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Two Things You Need to Know About Yourself

Two Things You Need to Know About Yourself

If you’re reading this, I can tell you two things about yourself. First: You think you’re a kind person. Kindness matters to you. You work at being kind, and you do not like the unkindness of others, or how harsh our culture has become. So you’re grateful that you, at least, are not like that. You feel good about being…read more →

Moms, encourage your sons with three essential phrases.

Moms, encourage your sons with three essential phrases.

In more than a decade of research with thousands of men and boys over the years, one thing that has stood out is the power of a mom’s words to build her son up – or (accidentally) tear him down.  Whether your son is five or fifteen, several phrases are a big, big deal.  Here are three: 1. “I’m so…read more →

The Hidden Truth About Venting

The Hidden Truth About Venting

Your co-worker just made you so mad. Or maybe it was your husband who said something insensitive this morning. Or your teenager who rolled her eyes when you asked her to empty the dishwasher. Again. You feel like a pot ready to explode, so you just need to let off a little steam. A few minutes of “can you believe…read more →

What NOT to say to your man – ever.

What NOT to say to your man – ever.

Ladies, if there were a reality TV show like “What NOT to Wear,” but for relationships, these three things would be at the top of the list for “What NOT to say to your man.”  Now, don’t get me wrong; I’ve actually said all these things at one point!  You’ve probably said them, too.    And you probably also saw the…read more →

Don’t forget this simple way to make your wife happy

Don’t forget this simple way to make your wife happy

Dear Shaunti, I’m in hot water. My wife is the most beautiful, amazing woman I know. (I’m sure she’d tell you otherwise, but it’s true.) But I just don’t talk a lot, and it is hard for me to remember to say things like “You look pretty” out loud. Last week, she had an epic melt-down while I was watching TV….read more →

This particular feeling is EXCRUCIATING for men

This particular feeling is EXCRUCIATING for men

Dear Shaunti: My husband is great at many things, but sometimes he struggles with getting a new task accomplished. Like, he’s great at carpentry, but it might take him two or three days to figure out how to create a new type of bookcase I want for the kids’ bedroom. But when I offer an opinion or suggest a solution,…read more →

3 ways viewing porn harms your wife

3 ways viewing porn harms your wife

Men, in more than a dozen years of research about how guys privately think about things like sex and porn use, I’ve seen a striking pattern. Although nearly all men are visually tempted today, and many hate and struggle against the temptation, most of those same men also think of it as a private thing that has nothing to do…read more →

How to respond to teenager attitude without losing your mind

How to respond to teenager attitude without losing your mind

Not that this ever happens. But every now and then our kids (girls and boys) might perhaps display a little attitude. Perhaps it’s an eye roll, a derisive tone, a sudden disrespectful temper. Whatever it is, it’s almost guaranteed to make a parent’s head explode. We of course never did this.  Ever. We were perfect darlings. We can’t imagine where…read more →

Husband acting grumpy and withdrawn? You can change that!

Husband acting grumpy and withdrawn? You can change that!

Ladies, does your man seem to be doing everything right outside of the house, but at home he is often grumpy and withdrawn? Does he seem to be pleasant to everyone but you? Does he get upset over the littlest things you do and say? Do you feel like you are being ignored? If you are nodding yes, yes, yes,…read more →

Every woman desperately wants to hear this essential phrase

Every woman desperately wants to hear this essential phrase

Every little girl dreams of finding her prince and knowing she is his princess. Husbands, you need to know that even after years of marriage, your wife probably still has some of that little girl inside. A little girl who wants to know she is still your leading lady. And one of the greatest ways you can get that truth to “stick”…read more →