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Don’t forget this simple way to make your wife happy

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I know. (I’m sure she’d tell you otherwise, but it’s true.) But I just don’t talk a lot, and it is hard for me to remember to say things like “You look pretty” out loud. Last week, she had an epic melt-down while I was watching TV….read more →

Every woman desperately wants to hear this essential phrase

Every little girl dreams of finding her prince and knowing she is his princess. Husbands, you need to know that even after years of marriage, your wife probably still has some of that little girl inside. A little girl who wants to know she is still your leading lady. And one of the greatest ways you can get that truth to “stick”…read more →

Men, Avoid This Sneaky Trap That Will Kill Your Marriage

Last week, speaking primarily to women, we revealed the sneaky trap that will quietly but efficiently kill any marriage: Never, ever, ever think your spouse “shouldn’t” be hurt by something that wouldn’t hurt you. The same trap can and often does ensnare men. For both men and women, we often completely forget (or brush off altogether) the fact that we…read more →

Will My Man Love Me Even When I Act Unlovable?

Several people have passed along this hilarious GIF – but have also wondered why it strikes such a chord to see a little girl’s ugly tantrum and the caption “I need a man who loves me even when I act like this.”  In fact, in a recent column, I explained to men (based on my For Men Only research) why…read more →

3 Reasons Your Wife Plays Games Instead of Telling You What She Wants

Not long ago, someone we know got engaged via a multi-stage, elaborate proposal that had clearly taken an immense amount of thought and effort.  A mutual friend, upon hearing the story, told him, “Good job.  Only 9,999,999 tests left to go.”  The lucky groom, of course, wondered: why do women “test” and “play games” with their men at all?  He…read more →

Guys: 3 ways to listen well to your wife

Men, finish this sentence.  Your wife is upset and says “I don’t want you to fix it, I just want you to ____.” Most of you have heard that… and most of you are confused because you think you are listening!  So, guys, from our research about women here are 3 simple tips to clear up the confusion so you…read more →

Men: Four phrases that make you a hero to your wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife happy.  And in many ways you already do!  But if you want to hit the happiness jackpot, here are the four phrases that (in roughly 80% of cases) will put you into hero category: 1. “Here, let me do that…”  Saying “What can I do…read more →

Dads: Four Phrases a Daughter Needs to Hear From You

Dads, we know you love your daughter.  And you know you love your daughter.  But you might be surprised at much she needs to hear it.  In the research with teens and preteens for For Parents Only, I found that these four phrases have a lot more impact than you might think.  And as you’ll see, they are especially powerful…read more →

We’re a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too!

We’re a fan of iDisciple – and we think you will be, too! Check out iDisciple, a platform that provides an engaging on-the-go resource for growing closer to Christ. We hope you enjoy the app! You also can find additional content from Shaunti using iDisciple’s Life Themes, which brings transformational content to your fingertips. We know your walk with God is unique…read more →

Is your wife worried about something? 3 things to NEVER say.

1. “Just don’t think about it.”  Women have no idea what that means.  If she’s worried that her best friend suddenly isn’t talking to her, she has no way to not think about it.  As men, you have this amazing ability to close out an unwelcome thought – almost like closing out a window on your computer desktop. But as…read more →