Posts Tagged "Sex"

Sex and Men’s True Hidden Desire

Sex and Men’s True Hidden Desire

Wives, does your husband want sex…again? It’s not just a physical need — it’s also about emotions. Here are three things he’s not saying out loud when he comes to you for sex: 1. “I need to feel desirable.”  We women may think sex is just a physical need for a guy, but that’s not most of what is going on….read more →

3 Things Underneath Your Husband’s Desire for Sex

3 Things Underneath Your Husband’s Desire for Sex

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.”  We women may think sex is just a physical need for a guy, but that’s not most of what is going on. When his wife responds to him – or initiates it herself! – it meets a deep emotional need to feel that his wife…read more →

3 ways viewing porn harms your wife

3 ways viewing porn harms your wife

Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. Although nearly all men are visually tempted today, and many hate and struggle against the temptation, most of those same men also think of it as a private thing that has nothing to do…read more →

3 Reasons Your Wife Plays Games Instead of Telling You What She Wants

3 Reasons Your Wife Plays Games Instead of Telling You What She Wants

Not long ago, someone we know got engaged via a multi-stage, elaborate proposal that had clearly taken an immense amount of thought and effort.  A mutual friend, upon hearing the story, told him, “Good job.  Only 9,999,999 tests left to go.”  The lucky groom, of course, wondered: why do women “test” and “play games” with their men at all?  He…read more →

2 Things to Do if You Want Your Teen to Talk to You

2 Things to Do if You Want Your Teen to Talk to You

“How was school?” (Shrug.)  “Fine.” “What did you do?” “Nothin’.” If this sounds familiar, join the club!   Not only do I have two teenagers, but I’ve interviewed and surveyed about 3,000 of them for For Parents Only and other books, and discovered that the condition homo teenagesapiens silenticus (otherwise known as “being a teenager who is uninformatively silent”) affects many…read more →

3 reasons why you should initiate sex with your husband

3 reasons why you should initiate sex with your husband

Although this article is for women, I’m sure some astonished men are looking in, and asking, “What do you mean why you should initiate sex?!”   To guys, the answer is completely obvious!  It reminds me of that line from the movie City Slickers when Billy Crystal’s character tells his friend, “Women need a reason to have sex.  Men just…read more →

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.”  We women may think sex is just a…read more →

Getting Over the Fear of Lingerie

Getting Over the Fear of Lingerie

I spend a lot of time talking about lingerie. A lot. As a speaker and author, most of my job consists of going around the country and encouraging women to do scary things. Like tackle their clutter, or have that hard conversation with their kids. And for some, the scariest thing I ask them to do is to put on…read more →

Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

Should I Pray For God to Make Me More … Um … Amorous?

Dear Shaunti, Since sex is so important to my husband, and since you say it’s really about a man feeling desired by his wife, what can I do to get engaged and interested instead of just “accommodating” him? I know that just “going along with it” would be pretty depressing for him. But to be honest, I don’t feel that…read more →