Unwritten Rules of Men

Tell Your Drama to Your Mama (or Your Girlfriends)

Dear Shaunti, I’m always balancing my roles as a mom, wife and businesswoman, but I work almost entirely with men who don’t “get” how much more I have to juggle than they do—especially when there’s a problem at home. I recently had an especially stressful few days where my husband and kids were sick, I was nearing a deadline on…read more →

2 Ways Flex-Time Moms Can Prevent Resentment from Male Co-Workers

Dear Shaunti,  I work full-time, have 3 small children and work a flex schedule. This works really well for my family but my male co-workers get frustrated when they can’t reach me during traditional office hours. I’m getting all my work done but I’m worried they’re not viewing me as an equal colleague because they don’t always see me in…read more →

The Foreign Culture of Men’s Minds

Did you ever have to enter an unknown culture for your work?  Did it make you uneasy?  Did you prepare?    Did you read up on the geography, language, rituals, and nuances so that you would be successful? What does this have to do with opposite genders working together?  As noted in my book, For Women Only: What You Need to…read more →

Know Your Audience

In graduate school, one of my favorite classes was Harvard Law School’s renowned Negotiations course.  The professors – the co-authors of Getting to Yes – demonstrated that THE  key to negotiation is to thoroughly understand the other party and their interests.  Know your audience, get inside their head, understand both their interest and their perceptions – including of you –…read more →