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2 Things to Do if You Want Your Teen to Talk to You

“How was school?” (Shrug.)  “Fine.” “What did you do?” “Nothin’.” If this sounds familiar, join the club!   Not only do I have two teenagers, but I’ve interviewed and surveyed about 3,000 of them for For Parents Only and other books, and discovered that the condition homo teenagesapiens silenticus (otherwise known as “being a teenager who is uninformatively silent”) affects many…read more →

Play It Subtle When Talking With Teens

Dear Shaunti, I was driving my 16-year-old daughter home from volleyball practice recently when she brought up a funny comment made by one of the guys she knows at school.  Then she said, “Anna said he told her he was going to ask me to Homecoming.”   I was thrilled she was sharing something like that, since she’s been pretty tight-lipped…read more →

And the Oscar Goes To…My Teen Drama Queen

Dear Shaunti, I love my teenage daughter but how do I get her to stop being such a drama queen? Everything is a big tear-fest. She begged to play volleyball – but now when she doesn’t want to go to practices, she cries about the fact that none of the girls like her. And yesterday, she came home from a…read more →

Why Your Teen Won’t Talk to You

Dear Shaunti, In the last few months, it has gotten so hard for my teenage daughter to talk to me. I learn everything from listening to her tell her friends. Yesterday I overheard her telling a friend about being a finalist in a writing contest at school. When I asked her about it, she said she didn’t want to tell…read more →

Why your teen won’t talk to you

Dear Shaunti, In the last few months, it has gotten so hard for my teenage daughter to talk to me. I learn everything from listening to her tell her friends. Yesterday I overheard her telling a friend about being a finalist in a writing contest at school. When I asked her about it, she said she didn’t want to tell…read more →

Talking to Your Teen

Talking to a teenager is like… It’s amazing what comes up when you do a Google search with those words! Talking to a teenager is like talking to aliens. Talking to teenagers is like trying to nail Jell-O to a tree. Talking to a teenager is like pulling weeds. None of these things sounds particularly inviting. Yet, as parents we…read more →

Parents: A Word abount Instagram

This is an amazing article on Instagram that every parent of a middle schooler (or even high schooler) has to read.  When Lysa TerKeurst and I wrote Made to Crave for Young Women, I began thinking a lot about what social media does to how kids think about themselves.  This article nails it, and opens our eyes to just how…read more →

Can You Hear Me Now?

“Honey, how was school today?” “I told you – fine.” A friend of mine relayed this conversation, sad and frustrated.  After listening to her teenage son grunt out a series of monosyllabic answers to her questions, this mom looked at him and just sighed in exasperation.  She then backed up and tried again, this time imploring him to share. “Honestly,…read more →

Don’t Freak Out!

Don’t Freak Out!  That advice seems so simple in theory, but if you have children – especially teens and tweens — it is pretty natural to react in a way that they interpret as ‘freaking out’, which shuts down lines of communication without you ever realizing it. I must have gotten 20 plus texts the other weekend, it was hilarious. …read more →

It’s Not My Fault!

Mistakes are a natural part of being human. Unfortunately, so is blaming someone else. In an article for Living with Teenagers, Shaunti Feldhan explains how you can help your teen come to grips with-and take responsibility for-their miscues.

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