Launching my new book, Through A Man’s Eyes, with an open letter to leaders

Launching my new book, Through A Man’s Eyes, with an open letter to leaders

July 21, 2015

A Special Letter from Shaunti Feldhahn to Leaders Who Work in the Marriage and Family Arena

Dear Leaders,Through a Man's Eyes

Today I am beyond thrilled to release a book for women called Through A Man’s Eyes, that I hope will help you every day in your work with marriages and families. If you are a counselor, coach, pastor, or other leader, I’m certain you have seen the damage done by pornography and other visual temptations today.

How can a book for women help you as you help others?

Here’s how.  Have you ever sat across from a struggling couple and wished the wife could truly understand why her husband would even struggle with this, how differently his brain is wired, how difficult this culture is for him, and the shame he (presumably) feels?  Have you wished that she could have empathy for him …yet without endorsing any poor choices?  Have you ever seen how many problems could be prevented if a man could be open and transparent with his wife about his challenges…but seen him reluctant to talk about it because “she would freak out?”

Imagine the difference it would make to you – and those you serve – if every woman truly understood a man’s visual nature, the implications, and how to address every aspect of this issue.  Imagine the difference it would make if a husband knew his wife was safe to talk to about it.   And also… imagine what would happen if every mom knew how to protect and help her son in this sexualized culture!

My hope is that this book, based on extensive research, will result in exactly those much-needed outcomes.  Because right now, all too many women are completely in the dark about this important issue, or completely misunderstand it.

I have teamed up with Craig Gross, founder of, to write Through a Man’s Eyes.   In many ways, we wrote it with you in mind.  We want you to have a tool that you can hand to any woman, whether her husband is dealing with pornography or just the normal visual temptations of this abnormal culture.

We view enlisting the understanding, compassion, strength and support of women as a key missing link in solving the porn problem today – a missing link that we’ve all been needing.

I hope this book and this research is a blessing to you in your all-important work with marriages and families.  As always, please let us know if there is anything we can do to support you.

With appreciation,


Please support this book launch by buying your copies today!





A message for leaders from Shaunti Feldhahn and Craig Gross, about Through A Man’s Eyes.


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