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The Male Mind


Husband-Speak: How to Transform His World With Your Words

Imagine a springtime shower without the gentle sound of rain. Or a baseball game without that CRACK of the bat. Or imagine a world where children smile but don’t laugh, friends wave but don’t speak, dogs don’t bark and birds don’t sing. A world without all that would seem flat and weird and strangely empty, right? That is exactly what…read more →

Make Your Husband Happy With the Next-Day Rule

Ladies, imagine that as part of your dream job or volunteer work, you are offered a project that is really exciting, and could also earn you a very welcome financial bonus. You step up to do it. Eager to please your boss, you spend long weeks binge-drinking caramel macchiatos, getting little sleep, and pouring your soul into the work. Finally,…read more →

4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know)

Ladies, if you could improve your relationship with your man by applying a few simple truths, would you?  Seriously: think about that question. Because I’ve found in my research with thousands of men for For Women Only, that the things that light your man up — and which hurt him — are probably quite different from those that would do…read more →

When He Denies Needing Your Help, Here’s Why

Ladies, has your man ever refused to admit that he should go see a doctor or claimed that he knows where he’s going when he is clearly lost? He’s not alone. A man will typically insist that “he’s fine,” that “it’s all good,” that he “doesn’t need help”—even when we might just insist otherwise. My research with men for For…read more →

The Guaranteed Cure for “Grumpy Guy” Syndrome

He’s an involved dad. He’s respected at church. People come to him for advice. He’s an all-around great guy but more and more often he seems to transform into “Mister Grumpy” when he gets home. Either small things seem to upset him, or he easily becomes withdrawn – or both. Wish there was a prescription that would turn your husband…read more →

What NOT to say to your man – ever.

Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for relationships, these three things would be at the top of the list for “What NOT to say to your man.”  Now, don’t get me wrong; I’ve actually said all these things at one point!  You’ve probably said them, too.    And you probably also saw the…read more →

This particular feeling is EXCRUCIATING for men

Dear Shaunti: My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting a new task accomplished. Like, he’s great at carpentry, but it might take him two or three days to figure out how to create a new type of bookcase I want for the kids’ bedroom. But when I offer an opinion or suggest a solution,…read more →

Husband acting grumpy and withdrawn? You can change that!

Ladies, does your man seem to be doing everything right outside of the house, but at home he is often grumpy and withdrawn? Does he seem to be pleasant to everyone but you? Does he get upset over the littlest things you do and say? Do you feel like you are being ignored? If you are nodding yes, yes, yes,…read more →

Women: Three phrases to never say to your husband

Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for relationships, these three things would be at the top of the list for “What NOT to say to your man.”  Now, don’t get me wrong; I’ve actually said all these things at one point!  You’ve probably said them, too.    And you probably also saw the…read more →