For Men

Connection Resurrection: Bringing Back The Spark

Dear Shaunti: I’ve been married for 15 years, and my wife is a great mom, a great wife, and my best friend. I feel like things are going great. My wife, on the other hand, has started telling me that we’ve “settled” for a mediocre marriage. I tell her I love her every day, but sometimes she will still say…read more →

Prep Time In the Bathroom Could Pay Off In the Bedroom

Dear Shaunti: I used to really look forward to our Friday night date nights, but they’ve become a source of tension. For meetings at work, my wife is spot on time. But for our dates, she takes SO LONG getting ready you’d think she’s about to compete on “Dancing with the Stars.” I’m a pretty patient guy, but I’m tired…read more →

Marriage Mondays: Encourage Your Wife to Resolve Her Worries

Tip #24: Men, instead of saying “Just don’t let it bother you” encourage your wife’s actions to resolve what is worrying her. Husbands, imagine this scene: all week your wife has been a bit preoccupied and upset about something going on with her relationship with her mom. You have listened to her, encouraged her, she has talked it through more…read more →

Men, Listen and Understand Your Wife’s Feelings First

Marriage Mondays: Men, Listen and Understand Your Wife’s Feelings First Every guy has been there. Your wife comes home from work or school or managing a playdate, very upset about something that happened. Let’s say that someone she thought was a close co-worker threw her under the bus and got her in trouble with her boss. So she arrives home…read more →

Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time

Marriage Month Tip 19: Men: If you want more sex, give her better anticipation time Although some couples are the opposite in this way, in many cases the husband wishes his wife would be eager more often. Guys, there is a way to solve this, but you have learn something critical about women – and about yourself and your approach….read more →

Your Wife Just Wants to Be With You

Marriage Month Tip Of The Day: Your Wife Just Wants to Be With You I met a woman recently named Anna. For years now, she has been talking about how great it would be for the family to rent a nice cottage at a beach resort for a week. For her birthday, her husband surprised her with reservations for fall…read more →

She Values Your Time More than Your Cash

Dear Shaunti, For years now, my wife has been talking about how great it would be to rent a condo and spend a full week in a cottage at the beach. So for her birthday I surprised her with reservations for fall break. She was so excited – until she learned that I agreed to take an extra shift at…read more →

How Healthy He is Matters to Her

I don’t think there are many who would be surprised to hear that in my interviews and surveys with over 1,000 men for my book For Women Only, men emphatically stated that it had an emotional impact to see that their wife was making an effort to take care of herself for him.  It makes a guy feel loved because…read more →

Gain Respect By Being Direct

Dear Shaunti, How do I get my wife to not play games, and just share what she’s thinking? Two days ago, we dropped off our youngest child at college, so my wife and I planned two days of empty-nester sightseeing on the way back. Yesterday was fine, but this morning, my wife seemed down, but she wouldn’t tell me why….read more →