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The secret to being a wife he adores

The secret to being a wife he adores

In the research for For Women Only and The Kindness Challenge, I’ve seen an overlooked, seemingly old-fashioned secret. If you want to be a wife that your husband adores, practice using an affirming tone and eliminating a contentious one. Tweet this: “If you want to be a wife that your husband adores, practice using an affirming tone and eliminating a…read more →

What you need to do before you have sex with your wife

What you need to do before you have sex with your wife

So, guys, you’ve just had a big fight with your wife and now you’re ready to cool off and mend the relationship. What better way to make up than to spend a little intimate time together, right? Just one little problem, though: physical intimacy is the farthest thing from her mind. What’s the deal? Tweet this: “For a woman, physical…read more →

The Most Horrifying Current Terrorism Event You Don’t Know About

The Most Horrifying Current Terrorism Event You Don’t Know About

Friends, normally, I stick to relationship content. But I think everyone needs to be aware of a recent terror incident in Egypt. Although the Manchester and London terrorist attacks were horrifying, and I’m grateful for the outpouring of support to those families and those cities, I paid far more attention to those incidents than one I also heard mentioned in…read more →

These Four Phrases Will Make You a Hero to Your Wife

These Four Phrases Will Make You a Hero to Your Wife

Guys, I know from the For Men Only research that you want to make your wife happy. And in many ways you already do! But if you want to hit the happiness jackpot, here are the four phrases that (in roughly 80% of cases) will put you into hero category: 1. “Here, let me do that…” Saying “What can I do…read more →

You need to know these four pitfalls for teenage boys

You need to know these four pitfalls for teenage boys

Even after years of researching what is in the heart and mind of men and boys, I still wasn’t quite ready when my pre-teen son began struggling with the same visual temptations as everyone else! In honor of all boys who want to do the right thing, here are four things every mom, especially, needs to know: 1. It starts…read more →

How to Respect An Imperfect Husband

How to Respect An Imperfect Husband

Dear Shaunti, I really struggle with the whole ‘respect your husband’ thing you talk about in your book For Women Only. How do I do that? My husband has a huge amount of pride and is unable to accept any criticism or failure on his part; he always throws mistakes back on me. I can’t help but see him as irresponsible…read more →

This One Sneaky Trap Will Kill Your Marriage

This One Sneaky Trap Will Kill Your Marriage

“If I had heard this a few years ago, I wouldn’t be divorced today.” I can’t tell you how often I have heard that phrase. Most recently last weekend, after the worship services at a mega church in the Midwest. The pastor had interviewed me as the sermon on Restoring Hope for Marriage, and asked what my research shows are…read more →

Here is the simple key to kindness and joy

Here is the simple key to kindness and joy

“Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! Let your gentleness be evident to all… [W]hatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” —Philippians 4:4-5, 8 (NIV) Picture this common scenario. You have been at odds with your spouse…read more →

3 Things Underneath Your Husband’s Desire for Sex

3 Things Underneath Your Husband’s Desire for Sex

Your husband wants sex? 3 things he’s not saying out loud: 1. “I need to feel desirable.”  We women may think sex is just a physical need for a guy, but that’s not most of what is going on. When his wife responds to him – or initiates it herself! – it meets a deep emotional need to feel that his wife…read more →

One simple choice will make you a kinder person

One simple choice will make you a kinder person

Here’s the good news: If you want to be a kind person, the quickest way to get there is to build a habit of praising others regularly. Here’s the bad news: You already think you do have that habit… but you probably don’t. You don’t express affirmation nearly as often as you think. A few summers ago, our family was…read more →