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Good Dates Begin With Good Compliments

Dear Shaunti, I’m in deep soup with my wife, and I don’t know why. We went out for a really nice dinner last night – an actual date without the kids. We were both excited about it beforehand, but by the time we got in the car, it was obvious she was bummed. At the restaurant, she finally told me…read more →

Worn Out from Worry: How Can I Help My Wife Stop Obsessing?

Dear Shaunti, I love my wife, but it drives me crazy when she obsesses over something minor, like whether she forgot to send in the money for our son’s field trip, or whether her friend is mad at her because she didn’t return a call. I’ve tried to get her to see that it is making her crazy, too, but…read more →

Priming Your Wife for Primetime

Dear Shaunti, It seems like I am always the one to initiate sex. Even when I do, my wife sometimes seems less than enthusiastic.  In other ways, we have a great relationship, but this is a big deal for me and it really bums me out. What can I do so that she finds me desirable?  –Frustrated Dear Frustrated, Well,…read more →

Want to Fix Your Wife’s Problem? Step 1: Listen. Step 2: Repeat.

Dear Shaunti, My girlfriend tells me all the time that “I don’t want you to fix it; I just want you to listen!” But that’s after I’ve been listening for 10 minutes! Seriously? –Confused Dear Confused, That’s what my husband thought too! Jeff thought “listening” meant to just let me talk about whatever was on my mind, sit there and…read more →

Menopause, Aging and the Sexual Female

As you know, this series has been addressing some specific questions about physical intimacy that I get asked a lot at my conferences but which need a true expert to answer. I think Dr Townsend’s final piece in this series will be helpful to many but part of that helpfulness involves being a bit more, um, ‘specific’ in her advice, and that meant more adult content and language than I was comfortable with on a blog feed! :-). This article addresses some of the challenges that menopause may bring for sexual intimacy.

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Health and the Sexual Female by Dr. Sue Townsend

As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my research but aren’t directly addressed. Since I’m not a counselor, I don’t necessarily know the answers to some of these specialized questions. So I went looking for answers from a…read more →

For Women Only

About This Book Discover the Truth He Wants You to Know The man in your life carries important feelings so deep inside he barely knows they’re there, much less how to talk about them. Yet your man genuinely wants you to “get” him—to understand his inner life, to know his fears and needs, to hear what he wishes he could…read more →

Conjugal Conundrum (Part 2) by Dr. Sue Townsend

As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my research but aren’t directly addressed. Since I’m not a counselor, I don’t necessarily know the answers to some of these specialized questions. So I went looking for answers from a…read more →

She Would Rather Have Your Ear

When we conducted a national survey of women for our book, For Men Only, my husband Jeff and I learned that one of the highest felt needs for many women was for their husbands to listen to them.  Now, every guy has heard, ‘she doesn’t want you to fix it, she just wants you to listen.’ Most recently, this point…read more →

Conjugal Conundrum (Part 1) by Dr. Sue Townsend

As I’m on the road speaking to women’s groups, men’s groups and groups of married couples, I get a lot of questions about sex and intimacy that relate to my research but aren’t directly addressed. Since I’m not a counselor, I don’t necessarily know the answers to some of these specialized questions. So I went looking for answers from a…read more →

Impact of Specific Medical Conditions and Suggestions

The barometer of the health of a marriage is the level of intimacy in the relationship. Most serious medical conditions or injuries have some sexual side effects. So what can you do to keep the flames going when your medical condition, accident, or surgery seems to douse the fire in your marriage? Here are some practical suggestions from Christian sex therapist Dr. Sue Townsend.

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Sexual Attraction in the Workplace

Moody Radio Interview – How to Navigate Attraction in the Workplace Listen to this one hour debate between Christopher Heuertz and Shaunti Feldhahn about whether or not Iowa dentist Dr. James Knight was justified when he fired employee, Melissa Nelson, who worked as a dental assistant for being “irresistible”.  Dr. Knight complained Nelson wore tight clothes and was a “detriment” to…read more →