What teenage guys said they would advise girls to realize…
Imagine that there is an auditorium full of teenage girls, including your little sister, and you have been asked to give these girls your advice about moving forward in a world of guys. You are behind a curtain, so you are totally anonymous. What’s your best heart-to-heart advice for them?
Author’s Note: The following comments include results from national scientific survey and many test surveys. Please note that we do not necessarily agree with all the comments, but we wanted girls to see what the guys were actually saying. Some comments have been edited to remove inappropriate material, such as obscenities.
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Be yourself, because you are more valuable than you think.
There is one life to live. Dont ever wait on someone. You are still young and must live your life to the fullest.
That it’s not the end of the world- you can move on.
There are plenty of fishes in the sea. Its ok to move on after a loved one. There is better out there
Be strong and confident in everything u do
Be yourself and don’t change for anyone.
Just get over them and there are plenty of other guys out there
Well, moving forward might be hard but if you are considering moving on, look at who you are and who he is, and more than likely you will find out that you are a lot better then he is. Otherwise you would not be considering moving on. Then you would realize that you don’t have to settle for just some guy but you can find the right guy.
Be yourself- Don’t do anything you don’t want to do. Don’t feel too committed to guys.
To be yourself and have a guy that likes you for you
Be who you are and do what you think is right, not what others want you to do.
Don’t give in to any form of peer pressure
Do what you want just make sure the dude you’re going for won’t mess you up. If your guy can’t respect you or his ego is too big then you are WAY too good for him.
That just because you are a female that doesn’t make you not as good as a man. We are all equal and can have equal rights and chances and oppourtunites. Just be yourself.
Just be yourself and be honest with the ones you love
Just be yourself
Be yourself but make sure that you project the image of someone who likes herself
Be real. Be yourself no matter what.
Go talk to them they might like you
If you want a successful relationship find a guy who’s nice and knows how to treat a lady and don’t mess with guy’s emotions.
To be themselves! Don’t act different to get us to like you!
Just find the one thats right for you
Do not date every guy that you come across. There is more to dating than that. Do not do anything that you feel uncomfortable with or that you may regret down the road. Do not get into a relationship unless you are really willing to stick through the tough times.
Don’t be a coward and drop out when hard times come upon you. Stick through thick and thin.
Be yourself — but don’t be afraid to be assertive and let the guys know your true feelings about them. Don’t be afraid.
Find one who loves you for who you are, not for what u look like.
Know what you want from the get-go. Let the guy know whether you want a relationship or just to have fun. Also never be afraid to tell a guy you like him if we know that a girl admires us you somehow become more attractive in our eyes. Nothing’s worse than finding out years later that an attractive girl liked you all along.
Don’t be stupid and act different. Just be yourself.
Just be yourself and hopefully you’ll have a great relationship with them.
Be yourself. Don’t try to mold yourself into the image society creates. That way, when you find that perfect guy you’ll know he likes you for who you really are.
Be yourself and don’t feel like you have to act like everyone else.
Just be yourself and give everything at least one shot
Be yourself! Life is full of problems and you are expected to make mistakes- its just how you handle them and act afterword that makes you who you are down the road
Don’t be shy- be yourself!
Never to lose sight of who you truly are and what your own hopes and dreams are.
Never give up, and don’t let people say you can’t do something just because you’re a girl and that’s supposedly a man’s job
Be true to yourself. Just because he says he loves you doesn’t mean he really does.
Be blunt- guys like that. If you want something, say it.
Don’t listen to what everyone thinks, just be happy with yourself. And if you’re not happy with yourself do what it takes to be happy–except extremes. Guys don’t want crazy girls. Make guys work for it. And all they really want is for girls to rub their neck, go out to eat with them, and sometimes guys do enjoy to cuddle
I would tell them be yourself and let your personality shine through. Beauty is skin deep. And if a guy likes you for you, then stick with the guy!
Just be confident and be yourself, and guys will like you.
Be yourself for once. Be strong intellectually and use everything you can to achieve your goals. Screw what ridiculous beliefs and things so called “average society” says.
Just be yourself! You don’t have to change yourself to get guys. The guys are the ones that should change for a girl…we should be glad you girls exist.
Follow your instincts. Don’t believe the stereotypes of horny men. Be true to what you want/need.
Follow your heart – its a simple as that
Just be different.
Relax and don’t worry anyone- be yourself.
Remember what’s important to you.
Honestly I would teach them to be confident. Girls are still brought up seeing tall lanky supermodels being called beautiful, and they believe that if they don’t look the same way that they’re ugly. Women need to be more confident whether that be confidence in their appearance or even in their ability to talk to a guy. A girl who knows what she wants and isn’t afraid to show it is the most appealing girl of all.
Be sympathetic, smart, and funny to succeed in relationships!
No matter what, just be yourself.
When a guy gets you down, don’t be sad there’s tons of guys in the world
Never lose sight of your own wants, needs and comfort.
You’re as smart and able as anyone else so never let anyone, guy or girl, make you feel otherwise.
Be honest and sincere. It’s something that I personally require in any relationship.
Be aggressive. Be independent- you don’t need a guy.
Just be dominant and never let a guy tell you what to do. Always be strong and control your own destiny.
Just let them know how you want to take things and stick with it.
Just be yourself and things will work out ok
Just be yourself
Don’t be afraid to be yourself. If they don’t like you for you, then they aren’t worth your time. Have fun together but don’t forget about your friends because the guys will come and go but your friends will always be there in the end.
I Dare you to live. Don’t look back on all the opportunities where you didn’t step out. Live from your heart. You know what you want to do…Do it.
Don’t hold yourself back; don’t hold your life back for a person. I’m not saying not to take it seriously. There’s other people out there. Date one at a time. But, if you have aspirations, ministry, if you wanted to do ministry, but the girl you’re dating is down on being a minister’s wife… don’t hold back your potential for another person. You have to be effective by yourself first.
Rent the movie, Sweet 16.
Don’t waste time in the now. Build for the future.
Don’t be afraid to be yourself. If they don’t like you for you then they aren’t worth your time. Have fun together but don’t forget about your friends because the guys will come and go but your friends will always be there in the end.
Wear sunscreen… tip well… Understand your identity. Before you can understand who you are, must know who God and Christ are. Not because of your parents or friends. Is this something you want to believe? Once you know God and Christ, you can figure out who you are. Then you’ll understand where you’re going and what you’re going to do. Or, you’ll always be looking, never content. Good grades, college, etc., will always fall short if you’re not in God’s purposes. They’ll never be fully realized.
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Protect your body, and be careful, because you are more valuable than you know.
A lot of guys will trick you into doing thing you don’t want to do. Don’t have sex.
Protect your virginity
Not to start dating until you are 21
Don’t have sex!!!!
Girls when you get a guy to like you and you start dating don’t give him your full trust- make him earn it.
Don’t let guys use you and break your heart… Don’t trust too openly and be sure you really know someone before you get involved with them.
Always keep a positive mind and take it one step at a time.
I would tell them to accomplish their goals and to focus on God rather than on boys or lust.
If you really love one another through spiritual, all physical stuff is good, only in context of Godly relationships.
Don’t move too fast.
Don’t worry about how a guy claims to be. Get to know them and just let things go from there. Just take it slow and see what they are about whether its lust or love.
One thing that i would tell them is don’t ever let anyone make you feel or do anything you don’t want to or have to do and be independent.
Take your time. Don’t just go a guy because of his looks. Wait until after marriage to have sex. Life is too short to have regrets.
I would just tell them to be careful because most guys just want one thing only…and we all know what that is.
Be careful. Not all guys are just about sex. Some are sweet and caring. Just make sure u can trust the guy ur liking. Make sure he respects u for u. Make sure he treats u like a lady also. Don’t move to fast.
If my sister would be there i would tell them to wait until marriage
Don’t be afraid to say “no” because it could stop bad things from happening to you
There is always someone out in the world for you. Some are not the nicest people on earth. Sometimes it is better to stay single if you do not feel like you should go out with the guy you want to. Always protect yourself.
Stand up for yourself and don’t have sex until marriage.
Be careful and think of God.
That they should save themselves for marriage.
Being in love is the most complicated and simplest feeling you will have to encounter almost for the rest of your life. Not everytime you will get what you want from a guy but a guy can mostly all the time get anything they want from you. So be careful when you look for the guy with the perfect smile bc it can be a lustful of knives.
I would tell them to be careful with guys cuz know that within time a guy’s interest in a girl is sex. Wait until they’re married where they can make good decisions for themselves. The main thing they should worry about is to find a good goal to acheive in their lives. Then when the right moment comes God will provide a relationship.
I would tell them that not all guys are out for just sex. That is a major stereotype. There are a lot of guys that are there for the relationship and they like to build that relationship. So don’t go around selling yourself just because that is what you think you should be doing. The right guy will come eventually. Don’t be so eager to get a guy.
Watch what your doing
Be careful especially at clubs. Most guys are only out for one thing and they will lie, decieve, and trick you… or even just sexually assault you because they are jerks. Always make sure that you are safe and don’t let yourself get put into a bad situation which may later have consequences that you will regret.
Watch out for guys. Many of them think about sex mostly.
I think it is important that females be able to protect themselves from being pushed, abused, or forced to do sexual or abusive things by males. So many males have little respect for females but it is also important to understand that there are so many males who truly care about the females they are involved with. So I hope that these young females are able to successfully make it clear to males that they are human beings with feelings rather than just sexual objects.
Don’t do something that you don’t want to just because he wants to do it.
Don’t have sex
Well girls there are all different types of guys out there- horny, nice, kind, affectionate, ect. so you have to be careful who you talk to and most of all you need to wait till marrage to have sex and not to have sex before marriage so you dont get the risk of sexually transmitted diseases so stay safe and keep yourself.
Always respect yourself
Be careful and use good judgment
Don’t be typical girls. Most don’t have a clue on how to treat a guy right and often fall for the wrong ones that just end up hurting them by taking advantage of their body. Listen to your friends they know what they are talking about.
Try to be as loyal as possible and don’t be afraid to say no to things u r uncomfortable with
Don’t do what everyone else is doing.. do what u feel God says and only when your 100% sure about it
BE Careful with the guys you are with.
Don’t have sex with a guy before marriage.
Make sure he’s the one you are married to before you give up your virginity. That is a very sacred thing and should not just be thrown away.
Be smart and don’t just rush into anything too quickly.
Don’t let the guy control your every move. Try not to get committed right away. There is no rush.
Move at your own pace don’t let the guy pressure you into doing something you don’t want to or will regret down the road.
I would tell them to find the right man. There are nice guys out there all you have to do is look.
There are plenty of guys, so pick the one that fits you and loves you.
Watch yourselves they just want your body
Be careful some guys are mean jerks. If you find the right guy you will know.
Be careful in your love life because your heart can and possibly will get broken
Be safe. If you’re not ready don’t do it.
Be careful who you date because some guys are like cake: you can take them home and they are gone the next day
To not give up your virginity and to don’t get to attached to them or else they’ll break your heart
Watch out for some because they may try to take advantage of you.
To stay from sexual behavior till you’re married
Don’t ignore the younger generation. Older guys will only use you for sex.
Be careful who you choose as a boyfriend
That they should take it slowly because if they rush it they may get hurt or something bad may happen.
Don’t ever think that a guy is just looking at who you are or how smart you are or how well you could do something… They are always thinking of other possibilities with you… Knowing this because i am a guy… Watch out who you let your guard down to.
Find a guy who really loves you and cares about you. Don’t be with someone who is just with you for one certain thing.
Find a nice guy out there that is loving and compassionate but don’t let someone get too attached to you just yet.
Just be cool and when the right time comes you will be ready for the relationship you have been waiting for.
Just keep on dating and don’t let into anything that you might regret just wait for the right guy he will come sooner or later.
Beware some guys will just want to use you to fulfill their desires.
Never compromise your principles
Be careful because some guys are not what they seem to be.
Girls there are lots of guys out there. Some good some bad. Don’t let other people disrespect you. One day your going to be a wife to your husband. Think about whatever you do now will always carry on in your life.
Be careful guys say a lot but let their actions speak for themselves
Watch out for guys because most of them try to get into your pants and hurt your feelings.
There’s not a whole lot to know about guys. They either want sex or romance. Pretty much no in between. The romantics will accept sex but the sex ones will not accept romance. Don’t go for those guys.
I would tell them not to just trust any man because some men are dangerous and will do anything to get in bed with you (some). I would also tell them that only trust a man that you love and you are positive that loves you back with your heart.
Wait for a nice guy who doesn’t rush sex.
Be cautious because some guys can be dangerous
Don’t believe us. We’re probably lying.
Don’t do anything your’re forced into by peer pressure because you might regret it later on.
Don’t get into a guy too fast-you’ll probably get hurt, it’s not worth your feelings.
Don’t rush things
Be careful with guys cause there’s alot of heartbreakers who just want sex. Every step u take needs to be that u feel open and ready for any kind of situation that comes along. Stay prepared- no one’s perfect
MOST guys are going to try to get one thing and that is sex. You have to find the guy that is going to respect you and will not want just sex. Like me.
Don’t trust guys because guys are disgusting.
There are some who are out there just for you and others who are out there for sex. Many are out there to abuse you, because many are immature. Take time to make friends and explore the world around you. Stay opened to new ideas, styles and positive personalities. Make positive peers and have an open relationship with someone influential and responsible in your family not necessarily your parents. In the end make smart decisions about boyfriends and don’t be scared to explore certain things; learn about yourself- your needs, your wants and about others needs, wants, and curiosities. Above all respect your body and others. This is the best time of your life dont waste it in wrapped in drama and negative consequences.
I would tell them not to give a guy your all because he will leave you hurt and brokenhearted
Don’t let them pressure you until the time is right in marriage.
Just be ready for broken hearts.
Many guys just want sex so be careful
Be careful who you choose
Dont have sex with anyone. It’s just wrong before marrige.
99% of the guys out there aren’t worth it. If you want to find the good 1% you’ll have to get hurt somewhere along the road.
Don’t sleep around. Guys may sleep with you but it doesn’t mean they’ll ever care about you.
Do not have a sexually active relationship till you are married
Don’t have sex! Stop and imagine that consequences. I can tell you, it brings problems!
If you are going to go forward with a guy who is in your life or who you are attracted to I would advise you to be careful about your choices and really take the time to go forward with this guy.
Take it slow.
YOU SHOULD WAIT!
That guys want primarily one thing and one thing only and to just be careful to find the right guy and dont get drunk and make a mistake that you’re going to regret down the road
Be careful who you trust
Don’t let any guy have sex with you, even for a second.
Be careful. And here’s my phone number.
The decisions you make can impact the rest of your life so make them wisely
Don’t do it.
Be honest and guard your hearts. Some guys that you meet will want to hurt you so be careful and use both heart and head.
the guy you pick better be the one you want for awhile because guys leave girls for other girls.
Be careful for the guys who move to fast or at as if you two where married.
Be careful who you get involved with and only do things YOU want to do. Don’t let guys pressure you into anything. God gave you the ability to think for yourself for a reason. Use that and know that no matter what others think of you it’s what you think of yourself that matters.
Guys are out to get some. That is all a young guy wants. No matter what that guy tells you all he wants is to get some. So don’t just let that guy get some because he said he loved you.
Guys are pigs
Don’t trust men.
Just be careful no matter what decision you make
Always know the guy u wanna be with. Ask him questions to find out personal stuff before you decide to have a relationship with him. These ways can help u prevent yourself problems with different diseases.
That you should be careful who you pick to go out with. You should let your parents know who your going out with so they know who it is. Just don’t be atrracted by their looks.
Be careful who you bring into your life
Do what you need to do but make sure you don’t leave your comfort zone.
Guys aren’t into kids at an early age- it’s kind of like tying them down. I’m sure nice honest girls don’t want that either. Just don’t be like all the other girls who get pregnant at 15 and you’ll be ok
Make sure that you set boundaries and stick to them. Don’t assume that having fun making out means that the feeling is love. The word love is used too much nowadays. Don’t bounce from one relationship to another. Sometimes being single is all right.
Relationships are built on trust if there is no trust it will probably fail. Physical attraction is not everything just because someone is cute doesn’t mean you will get along. Make sure that you are ready don’t feel pressured.
Don’t be rushed into sex. Save it for marriage.
Be wary of guys. Some are very sincere about their feelings and other hide their sexual desire but seem genuine. Make sure you delve into their minds to find what you like and if they are right for you. Be cautious when you start to date someone. Make sure you find out all the pertinent information quickly.
Don’t do anything stupid. Do what is right.
Guys can be scum so watch out
Make sure you do as much research on the guy as possible. You never know who he might turn out to be down the road.
Be careful. It’s okay to fall in love but remember that guys usually have other intentions than falling in love. It’s very easy to be taken advantage of in today’s world. It may not seem like a big deal now to be physical with numerous guys, but you will regret it when you ready to move on with your life and start a family.
Be careful and talk with another male figure before any advancement.
Don’t feel pressured to have sex.
Don’t let anything or anyone stop you from getting where you want to be. Don’t settle for less than your best.
Don’t do it until marriage or you might reget it later on.
Don’t put out at all.
Be careful in relationships.
As a member of the opposite sex I would like to tell girls to never to fully trust any guy. As terrible as it sounds, most males in the teenage years don’t have much regard for female feelings. There are exceptions, so be fair in who you allow into your life- but never assume the one you are with is the one that is the exception.
Don’t let some jerk take advantage of you.
I would say take things slow. Let the relationship build itself. Don’t try to build it because then you are forcing people to do things. Just take it slow and have fun with the person you are with.
I would tell them to take it slowly. And if their boyfriend wanted to go further in the relationship at a young age that you should question their motives. Do not have sex before marriage. It will complicate things and may make the relationship be based on sexual feelings rather than true love and I believe that the sexual relationship after marriage will be much greater than if there were more than one sexual partner before marriage.
If I knew my sister was in there I’d warn her about guys Libido’s!!!
Be careful because most guys jerks and are only looking for some sex and after that its over so watch out
Don’t let guys force you into anything
I think I will give to these girls my advice that is “you have to be careful with the guys because most of them just want to have you to be a girlfriend if you are a beautiful girl.” If the guy serious to love you he should love and take care your family too not only you.
If you respect yourself, for the most part guys should respect you.
Be safe. Get to know people before you get involved.
That guys don’t always tell the truth. Lots of times they will tell you they love you just to get in your pants.
Do not let them take advantage of you.
Never to trust them as much
Make sure its love and not lust.
It is true all guys think of the same thing … sex no matter if they are a nice guy or a jerk/pervert. The difference is a nice guy will put you first the jerk/perve will get what he wants and be done with you. Regardless of how much you like a guy or what he wants do what is right and right for you.
Be careful who you choose. Some guys are just after sex. Sex is something that should be shared between 2 people who care about each other when they are married.
A guy wants one thing. And that thing is your body. He doesn’t care what it takes or how stupid he will look just as long as he can get you into bed. So be careful.
Watch out for Guys. Most guys are just out for a quick thrill. Don’t give in. See if they are really after you as a person, or just your body. All guys will admit that they don’t even think about having sex with a girl they really like until they are married, because they respect that girl.
Wait and pretty soon you will find the right guy.
Guys are pigs.
Don’t rush in to a relationship because the guy you think your going to spend the rest of your life with won’t be the same in a couple of years.
Don’t do it
Be responsible because the guy won’t be
Don’t do anything that you will regret later in life.
No matter what the guy or what your friends tell you or how cliche this sounds, wait until marriage. Try to think of a more unique gift you can give to your spouse on your honeymoon. Your virginity is the one thing that you can give only once to your spouse. Spend it wisely. And this is coming from a guy, the gender with the reputation for having sex with anything that walks.
Never just have sex
Be careful. Guys are jerks.
Be honest with them and tell them how you feel. Be loyal to them and don’t take advantage of them. Treat them kindly and don’t put yourself in a situation to make their trust in you falter.
A guy is only after one thing and after that they lose their respect for you.
Guys love girls- thats all there is to it . Whether they see you as an object or love you they are going to hit on you. If you want to be an object come on to a guy as sexually strong as possible. If you want to be loved and respected let the guy do the work and set limits
If you have to, deny their sexual desires. It totally works and I’m speaking from experience.
Guys will lie, cheat and do whatever possible to make sexual advances. A good guy will truely be rare and you won’t know it untill the end.
Girls- don’t trust any guy you see or you’re attracted to because some guys are in it for the fun.
We’re idiots with only 2 things on our minds: sports and sex.
If he’s older then you he’s only in it for your body and will use you and abuse you. Never find it wrong or feel bad about dating a younger man because men find it disgusting for another man to date a younger girl.
Go to them- don’t let them make the first move
Do whatever your heart tells you to
Guys only want one thing- sex. And you all should think about the last person you expect as a boyfriend and give everyone a chance
Most guys only want sex
That “love” is a word valued differently by guys and girls: girls see it as the key to life-happiness while guys see it as the key to bed with the chick *there are exceptions
Make decisions and live in the now. Nobody can ever tell what will happen in the future. It is only possible for us to act on our feelings at the current moment.
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Know your intentions and limitations, because your actions convey your image.
Quit watching TV. Movies, E channel will mess you up. You don’t want to look back and see all the opportunities you missed because you were so focused on the here and now… If you’re afraid to stand apart form the crowd, you’ll always be a face in the crowd. Be Yourself!!
One girl was so focused on what she was doing during the week, the day… the sorority… that she couldn’t see past these girls, these people. She couldn’t see that these people might not be integral part of her life after school. Friends and boyfriends are for a season. Don’t sacrifice the most important things of all for the friends you think are so important now.
Watch the movie “Troy:” “I can’t believe you’re going to fight him. I’d be afraid.” “That’s why no one will ever remember your name.”
Until you’re whole yourself, every relationship is an attempt to complete yourself.
In the heat of the moment decisions, Andy Stanley said, think about years down the road, everything ends up as a story. Think about how you want to tell the story… how you want to be personified in that story. Is that what you’re going to want to tell? That I was a hero? or embarrassed?
Remember that boys have a value, and are an influence. If you can see yourself getting better by that influence, draw in to them. But if it’s destructive, pull away. A boy is worried about sports, cars, chicks, MTV, and girls should understand what’s on a guy’s mind before they commit.
Be someone’s friend first. Dig deep for motives, and who they are as a person. Don’t just stay on surface elements.
When we are in school, most of us- guys or girls- have no idea what love really is. Love really and truly is waking up with your wife in the middle of the night when she’s sick. Holding the bucket because she’s throwing up. In school, it’s all about emotion and status. It’s all about how this beautiful girl or guy likes me. We just don’t comprehend what it means when we are young…that it’s a sacrifice. True love forces you to see your own selfishness- and get past it. That’s where the happiness lies. And oh, man, it’s worth waiting for.
Know that guys will say what they need to land a hot girl.
For a girl, after they feel emotionally secure, then they give in physically. For a guy, they give in physically then they feel emotionally secure. He says I love you, then she misinterprets and gives in physically.
Be careful with perfumes and lotions.
Guys are susceptible to chemical response… watching MTV, watching girls in bikinis; the brain secretes chemicals, and we’re more susceptible to be turned on. Even more when I can smell your perfume. Be careful what perfume you wear around whom.
Don’t engage me in conversation. Don’t leave me. Don’t play with my head… Dicey conversation. Let’s not talk about sex because instantly “I’m there.”
Be careful what you wish for. You might not want the fish you’re baiting. You might get exactly what you’re asking for.
My last roommate got in trouble. My aunt said, “Turn on the TV.” There was my buddy’s mug shot. He was a student teacher at a middle school. There was this young girl who looked 18, fully developed… “jail bait.” When I talked to him he said, “She was doing it to me all week… Whispering things in my ear… Riding home with me. She knew what she was doing.”
Don’t date older guys!
If you’re trying to find your identity, and you start opening physical doors, you’ll never be content. It’s building a foundation on things that won’t last. You can only get so close physically, socially, and emotionally. If that’s all you’re building on, it’ll shatter. If you build on spiritual level, however, you’ll know that contentment you were seeking.
We can see through you. Don’t dress or act like someone you’re not.
Be flirty with them. Don’t be too slutty. A guy wants attention. I know I don’t want a girl that will have sex with me before marriage.
If you’re getting a lot of attention, evaluate. Constantly. Is this the right kind of attention? How do I look in comparison to MTV? To the girl next to me?
Especially in middle school, ask your parents. Listen to them. Your parents do know what’s best for you. There are exceptions, but your family does know what’s best. Find someone who will give you honest and good advice. If they see something, it’s because it’s there.
A lot of books come out telling you how you’re causing men to stumble. Well, sometimes it’s the guys. You can’t be the hunchback of Notre Dame because you don’t want to offend a guy’s eyes. I’ve seen girls with the worst posture because they don’t want guys to lust at their breasts.
Never talk about other guys to your boyfriend. Remember that well.
Don’t go to cars, clubs, parties, and movie theatres… especially when parents are out of town… A guy will sell his soul to hear a girl say that… that scenario… I’m alone in the house… you feel safest and your guard is lowest….
Girls try to change guys to make them like them. Don’t try to change a guy. Won’t work.
Don’t be fake.
Stay true to the one you like
Guys are like this: cheat, don’t show emotions, but not emotionless, do get feelings hurt, they’re controlling, total control of situations…
Stay true to the one you like
Guys won’t laugh at you. Girls might laugh
Don’t cheat with other guys
Stop trying to be what you’re not.
Girls try too hard to impress guys.
Stop being self-conscious.
You’re more valuable than you think. You don’t have to dress and do the things everyone says. You don’t have to perform a certain way to have value. You were lovingly created by a God who adores you.
Be yourself. No fronts… Don’t be something you’re not. Don’t put on a mask that says you’re a girl that’s got it all together. No one does.
Don’t compromise for others.
Don’t be who the world tells you to be.
Wait. So many girls have dated 5 guys in 2 years. He’s the one… every time. This is different. Don’t lie to yourself. You’re not getting married when you’re 13, 14, or probably even 20. Why rip your heart to little pieces and give a piece to everyone?
Yes, definitely. Save your heart. When I come to marriage, and want to give you my heart, I don’t want to give you a mutilated heart that has other pieces given to others. Same thing. Everyone that on honeymoon, every girl you’ve ever been with is there. I don’t want anyone else to be there. Just you.
If every 2 weeks, a different guy… Your limitations should be I can kiss a guy when I’m ready to marry him. If you’ve got a new guy every 2–3 weeks, you’re giving your heart out to all different places. If a girl says she’s a Christian, it’s hard to believe she could be giving her heart to all these different guys.
Warning about guys: We’re: sneaky, bad, vulnerable
Don’t do something you’ll regret later. Make sure you’re comfortable with the decisions you’ll make… Don’t look back and wish you’d done something differently. Don’t do what isn’t comfortable and doesn’t feel right.
The difference…I want to quantify regret… thinking back, I thought it might have been fun. Had I done it, I wouldn’t be where I am now, who I am now… a completely different road would have happened. It might have been the greatest party, but you got a cold and had to stay home, so your life took a different path… Maybe the others decided to try drugs and got in trouble…
Live in the present, but always look toward the future. I’ve been thinking about this a lot because I’m going to college in 8 months. At no other point in life will there be this much freedom. As far as real world standards, it’s low pressure, high freedom. In high school your parents will love you, care for you, help you. But your boss will fire you, leave you, etc. So enjoy and appreciate the freedom, but on that same token, don’t have too much fun because you could answer for it later.
Have integrity.You don’t need to sell yourself to the population by overdoing it on your looks, trying to be someone you aren’t. You won’t be happy if you don’t stay true to yourself. You won’t be happy.
Someone fake is someone I’ll brush away like a bad odor. Imitating another’s personality is not impressive. That’s their identity and you can come up with your own. You feel you’re inadequate. It just shows inadequacy. Be yourself.
Most girls are looking for guys like us…bigger on personality, even though physical attraction is a part of it. But the type of people they’re attracting by dressing how they do will be the guys that are totally into it physically. They’re going with SI and fashion world, attracting the wrong kind of guy, and turning off great guys like us.
My advice would be, don’t pressure a guy to be something he’s not.
If we want to be alone, let us be alone. If we need man time don’t be like, “How come? Why do you feel like this?” Let us have our own little boy time. I come home from a hard day at work, have bills to pay, and maybe a deer hit my car. If the girl is going, “yapp yap yapp,” I’m going to be looking for the duct tape to shut her up!
Jealousy is a big turnoff, even though I do it like crazy myself.
Like a car – do a background check. Don’t be fooled by his outward appearance.
Take it slow and be sure that’s what you want. If doubt, don’t do it…
Laguna Beach… Rent it…. It’ll show you what not to be as a girl.
Prince Charming knew how to treat the princess… He wasn’t fumbling all over his sword. But most guys would be. We would drop it, or trip… We’re trying to be knights, but we’re not good at it yet. Be patient.
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Respect is primary.
Tease, be playful, open-minded, converse. If he’s fun, funny, and unpredictable most likely he’s leading up. Your job is to take his main key- he’ll protect it. Both should play with the ball till the end. Show your respect limit.
Don’t lie or be untrustworthy..always respect their feelings as well
Have respect for yourself.
Be safe and have self respect. Try to remember yourself in a relationship.
I believe to move forward into the world of guys you have to first be trusting of you guy. If you trust him and your not completely clinging to him all the time he will trust you the same. Guys just dont like clingy girls who are so attached they want to know were there guy is and who he is with at all times. They should just let their guy have a life outside the relationship that’s what makes relationships last. The fact that each partner doesn’t get sick of the other because they are not around each other constantly.
I would tell the girls that guys are dumb and some guys will say things that they don’t mean or isn’t true, but respect is the kicker.
Not all guys are the same. Treat each one with respect and don’t think every guy is going to do the same mistakes that your last boyfriend did.
To give and be sure to receive respect. Without it no relationship can last
Mutual respect is the key
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Give guys a chance, because being a guy is tough.
Give guys a chance. We are just as inexperienced as you. And don’t act like someone you are not to impress us.
Not all guys are fat sloppy pigs.There are some who are even afraid of girls and let the girl be the one in charge. There’s guys like me who believe in mutual relationships, and there’s guys who wanna be the boss.
Act like u don’t want them and they will be on you 4ever
If a guy is going to cheat on you or just break up with you then wants to go back out or continue to go out with you just say no because 9 out of 10 there will be trouble again down the road.
Don’t act like a “bad girl” if ur really not cause thats kinda like a invite.
I would tell them that dont be shy there might be a guy that likes them but they might be shy so girls need to be assertive
Don’t be so dramatic- give guys a chance!
Try to remember the term nice guys finish last. You’re always looking for a certain nice guy who won’t use you. But what you don’t notice is that he might be sitting right next to you in one of your classes. Try to give other guys a chance.
Just because they say they love you does not mean they do. Just because they fight over you does not mean they love you. We just love to fight sometimes. Just because you’re a girl it does not entitle you to anything you want.
I would tell them exactly how guys are. That we aren’t exactly as bad as they think.
Not all guys are scumbags.
Being a guy is tough.
Guys in the world for the most part are scum. If you work with them you can make a guy into the kind of guy you want but it takes time and work. Don’t try to be coy with guys. For the most part they won’t get hints. But if you do open the door guys will try to keep going and going and you have to learn to control situations and stop guys at the time that’s best for you. Giving a guy even a little attention here or a little affirmation there goes a VERY long way. Most guys as a general rule have a fear of rejection/failure. If you make any of the first moves with a guy it is the greatest thing you can do for that guy because he no longer has to worry about that rejection because you’ve just accepted him as he is although you may want him to change later.
That I’m just a nice guy who always finishes last.
Find a Nice Guy that hasn’t fell in love before because it is the guys who have fell in love before that may not truly love you. They have been hurt and keep the cycle going. I fell in love three times and each time it hurt and now I am seeing a girl but I don’t love her and have no intention of having a serious relationship with her, despite what she may think. Yes I feel guilty but what can a person do?
Do not write people off. Guys seem simple minded but really they are just as complicated as girls. Give everyone a chance and you’ll find the right one.
Guys are stupid. We will say the wrong thing and/or do the wrong thing at least once per month. However women need to learn that most of these miscues aren’t hidden messages to you. Guys aren’t subtle.
Not all guys just want sex- some actually do want a relationship
That not all guys think about sex. Also that a girl’s past relationships were bad because they went after the bad boy.
Well…I would tell them that there might actually be the right type of guy they’re looking for if they only give this world a chance…what do they have to lose? Only more to gain about what they are really looking for in a guy.
That not all the guys are the same or the way girls imagine them
I would say take your chances with us guys cause you might find the right one.
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Share your inner feelings through communication and honesty.
Give an honest answer. If you want to be with that person, don’t lie. It’ll come back to bite you. And if you tell the truth, you’ll never have to remember what you said.
You never look more like the devil than when you’re lying.
Always be truthful. Don’t tell a guy what he wants to hear. If he finds out, it makes it worse… He’ll be defensive and jealous, and the trust will be shot.
Make sure you give hints to the guy that you are interested in him. Don’t be too subtle, but don’t be so forward so just say I like you. If he doesn’t feel the same way move on.
Let guys make the main decision but talk to them about your opinion. They should be the leaders but only to a certain limit. Express yourself and don’t be afraid of what he might say.
If you really want to know if you’re with the right person, pray with them. Who they are will really come out during prayer. They say you can never lie in a kiss. I say you can never lie in a prayer. The heart comes out.
We’re not mind readers! You expect us to know what we did wrong. Of course we can figure out major mess ups but if there’s small problems we’re not just gonna know them with out you telling us.
Don’t pretend to like guys just to gain something you want. The damage you cause may not be seen but it is most certainly there. There is no reason to do this and in the end you will just wind up making enemies.
Ask a guy if he falls in love fast
We think that girls want us to fix their problems. But we’re finding that you just want us to listen. Help us to listen and hear how you’re feeling instead of doing what we naturally want to do – the fix.
Guys have feelings too and they get hurt. We’re just stupid and pretend nothing happens. Don’t play with us and we won’t play with you.
I would tell them that guys are very open and tell them to be open for opinions.
Don’t always count on a guy to come talk to you. Take the floor and be brave and go talk to him. Don’t think that the guy always has to talk to you first.
That they have to listen to what a guy wants and give us some time to ourselves. We do listen to what you girls say sometimes it is hard for us to show it.
Be honest with us. And just because we want to just hang out with our friends sometimes doesn’t mean that we are cheating on you or don’t want to be with you.
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Guys may not want to stop the sexual progression.
Know who to trust because it is important to have fun but not to let it get carried away
Guys are only looking for one thing. Make sure you know what kind of guy you have, and be very careful. I can stop you if I want to- but you need to make sure you take care of yourself.
Be careful and don’t get into a situation where there is alot of sexual possibilties.
Its ok to say no if the guy is pushing you towards sex If he truly loves and respects you he will stop.
Just because a guy wants to have sex, doesn’t mean you have to do it. It’s your body. The buck stops with you.
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How you look is important to the opposite sex.
Your physical features are important in the world of guys I mean if you are a woman who is obvious in taking care of her appearance, vs. a woman who appears apathetic, you will definitely have the upper hand.
Unfortunately for women the majority that do succeed in the professional world have very un-emotional takes on the world. They put logic before emotion at all costs and due to that are often labeled “mean”. My suggestion is to be professional, be concious of yourself including your appearance (because much of the professional world is still overcoming a long history of shallowness) and actions, and do use logic over emotion but do it without becoming cold-hearted. This allows you to become successful in the professional world while still maintaining the long-established and valued characteristics of a hearty women.
Look your best and the right person will find you
Take care of yourself.
Accentuate what looks good on you. Stop focusing on what most trendy thing is… belly ring… Focus on what is attractive about you, without sleezing out.
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Don’t dress provocatively – it says a lot about who you are.
Don’t make yourself something you’re not with skanky clothes.
Don’t dress immorally.
Don’t pick guys that seem the coolest. They are usually the ones that prefer you to wear less clothing. Its much more important to pick a guy that is funny, smart, and romantic..those are the guys you will want to be with later..not the macho football playing jerks.
Whether you choose to believe it or not guys don’t think everyone should look like a supermodel- it’s not healthy. We just have nice fantasies.
Don’t go out with someone just because they’re “popular” or they’re “hot”. Don’t go out with anyone unless it’s because you like their personality not because you want to be popular.
If you dress too skanky, then guys know you’re afraid to be who you are.
Live modestly. Ask yourself 3 questions: Is this too tight? Too short? Too revealing? If yes, put something else on…The girls a guy most notices are modest… That can really kept them on the hook. A girl that’s comfortable being modest really gets inside a guy’s head.
A 15 year old boy, if he sees any skin, will think you’re hot. You can be booty ugly… but if he sees the bra and short miniskirt, you’re hot…There’s no respect there. We’ll say what we need to say.
Ask: Is my thong showing? Can they see my bra strap through my shirt? Is there a problem if it’s cold?
Don’t expose yourself too much.
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Watch out for the friends!
Don’t be stuck up don’t try to be all that when you really aren’t
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