf Balls vs. Cinderella Balls to realize your man does want romance! Ladies: When you think of romance, what does it look like? A candlelit dinner? […]
Wives, if you earn more than he does, show even more appreciation
Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in creating great marriages. Tip […]
Think Before You Ask: The Statements Your Questions Make
Dear Shaunti: I just got married to a great guy who has always loved my inquisitive, problem-solving nature. Or at least he used to. Lately, he has been getting more […]
Wives, Be Your Husband’s Best Cheerleader – Especially When He Gets Hit!
Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. […]
Taking a “Second Glance” at a Woman
When I was writing my book For Women Only, one of the subjects I struggled with the most was what I was learning about men’s visual nature, and the fact […]
Solving Grumpy Guy
Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type of guy people look to for advice, and he goes over and above his requirements […]
Wives, Think Before You Blurt!
Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. […]
Wives, be sensitive to his spending sensitivity
Tip # 43: Wives, be sensitive to his spending sensitivity Recently, a stay-at-home mom told me that her laid-back husband had recently become a “control freak” about how much money […]
Wives, Be Aware of Your Hubby’s Secret Romantic Fears
Tip #42: Wives, Be Aware of Your Hubby’s Secret Romantic Fears Most sitcoms today have a staple character and plotline about men and romance: the bumbling husband who forgets his […]
Wives, let your husband think things through before pressing to talk
Tip #40: Wives, let your husband think things through before pressing to talk Last week at an event, a woman told me, “I’m so frustrated at my husband. He’s a […]