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Big Fight? What Every Husband Needs To Know

Men, have you ever found yourself feeling frustrated when, after a fight with your wife, she seems to doubt your relationship and commitment? It made perfect sense to you that you stopped talking to her when you were mad. You were worried you might say something stupid and be a total jerk. But the next day, after things have simmered…read more →

How to Respect Your Husband When You Really Don’t Trust Him

Dear Shaunti, I recently read For Women Only and I now realize how important it is for my husband to know I respect him – which I do. But I come from a long line of “strong women” (as my dad puts it) and none of us is afraid to voice an opinion. Including telling our husbands how to do things, like…read more →

The Shock Value of the Competent Dad

I remember a couple of years ago around Mother’s Day, Jeff and I were watching television one night when we saw a commercial for Publix, one of the big grocery-store chains in our area. The television ad showed several scenes of different men in different houses, secretly helping their kids cook breakfast for Mom, and then prepare to bring her…read more →

Are Legos Just For Boys? It’s Complicated.

One of the things that years of research with men and women, boys and girls, has taught me is that the genders are just (gasp!) different. It always stuns me when people push back against this idea – as if acknowledging differences will somehow suck our society through the space-time-continuum, back to the bad old days when there were “Want…read more →

Husband-Speak: How to Transform His World With Your Words

Imagine a springtime shower without the gentle sound of rain. Or a baseball game without that CRACK of the bat. Or imagine a world where children smile but don’t laugh, friends wave but don’t speak, dogs don’t bark and birds don’t sing. A world without all that would seem flat and weird and strangely empty, right? That is exactly what…read more →

The Foreign Culture Of A Man’s Mind And How To Navigate It 

Have you ever travelled to a foreign country with a very different culture for your work? Were you uneasy? Did you read up on the geography, language, rituals, and nuances so that you would be successful? When I was working as a financial analyst at the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, my primary responsibility was investigating and analyzing the…read more →

Make Sure Your Man Is One Of The 25%

Ladies, do you love your husband, but find yourself regularly irritated by that little thing that he does? He’s a great guy and all, but Ugh! If he would only stop parking in the mud when he takes the kids to the ball practice. Or fold the laundry instead of just pulling it out of the dryer and leaving it…read more →

The Secret to Living With Purpose Every Day

As a busy analyst, author, and speaker my days are full so it can be easy to lose track of time. As a wife to my husband, Jeff and a mom to our two great kids, I have to protect my precious time and be careful not to let it flash before my eyes. My kids may be teenagers at…read more →

How to Regain His Love and Restore Your Relationship

Dear Shaunti, My husband and I have been married 5 years and I love him, but we’ve been arguing a lot lately.  We both work a lot and have two children, so we spend a good bit of time apart. I tend to be a control freak and, as my husband says, I panic if something doesn’t go the way I…read more →

Make Your Husband Happy With the Next-Day Rule

Ladies, imagine that as part of your dream job or volunteer work, you are offered a project that is really exciting, and could also earn you a very welcome financial bonus. You step up to do it. Eager to please your boss, you spend long weeks binge-drinking caramel macchiatos, getting little sleep, and pouring your soul into the work. Finally,…read more →

How to Surprise Your Wife In Ways That Will Delight Her

Men, have you ever been surprised when you’ve tried to surprise your wife? I heard just such a story recently, and I’ll bet you can feel this guy’s pain. Even though baseball tickets at the new stadium were WAY out of their budget, this guy knew his wife would LOVE to go – and he unexpectedly managed to get tickets! Not…read more →

4 Secrets in Your Man’s Heart (That You Need to Know)

Ladies, if you could improve your relationship with your man by applying a few simple truths, would you?  Seriously: think about that question. Because I’ve found in my research with thousands of men for For Women Only, that the things that light your man up — and which hurt him — are probably quite different from those that would do…read more →