Men can’t help but notice attractive women, but you have the power to help him fight temptation.
Helping People Thrive in Life and Relationships
Men can’t help but notice attractive women, but you have the power to help him fight temptation.
Shaunti Feldhahn
P.O. Box 924014
Norcross, GA 30010
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KH says
I’m hearing how men can’t help noticing, recalling, thinking about an attractive woman but not where a woman has power in this. What are we supposed to do? Thank you.
dlicona says
The best thing we can do is pray for our men realizing just what they’re up against in this world out there. Realizing that men are wired this way and just how difficult this can be helps to put it all in perspective. However, the men still have the responsibility to take their thoughts captive and not let them indulge in inappropriate thoughts.
Debbie Licona
Resource Manager for Shaunti Feldhahn
Anon says
I think women may understand a little because I think many have an emotional Rolodex of connections spent with other males (past boyfriends, crushes etc) that is just as tempting to slip into reliving, especially when upset or feel a disconnect with their husbands. So really we woman could probably understand about the need to resist temptation.
I believe both women and men could find some peace around this by knowing that no matter how personal it feels, their spouse’s issue is their issue. Pray for them, that God would fulfil his plan in their life but leave it at that. Another person’s greed for more than they have or their contentment says nothing about the one they are with. King Solomon was greedy for more than God designed men to have and no one woman on the earth could have been enough variety for him – he had an insatiable desire for more. Did those hundreds of wives and concubines fail ? No! It was his issue between himself and his maker. Wives can confidently give from a generous heart knowing that whoever their husband is tempted by in the moment could not even captivate his attention in the face of similar temptation. Pray for his well-being, thank God He made you beautiful in His image and let go and let God.
Alicja says
3 years ago, I found out that men are still attracted to other women even when they are in a relationship! After I found out this information, I decided to stay single for life and I have not looked back since. To me, feeling attraction towards another woman even for a split second is more than platonic and it is perverse and foreign that a man would feel that way if he is already in a relationship.