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Guys: 3 ways to listen well to your wife

Men, finish this sentence.  Your wife is upset and says “I don’t want you to fix it, I just want you to ____.” Most of you have heard that… and most of you are confused because you think you are listening!  So, guys, from our research about women here are 3 simple tips to clear up the confusion so you…read more →

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife happy.  And in many ways you already do!  But if you want to hit the happiness jackpot, here are the four phrases that (in roughly 80% of cases) will put you into hero category: 1. “Here, let me do that…”  Saying “What can I do…read more →

Four things I would tell the woman who called me a “dumb broad”

Dear sister,   You say in your angry Amazon review of For Women Only and For Men Only, that a therapist recommended the books to help your failing marriage. Yet the For Women Only research has, in your view, made things worse by pointing out why your husband isn’t happy. (And presumably, why you aren’t, either.)  You called me a…read more →

Dads: Four Phrases a Daughter Needs to Hear From You

Dads, we know you love your daughter.  And you know you love your daughter.  But you might be surprised at much she needs to hear it.  In the research with teens and preteens for For Parents Only, I found that these four phrases have a lot more impact than you might think.  And as you’ll see, they are especially powerful…read more →

Want a Truly Happy Holiday? Four Ways You Should “Let It Go”

Embed from Getty Images “Let It Go” is more than a Frozen anthem for the pre-school set.  It’s also a hard-core success strategy for giving yourself – and those around you — a truly happy holiday!  I saw the power of a few of these little actions in the research for The Surprising Secrets of Highly Happy Marriages, but it applies…read more →

3 things every boy needs from his mom

In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to build her son up – or (accidentally) tear him down.  Whether your son is five or fifteen, several phrases are a big, big deal.  Here are three: 1. “I’m so…read more →

We’re a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too!

We’re a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too! Check out iDisciple, a platform that provides an engaging on-the-go resource for growing closer to Christ. We hope you enjoy the app! You also can find additional content from Shaunti using iDisciple’s Life Themes, which brings transformational content to your fingertips. We know your walk with God is unique…read more →

For Women: Five Reasons to Have Sex with the Lights On

Yes, the idea is scary for many women!  But in 12 years of researching the things our husbands wish we knew but don’t know how to say, I heard the heart behind this wish – and saw five surprising reasons to take the risk. When he knows you want him, it increases intimacy.  A husband is powerfully impacted by knowing his…read more →

Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

1. “Just don’t think about it.”  Women have no idea what that means.  If she’s worried that her best friend suddenly isn’t talking to her, she has no way to not think about it.  As men, you have this amazing ability to close out an unwelcome thought – almost like closing out a window on your computer desktop. But as…read more →