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Husbands, get in the habit of telling your wife she is beautiful
Tip #32: Husbands, get in the habit of telling your wife she is beautiful. Every little girl dreams of finding her prince and knowing she is his princess. Husbands, you need […]
Connection Resurrection: Bringing Back The Spark
Dear Shaunti: I’ve been married for 15 years, and my wife is a great mom, a great wife, and my best friend. I feel like things are going great. My […]
Prep Time In the Bathroom Could Pay Off In the Bedroom
Dear Shaunti: I used to really look forward to our Friday night date nights, but they’ve become a source of tension. For meetings at work, my wife is spot on […]
Marriage Mondays: Encourage Your Wife to Resolve Her Worries
Tip #24: Men, instead of saying “Just don’t let it bother you” encourage your wife’s actions to resolve what is worrying her. Husbands, imagine this scene: all week your wife […]
Men, Listen and Understand Your Wife’s Feelings First
Marriage Mondays: Men, Listen and Understand Your Wife’s Feelings First Every guy has been there. Your wife comes home from work or school or managing a playdate, very upset about […]
Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time
Marriage Month Tip 19: Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time Although some couples are the opposite in this way, in many cases the husband wishes […]
Your Wife Just Wants to Be With You
Marriage Month Tip Of The Day: Your Wife Just Wants to Be With You I met a woman recently named Anna. For years now, she has been talking about how […]
Men: when you are upset, before you pull away, reassure your wife that “we’re okay.”
Tip 15: Men: when you are upset, before you pull away, reassure your wife that “we’re okay.” There is one fairly simple thing you as a guy can do that […]
She Values Your Time More than Your Cash
Dear Shaunti, For years now, my wife has been talking about how great it would be to rent a condo and spend a full week in a cottage at the […]
Filling the Emotional Bank Account: The need for emotional closeness before physical closeness
So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready to cool off and mend the relationship. What better way to make up than to […]
How Healthy He is Matters to Her
I don’t think there are many who would be surprised to hear that in my interviews and surveys with over 1,000 men for my book For Women Only, men emphatically […]
Gain Respect By Being Direct
Dear Shaunti, How do I get my wife to not play games, and just share what she’s thinking? Two days ago, we dropped off our youngest child at college, so […]
Being the Bigger Person in "The Little Things": Showing Your Wife that You Care
Dear Shaunti, I work long hours at a power plant, and my wife often sends me text messages or calls me about little issues happening that day. Like, a minor […]
Good Dates Begin With Good Compliments
Dear Shaunti, I’m in deep soup with my wife, and I don’t know why. We went out for a really nice dinner last night – an actual date without the […]
Worn Out from Worry: How Can I Help My Wife Stop Obsessing?
Dear Shaunti, I love my wife, but it drives me crazy when she obsesses over something minor, like whether she forgot to send in the money for our son’s field […]
Priming Your Wife for Primetime
Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when I do, my wife sometimes seems less than enthusiastic. In other ways, we have a […]
Want to Fix Your Wife’s Problem? Step 1: Listen. Step 2: Repeat.
Dear Shaunti, My girlfriend tells me all the time that “I don’t want you to fix it; I just want you to listen!” But that’s after I’ve been listening for […]
Menopause, Aging and the Sexual Female
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Health and the Sexual Female by Dr. Sue Townsend
As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my […]
Conjugal Conundrum (Part 2) by Dr. Sue Townsend
As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my […]
She Would Rather Have Your Ear
When we conducted a national survey of women for our book, For Men Only, my husband Jeff and I learned that one of the highest felt needs for many women […]
Conjugal Conundrum (Part 1) by Dr. Sue Townsend
As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my […]
Impact of Specific Medical Conditions and Suggestions
The barometer of the health of a marriage is the level of intimacy in the relationship. Most serious medical conditions or injuries have some sexual side effects. So what can […]
Sexual Attraction in the Workplace
Moody Radio Interview – How to Navigate Attraction in the Workplace Listen to this one hour debate between Christopher Heuertz and Shaunti Feldhahn about whether or not Iowa dentist Dr. […]
Eye-Opening Truths That Help Women, Men and Parents
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Loving Her Anyway
If it seems like your wife is picking fights, it’s not to be cruel; she is subconsciously making sure you love her, no matter what.
Q & A You are Beautiful!
A few pointers on how to let a woman know that you find her beautiful. Don’t just assume she knows!
Couples Conversation Starter
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Q & A Time Rather Than Things
Women don’t mind downsizing financially, if it means they get to spend more time with their husbands.
When I Say No, It Doesn’t Mean I Don’t Desire Him
Sexual rejection hurts men deeply.
For Men Only Excerpt: clues to the code
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Depression Bandaid
Struggling with depression in your marriage? Be encouraged with this article and know that you are not alone. One of my foundational teachings from my research is that we women […]
It's Those Little Everyday Things
Women never stop needing or loving to be pursued, and when they feel pursued by their man, it adds to their sense of security in a relationship.
How to Filter the Resource List
For any particular audience (for women, for men, for parents, etc.) click on one or more “Display Only” buttons at the top or the bottom of the Resource page to […]
Men Need Respect Women Need Love
A man’s highest need is to feel respect, whereas a woman’s highest need is to feel loved.
How Can I Get My Wife to Understand How Important Sex is to Me?
How can I get my wife to understand how important sex is to me? by Jackie Coleman Let’s look at the options: 1. Being romantic just to get sex will […]
Sex
A man’s need for sex is directly tied into sense of confidence and well-being.
Financial vs. Emotional Security
Would my wife really choose to give up financial benefits for me to be home more? By Jackie Coleman You’re slaving away at work, even picking up a few extra […]
Fighting Back with Love
Women often unintentionally push their man away when she’s hurt and upset about something to see if he really loves her enough to pursue her. We can be prickly and […]
Strangers Among Us
Overall: after being married for 10+ years we are total strangers to each other and thinking about packing it in. Any advice? By Jackie Coleman Instant news updates, instant […]
Men are Wired to Admire but…
Are you excusing men for lusting after other women/porn? An emotionally stirring issue. No matter where I speak – a women’s event, marriage event, on the radio, a collegecampus – […]
Unwanted Intrusive Thoughts
Men can’t NOT notice an attractive woman, and sometimes those thoughts pop up in his brain…whether he wants them to or not!
How to Talk to Your Wife About the Effort She Puts Into Her Appearance
How do I talk to my wife about how important it is to me that she put an effort into her appearance? By Jackie Coleman Warning: you are about to […]
Advice for Couples Struggling With Pornography
My marriage is in a breakdown because my wife discovered I’m struggling with porn and she’s having a hard time with this – what do we do? By Jackie Coleman […]