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When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part Three

This is the third and final article in a 3-part series written by Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma, offering hope, encouragement, and direction to wives who have a stronger sexual drive than their husbands.  In Part One and Part Two, Dr. Sytsma pointed out that wives with a stronger sexual drive than their husbands will need to prepare to…read more →

How do I convince my wife to let me see her body?

Dear Shaunti, OK, awkward question but here goes: how can I convince my wife to let me see her in all her glory?  We have a decent sex life, we don’t have any real marriage problems, and I’m careful to not check out other women.  But she still seems to feel like how she looks is not “enough” somehow.  She…read more →

When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part Two

This is the second of three articles in a series written by Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma, offering hope, encouragement, and direction to wives who have a stronger sexual drive than their husbands.  In Part One, Dr. Sytsma encouraged these women to first create a good environment for communication, make sure they are managing their own expectations, and not…read more →

When She Has the Stronger Sex Drive; Part One

Ladies, if YOU are the one with the stronger sex drive, here’s expert hope and help! Hi everyone. I’m thrilled to share a series of three important guest articles by nationally-recognized sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma, offering hope, encouragement, and direction to wives who have a stronger sexual drive than their husbands – a situation that probably happens in one…read more →

My ADD son is checking out in school

Dear Shaunti, My 6th-grade son is discouraged in school and I’m worried he’s starting to check out.  He tries hard, but he has some learning issues (like ADD) that create real academic challenges.  Where his sisters get A’s with little effort, he can work for hours and get B’s and C’s on his tests.  And the teachers are great, but…read more →

Believing the Best Isn’t Letting Him Off the Hook

Dear Shaunti, In one of your books, you say it’s important to believe the best of your spouse’s intentions.  But all that does is give your spouse license to hurt you again and again without consequences.  Who cares what their intentions are, if the result is pain?  My husband says things that are harsh to me and the kids, and…read more →

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud

Welcome to the weekly list at Ask Shaunti! Each Wednesday, join me as I share a few of the little, eye-opening things about men, women, and relationships that make a big difference in marriages and families. Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.”  We women may think sex is just a…read more →

When Talking Politics with your Mate, Disarm and Listen

Dear Shaunti, I can’t wait until the presidential election is over.  My husband and I were on the same page politically until a few months ago, but are now very divided.  I literally can’t skim past a cable news channel without my husband trying to force me into a discussion about a political issue. He’s trying to “convert” me to…read more →

Kick Those Other Gals Out of His Head

Dear Shaunti, I recently heard you speak at a conference, and I just finished reading Through a Man’s Eyes. I thought I’d be feeling better about my husband working so hard to avert his eyes when he sees another attractive woman, but I’m still struggling big-time. When I catch my husband looking sideways, I instantly spiral down. Worry and sadness…read more →