For Women

Solving Grumpy Guy

Dear Shaunti: My husband is an involved dad, a leader at our church, the type of guy people look to for advice, and he goes over and above his requirements on the job.  But he is often grumpy and withdrawn at home.   He gets upset at the littlest things I say.  He seems to think I’m hard to please, but…read more →

Wives, Think Before You Blurt!

Welcome to Marriage Mondays! Each Monday, join me as I share my top findings on the little, eye-opening things that make a big difference in creating great marriages and relationships. Today’s post is one of a series on the surprising truths that men and women tend not to know about each other–and which change everything once we do.     Tip…read more →

Wives, be sensitive to his spending sensitivity

Photo Credit: Yuri Yu. Samoilov via Compfight cc Tip # 43: Wives, be sensitive to his spending sensitivity Recently, a stay-at-home mom told me that her laid-back husband had recently become a “control freak” about how much money she was spending on things. She was upset that even though he made a good income and she always stuck to their budget, he had begun…read more →

Wives, Be Aware of Your Hubby’s Secret Romantic Fears

Tip #42: Wives, Be Aware of Your Hubby’s Secret Romantic Fears Most sitcoms today have a staple character and plotline about men and romance: the bumbling husband who forgets his wife’s birthday or buys his wife a power saw for Valentine’s Day. The audience always howls with laughter when some poor fellow tries a big romantic outing and everything goes…read more →

His Temper May Be Fiery, But Your Criticism Is Explosive Fuel

Dear Shaunti: My husband has an anger problem, and I don’t know how to handle it. We’ve always had “intense discussions,” but lately he’s been getting furious and walking away. Last night, we got into a fight on our way out of a restaurant, just because I told him that he shouldn’t have eaten so much, and he definitely shouldn’t…read more →

My Way or the Highway: Be Careful What You Wish For

Dear Shaunti,  My husband says I always want things my way. And he’s right to a certain extent because, honestly, in my mind, there are just right and wrong ways to do things. The house simply should be neat instead of messy. Is that too much to ask? Or no, he shouldn’t let the kids spread their homework all over…read more →

Check Yourself as a Mate: Being a Wife Instead of a Boss

Dear Shaunti, My husband runs his own construction business, and even though he’s in charge it really does feel like “our” business in most ways. I used to be in the industry, so I know the market. And I’ve been very supportive of him dipping into our personal finances to personally pay our staff when things have been tight. He…read more →

Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy

Photo Credit: mark sebastian via Compfight cc Tip #36: Wives, build a deeper connection with your husband through physical intimacy.  There are times when it feels like some “connection” gets lost between spouses. Long days, busy schedules and running around with the kids add physical distance. And confusion, frustration, misunderstandings, stress and grumpiness add emotional distance. Both husbands and wives instinctively want to find…read more →

Win a Marriage Library – with the Christian Marriage Author Pinterest Board

Win a Marriage Library of TWELVE Books–with the Christian Marriage Author Pinterest Board! I am so excited about being a part of the new Christian Marriage Authors Pinterest board, started by an amazing woman, Sheila Wray Gregoire! The board features a bunch of great Christian authors who have lots of great insight and wisdom to share about marriage from many different…read more →